What’s the best way to go about this?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been talking to this guy for around 5 months. We hung out one night and had sex. As I was heading home after leaving his house I got in a car accident. I called and texted him that night. He was very caring and concerned. He was distant after that and I can understand. Im sure he was in shock too, So talking was minimal, I rested and got better after 5 days. We met in person and I told him to not feel bad and that it wasn’t his fault and that I enjoyed the time we spent that night and it was good. He seemed pretty emotional after that and said he couldn’t believe it happened to me. I asked him if we could hangout again and he told me yes but with time. We talked alittle more after like how we do. Now its silent , what’s the best approach?

[Anonymous]

My best friend had this happen, and I won’t get into her situation but what I learned is that the aftermath says a lot about the guy. I feel like if he becomes more attached to you then that’s him realizing he cares on a deeper level than just sex/friends with benefits. But if he starts drawing back, it’s almost as if he doesn’t want to be so involved with you. Like he’s enjoyed the casual pace, but adding other elements like checking in a lot, being more attentive and whatnot just isn’t what he’s looking for. I don't know if it brings out vulnerability or something but what I get from his actions is that he’s not the right dude to be investing your time in. You probably won’t respond to this and that’s fine but I do hope you decide to let him loose. No hard feelings to him but just not worth further engagement.

[kylee2437]

So although I think he does feel bad, I think he isn’t as interested as you may think. Maybe he’s holding back rejection because he doesn’t want to deflect and look like a jerk for rejecting you after the car accident situation? I would let this situation go honestly, he should’ve at least rejected you and not prolonged everything even more

[Sparkie460]

I. Sorry about your accident. I'm glad you're ok. If I was him I'd be going to you all the time so you didn't have to drive far or late. I also would have bought you flowers and I get well card.
You can try giving him a call to see where you stand.

[Guy13]

Sorry for your accident. He should have gotten you flowers. He’s a boy-man. Hang in and good luck with insurance

[SexyRedd1966]

Sounds like he just wanted sex and I know you feel you talked 5 months and you were a thing but you would be surprised how long a guy will hang around just to get sex

[SexyRedd1966]

I had a friend once told a guy she doesn't have sex in the first 90 days he hung around she thought they were a thing and he just had sex with her and never talked to her again

[Iron_Man]

This is very weird if anything, he should be very supportive and want to see you a lot how could he be drawn away from people because somebody gets into a car accident