Why do women fall for BAD BOYS?

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I personally believe it’s because they’re RARE. They’re truly a RARE find. It almost feels like finding gold amongst dirt. At least that’s how the female brain perceives it. The bad boy presents behavior that showcases he's got self control unlike most males.  The bad boy is not SIMPING and drooling and acting overly nice. WHICH IS FAKE. A woman then thinks that he's got standards and don't act on  impulse , with every pretty face that he comes across. The woman then thinks it's monogamy. Even if it's an illusion. With the SIMP however, she knows that the SIMP will outwardly drool for every pretty face or body that he comes across given the opportunity. Showcasing his infidelity and impulsivity to everyone. 🤡 The Alpha/ Chad/ BADBOY, behaves with maturity and self control. The SIMP/ BETA behaves with immaturity and lack of control.  But that’s not all. Most of it lies on looks and his physique. If he’s not tall enough or not beefy enough. I’m gonna think you’d loose in a fight and get me and my offspring k—ed. ———————————————— If you don’t want to work into becoming an Alpha/ Chad. Don’t even bother. Stick to your P—RN . 🖕 That’s yet another thing that the CHADS don’t do. They don’t watch XXX. They don’t need to.  🖕

Makeushiver · Accepted Answer

I read of a pretty comprehensive study done in the UK. What their study asked women to describe the ideal husband and their ideal lover. In most socio-economic groups the description for each was almost identical. However in the higher income, more educated segment of the survey they diverged. As income and education were greater so was the diversion.

The women who lived in Mayfair & vicinity described their ideal husband; kind, thoughtful, had well-paying job/career, reliable, respectful, well-groomed & dressed. The description of the sex life they envisioned- they didn't say referred) was described as "missionary, some toys, an occasional blow job

The ideal lover was described as: scruffy, volatile, passionate, jealous ( I was surprised by that/ Jealousy may be a bit of a boost but too big of a chance of being sociopathic). Neatness was very important for husband but not at all for lover, impetuousness. The sex they envisioned with a lover included his giving her head every time and getting her off as many times as she could, anal, various positions but most of all doggy style- the last three were not even mentioned in the description of husband sex

After completing UK study, the researchers tried in France, Germany ( a few other countries I don't remember). In any case their data showed that women who were from conservative cultures, had less education and less income wanted very similar characteristics in either husband or lover. Women in the highest percentile of education and income looked for completely different qualities

I'd love to hear response. Sorry I do not remember name or magazine as I didn't think it would be on the test.

Pegases · Accepted Answer

There are two types of masculine men. Some women fall for masculine men that treat them like trash such as the typical bad boy, because on a subconscious level they don't feel like they deserve or can keep up with the competition going for higher quality men. Bad boys are simply trash human beings, that display masculine qualities. What you're attracted to is the masculine qualities, not necessarily bad boys. Now what dictates which type of masculine man you're attracted to most, always boils down to the love, or lack of love you that you have for yourself. Most women don't realize how deeply rooted the kinds of people you're attracted to is to your upbringing.

TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Immaturity.

They think it's COOL to be with a bad boy/jerk until the bad boy/jerk HURTS them, THEN they will realize it's not so cool to be with them!

Also, some people have self-worth issues that they need to address.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I used to, but not anymore. I fall for boys that i can see fatherly side from them because im at the phase where i want to focus on building my little family, now that i have got my career safe and aligned.

Deliciouscookies · Answer

As a young woman in my early twenties, I can share my perspective on why some of my peers might be drawn to "bad boys." I want to emphasize that this is my personal opinion, and not all women feel the same way.

From my observations, some women are attracted to "bad boys" because they exude a sense of confidence that can be alluring. These men tend to be self-assured and unapologetically themselves, which can be refreshing in a world where many people try to conform to societal expectations. There's something intriguing about someone who is so comfortable in their own skin. Another aspect is the sense of adventure that "bad boys" can bring. They often live in the moment, not worrying about the consequences of their actions. This can be exhilarating, for women who are looking for a break from their mundane routines.
Some women may also be attracted because they embody rebellion. These men tend to be rule-breakers and push the boundaries of what is acceptable, which can be appealing to someone who feels restricted by societal norms.

That being said, I want to stress that we are not all attracted to "bad boys", and I don't believe that "bad boys" are necessarily the best partners for a fulfilling relationship.

Anonymous · Answer

Women want “bad guys” because they are rare? Really?
Like gold in the dirt? Really?

But then women chase assholes and complain that all men suck.

Maybe chasing assholes is the problem.

Yes, ”Bad guys” are assholes. You want to be treated like you don’t matter? Treated aggressively? Abused? Cheated on? Etc.

I am no simp, beta, or cuck. Those types of men are pathetic. But “bad boys” are not alpha. An alpha doesn’t have to act like a douchebag or a thug. Those guys are fake alphas and generally call themselves alphas. Which is worse than a cuck to be honest. A manchild who acts like an overly aggressive boy to try and prove he is “masculine”.

A real alpha doesn’t need to prove himself. He doesn’t need to act aggressive, or loud, commit crime, be a thug.

and a mans height has nothing to do with strength. Nor does his thickness.

Bruce Lee was a skilled fighter and was tiny.

The Rock is gigantic but not a fighter.

skill is more important than mass.

Finchie40 · Answer

Most Women in general always want what they don’t have , making women selfish humans , for a guy to keep a girl by his side he has to play good guy bad guy and balance that or she will lose interest in him and go get railed by some douchebag that that just wants his dick wet telling her everything she wants to hear so he can bang her , little does she realize that guy banging her isn’t going to keep her once he realizes she cheated on her current partner for him , No guy will stay committed to a girl that can cheat on her current partner , he looks at her like she is a whore and will kick her back to the street where she belongs , she will try to go back to her ex that she cheated on and if he is smart , don’t take her ass back period, She is a selfish whore

Backnforth · Answer

Just from what I've heard in many conversations with female friends, girls just want to have fun (generally speaking).

Boredom is a huge turnoff for many, and a bad boy who brings some edginess, excitement, and unpredictability into the equation keeps the heart beating and makes you feel alive. This kind of excitement isn't limited to just bad boys, obviously, as any guy with character and personality who is interesting can have this effect. But I think it's one of the main reasons why bad boys are seen as a viable and attractive option for many women.

the_bruh · Answer

I personally think women are attracted to fk boys because of the way they dress, carry themselves and act. It's like they're way too calm around women that women feel like they know how to please and treat a woman. Most guys are afraid to talk to women, trust me when you actually talk to guys whom you don't usually talk to. I think you'll be surprised.

PraviteliNahuiValite · Answer

They chase males with the most testosterone. Who happen to be mostly fuck boys in today's soyciety. Not all for sure, as there are soy-fed fuck boys whom I'm sure they don't like. And disciplined men with high testosterone must be just as attractive.

whirled_up_girl · Answer

I'm still not entirely sure what a bad boy is. Is he like a criminal in and out of jail, like a drug dealer or gang member? Is he just a low life with loose morals? Is he a tough guy who has tatoos, piercings and rides a motorcycle? I seem to hear people say lot but I would need an example to see what they are talking about. From what you describe it seems to be more of an attitude or persona that a guy presents.

Anonymous · Answer

It's because heros sacrifice you for the world, a bad boy will sacrifice the world for you. Put simply. Also bad boy is a rebel to me not necessarily an abusive person no one wants that.

Hallix26 · Answer

Seems quite accurate. But the ideal of course has always lain with the medium, not the weak simp nor the savage "bad boy" but the gentleman, a man capable of violence but who chooses restraint and peace, to the extent that it depends on him. As Jordan Peterson himself said; a harmless man isn't a good man, a good man is one who is dangerous who chooses to not be a tyrant.

dragoblack · Answer

Because they know what they want, and there's the thrill of doing things that you know you shouldn't (like the thrill of drinking alcohol in your teens), that is an attractive trait for many people... the problem is women who are used to abuse and want drama in their life tend to subconsciously and out of habit, pick abusive guys like that while ignoring the red flags.

genericname85 · Answer

guess why the bad boy is not simping and drooling. cause he knows he's gonna pump and dump you. the simping and drooling is a sign that they actually want you. so if you get turned off by that, then it's your problem for getting with a "bad boy" xD

Pohjolan · Answer

The bad boy presents behavior that showcases he's got self control unlike most males. ------ and don't act on impulse, If this was true then bad boys wouldn't have such tendencies to get into trouble with the law.

stoicity · Answer

In short a guy on a purpose. I'm gonna have to deny on the physical appearance thought, real men are more mentally strong than physically. They know how to use their connections to protect themselves. They are Sherlocks.
Reference - peaky blinders, Thomas Shelby.

Adaeva · Answer

They don't! Instead they fall for hot guys that happen to be bad boys.

angelineflower · Answer

I fell for one of those mainly bc he was rude to everyone except me and I found that intriguing, but my type is mainly more bookish boys rn!

inhua · Answer

it definitely explains why there are women out there defending andrew tate just like there were women who defended ted bundy, jeremy meeks and cameron herrin

blondfrog · Answer

The more you tell someone they can't have the forbidden fruit the more they will want it male or female. Page 1 of the Bible and Quran.

AdithyaR · Answer

Is there any category besides these? I don't identify with a simp but I'm not a bad boy either. I'm just me. Is there any kind of person aside from these?

Assi2k · Answer

Because they're self-assured/confident enough to live by their own rules. They won't conform or follow anyone else's rules!

Anonymous · Answer

Because some of them are kind of irresistible.

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