Why are most women attracted to “bad guys”?

Question

Do they think they can fix them through a good relationship or something?

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

They tend to be masculine, exciting, dangerous, plus the drama. We women love drama especially in our early teens and twenties.

I date a real bad boy in my teens who was older, I was 15 and he was 25. I remember one time I was dating another guy closer to my own age for a month after breaking up with him. He saw me at a party with this guy and came over with his buddies and struck the guy on the head and he fell down, then kicked him in the stomach three times and he soiled himself and cried. 10 minutes later in front of all my school friends and my date he pulled up in his car and demanded I get my fat stupid ass in the car. I was so angry but I don't know why but I looked my date straight in the eye and told him that I was sorry but I was going with my ex. It was like he owned me I had angry amazing sex with him that night.

Another time at a friend's house party I was upstairs having sex with a different new boyfriend I was dating and my ex found out. Anyway we were doing it missionary style and it usually didn't take him long as I was his first and as he was about to cum my ex out of nowhere hits him on the jaw from behind and knocks him out and throws him the floor where he ejaculated all over himself. I was so pissed off but my ex just grabbed me and even though I said no and tried to fight him off he bends me over and has his way with me, i screamed for help but nobody came to help, they just looked in from the still open door as he forced himselfon me. Still aroused from the previous sex and even though I was being watch I came three times and even squirted on the bed. When he was done he just pulled his trousers up and walked out the door with me crying with my ass still up in the air and cum running down my thighs. My then boyfriend tried to have assault and rape charges filed but nobody would testify including me.

It went on like this for a few years until he went to jail for murder by then he was with my younger sister as well as me.

Guccigabbana18 · Accepted Answer

I only liked bad guys when I was younger and more immature than I am now. I liked them because in my mind, they were more exciting/unpredictable and I wasn't looking for a longterm commitment or anything. I just wanted short-term flings and bad guys were perfect for that since I don't trust them.

I also used to like the idea of trying to "tame" a bad guy. It was a boost to my self-esteem that someone who was seemingly difficult to get would be into me. It was more of an achievement, even if subconsciously.

That was until I found confidence on my own, and realised I don't need guys' validation to feed my ego. Now I only date men who are mature and kind. Not pushovers, but "good" guys who are confident as well. People I would be friends with first.

Unit1 · Accepted Answer

Let's just take the simple route and not make it too complex to understand.

The women, who love these "bad guys" obviously "love" being abused for some reason. Why else are the "bad guys" getting them so often? Why else are they complaining about men being jerks? Why else are they asking "where are all the good men?"?

When they say one thing (having had enough of being treated like dirt) but to the other (go after the "bad guys"), you know damn well, that actions speak louder than words.

We do what we love. I love going to the beach, which is why I am at the beaches.
They "love" getting abused, so they keep going after the "bad guys".

I don't like smoking, so I don't smoke. What do they do when they say?

The bad guys get away with it and women view (or rather confuse) their actions as "confident" rather than abusive.

We have a somewhat accurate term for that and it's called Stockholm Syndrome in some cases.

I give you credit, you guessed one of the reasons they go after "bad guys" with the hopes of changing them. You can guess how it ends up.

Sunssong · Accepted Answer

Bad guys stimulate their mind.  Nice guys don't do that.  That's why women often call them boring. Boredom is simply a lacking in subconscious activity. That's why people love movies and social media. Because those things hijack your nervous system and control the subconscious mind.  Mind meaning inner activity or movement.  Which ever you date...  You're gonna lose  because most people aren't playing by the winning rules. 100% of relationships problems spring from a lack of a conscious, joint vision and remaining unwavering to that vision. The progressive realization of such a vision is key to fulfillment (growth) and a long lasting relationship.  All the honeymoon phase is subconscious stimulation.  However, if you don't understand the mind, creating a vision isn't going to help you because most don't know how to change programming.  You can wanna lose weight and still never do it or keep it off.  Nice guys don't go after girls that want them. Bad guys only go after girls that want them.

ManOnFire · Answer

Fixing them is part of it for some women, yeah. Women who think they're too good for decent men will pick lower value men and think they can change him for the better, when that very rarely ever happens. But they think this because it gives them a sense of superiority or importance to feel like they're above a guy morally and can try to fix him.

But in general I think most women confuse bad guy behavior with confidence, while trying to label any guy who is good as a pathetic "nice guy," which is just their excuse for wanting badness. They try to explain it away as an attraction to dominance, confidence, etc. but women are well aware that a man can still be dominant and confident and good and decent at the same time, but in their hearts they want what's bad, so they choose the bad men.

jennifer_bloom · Answer

Girls want a guy that is willing to interact with them and embrace them and nice guys might be less affectionate cause they are delayed in sexual expression than bad guys. Some girls don't know the difference between attachment and love so when a guy acts like he wants them, they confuse that with affection and love.

Pinay_ako · Answer

I’m not attracted to bad guys. But I like him to be my own nasty man.

coachTanthony · Answer

It gives them that rollercoaster of emotions they so crave and call it love.

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Because we know how to lay pipe. We know how to make a woman feel like a woman in bed. We are not afraid to take the lead in the bedroom instead of her having to teach him how to be a good lover. For us that cums natural.

Nice guys are just too soft and can’t protect women from all the dangers that they face.

Being a “Bad Boy” doesn’t equate to being a dick, an asshole, a bar room brawler, a batterer, an emotional or mental abuser, or any other stereotype.

It means handling your shit, not being a damn man child, giving your woman space while not neglecting her either. Letting her know that shit has been or will be dealt with. When she is with you, no one will even think of harassing her and if one does outside of your presence; she will let her MAN know so he can go make sure it doesn’t happen again. He has to be a strong, father figure, rather being soft and lazy forcing her to be momma and daddy.

He makes a life for her so she can live up to her natural femininity.

hahahmm · Answer

Probably because most women today are lower quality than in the past since all they focus on in relationships with men is their ability to give sex while previous generations of women had much, much more since they actually bothered to value men's preference for more.

That said, I don't know if 'most' women would actually OPENLY get with a 'bad guy' type but many do get with such types. These women are thrill seekers who want to avoid as much responsibility as possible and a quality guy would hold her accountable for way more things than whatever little bit the bad boy type requires. A quality woman is able to be more responsible and thus meets the requirement for being in a serious relationship.

inhua · Answer

it doesn't matter what type of man a modern woman would get, she'll always find some way to complain about him

nice guys are too boring. bad guys are too immature

ugly guys are too disgusting to look at. hot guys get too much attention from other girls

dumb guys can't follow orders. smart guys can't be manipulated

emotional men are too sissy. stoic men are too toxic and uncaring

a guy with no options is a loser. a guy who options is a cheater

even the most seemingly perfect men aren't so perfect when their wife drags through divorce e. g. Tom Brady, Channing Tatum, Brad Pitt, Jason Momoa etc.

for bad guys specifically, they need to be attractive because an unattractive bad guy is seen as the worst person to ever exist

Puppystarfish23 · Answer

It's not but we are attracted to bad guys it that we are not attracted to "nice guys" woman can see through ball shit and respect honesty.

It comes off creepy and soon gets boring when all a guy does is tell you how wonderful you are 24/7 and tries to constantly prove himself just so you'll give them a chance it also looks desperate and it's not always so nice when you find out that guy was just being nice because he expected something out of it

I'd rather have a guy who says it how it, is confident enough himself but he doesn't feel like he needs to put a act on and can just be ture to himself. It also keeps us girls on are toes when a guy teases us abit and makes fun out of us instead of telling us are shit smells of roses

ronaldo75 · Answer

Women enjoy drama and negativity. It's the reason metaphysics calls negative energy female and positive energy male. Negative energy breaks things apart and positive energy builds. EVERYONE has seen a woman make excuses for not getting out of an abusive relationship. EVERYONE has seen a woman make excuses for not making the moves that will end a drama-filled scenario. EVERYONE has seen a woman call a nice guy "boring" because he won't argue or fight with her. EVERYONE has seen a women get sexually turned on after a domestic violence situation. EVERONE has seen a women get sexually turned on after an intense fight with their boyfriends. EVERY man has had a woman fuck the soul out of his dick after a good fight during makeup sex. EVERYONE has seen a women try and bait two guys into fighting so she can fuck the winner.

You live long enough and deal with enough women and you'll learn that they absolutely love friction. Love it.

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

It’s more of a fantasy than anything. “Bad guys” in the real world are usually ex-cons, abusive sorts, they know how to manipulate someone to give them the relationship they want and know how to break a woman down to make her believe she has no other options. But the fantasy of a bad boy that wants to protect you and be vulnerable while also being a stronger character is a fun book trope

Kiss_Me · Answer

Bad boys exhibit many of the character traits that attract women. Unfortunately, many only see the mean or derogatory side.

Observe the guys around you that are successful with women. They will have similar character traits but are not assholes.

There is a lesson to be learned...

D_Bone_Steak · Answer

From what I understand it is an addiction to the butterflies, the drama, and all the feels.

I mean how many times do we have to see or listen to a chick saying she has to cheat because she was simply bored? Yet they'll claim they want boring.

Their actions speak louder than their words. They go for these guys for entertainment purposes. They won't admit to it, but that's what it is about.

FreyaRed · Answer

It's not the bad in those guys have but their often pretended confidence. Personally I despise guys without impulse control as well as mental and physical sadists, those are really bad guys.

Men love to complain in current society but no one is born with wisdom of 40 yo. person, this in same way valid for girls who make wrong partner choices.

devilish-cutie · Answer

Because they usually posses very desired qualities, like being confident, brave, fun, mysterious, interesting, exciting... however for me personally i cannot say i really fall for bad guys, i dont like players or arrogant men... fucked up ones on the other hand unfortunatelly yeah, i guess cause of shared traumas...

richardcory · Answer

I think many women are attracted to the bad-guy FANTASY, not the reality. The Hollywood "bad guy" who was misunderstood - who really is noble and strong, just a little rough around the edges. Very few are attracted to actual bad guys.

I expect most women quickly realize that reality rarely matches that fantasy.

lilyanony1 · Answer

Bad guys have options.
They're good looking, they're also exciting.

Most people don't want to be stuck with a person that has nothing going on in their lives.

It's important to be outgoing and appear to be in high demand apparently.

But why would you want a woman that wants that guy? Is it because she's equally like him?

So it's not most women, it's women that are attracted to men like that.

JustMeL120 · Answer

Bad guys are attractive because they are fearless. And actually the girls who go for bad guys have similar traits they are also fearless. That why they are often the women who appear really confident. I myself have no sense of fear. So I go for the sosiopaths because they also have to sence of fear. But that's at the top end of the spectrum.

sage2021 · Answer

Yeah, the bad boys have that certain vib that attracts some women. These guys make us feel protected - which now a days, we do need protection. He's the kind of guy that has your back. If anyone messes with you, he goes and messes up that guy.

They do give your brain stimulation as well. Like something is always going on.

The one thing that I am not sure about is if he will take his gruffness out on the woman is he's mad about something?

Haiatso · Answer

It seems to be the underlying traits that are expressed.

1.) Confidence, 2.) Leadership, 3.) Determination

These are the main traits that are sought out in a male partner. Interestingly enough the "BAD GUY" factor is not really a factor.

If a "GOOD GUY" shows these same traits by showing CONFIDENCE in his values, being a righteous LEADER and DETERMINED to stop all evil, then he too will attract women the same way. I would even argue more than a typical "BAD GUY"

Simslover92 · Answer

I wouldn't say most women but some women, moreso girls find bad guys attractive because their alluring and have that mysterious charm going for them that they don't realize is just smoke and mirrors and really just someone who is usually emotionally unavailable, damaged and has major issues that can't be fixed unless they choose to fix them themselves.

Yeah I've been there and done that. So not worth it. Give me a good guy anyday!

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

They have confidence and women like confidence. You can be a well put together man who’s kind to everyone and still attract women just as much, if not more, as the “bad boys”

If you lack confidence, women will know you’re not secure within yourself.

Anonymous · Answer

I am a good man. Maybe even a great one. And I have hooked up with drug dealers girlfriends/strippers and so on. Become a man of value that's my advice. Plus it's easier to kick a "bad guy" out of her life when the spell wears off. Just watch a woman thow out trash when she really likes someone of value.

Vegasrunner · Answer

It's a combination of two reasons. The first is because women themselves don't understand what they are attracted to. So it confuses them when they become attracted to someone society tells them isn't good for them. The second is because "bad" is a subjective term and what women are really attracted to are men that prioritize themselves first and place women lower on the pecking order.

Anonymous · Answer

I dont know why, but that is so true. Even girls are attracted to toxic guy might be they think that these guys are more masculine strong as they have attitude and strong aura around them and these guys never gives importance to anyone and how they interact with others. Mostly nice guys seems more feminine and caring so thats why it's turn off.

shades777 · Answer

Everyone is giving long winded documentary style explanations when it can be summed up like this:
bad boys are fearless, intimidating, unpredictable...
women translate this as confidence, protection and excitement however...
when men hear it they think criminal, bully, and dangerous.
But women say nice guy what she actually means is a confident, exciting, and protective man not a passive, dull, weak man.

kakaling · Answer

Because 90% of women are "beta" type.

"Bad guys" just seems like "alpha", when they flop it, they are called "losers".

There are good guys "Alpha" and "Sigma", but these are so rare, girls will fight for them.

Miristheiss · Answer

They exude confidence, charisma, strength, boldness, not caring to please people, they could take the woman or leave her... he isn't a simp, he may be exciting... etc.

He is probably good looking too.

Daniela1982 · Answer

Because they like being treated like shit and feel that they deserve it apparently.

Count_de_Monte_Volo · Answer

Bad guys kept their manliness. Nice guys put it away because women asked for “nice guys” and putting away one’s manliness is what nice guys think being nice means. The nice guys should release their manliness.

RolandCuthbert · Answer

Because "bad guys" exude confidence. And "good guys" ain't "good".

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Maybe they're only looking for a short term thing. Like guys looking for short term female flings as well.  It's just one of those things  🥳

Anonymous · Answer

Women aren’t attracted to bad guys but guys that are attractive so they don’t wanna leave them even if their behaviours are wrong. Imagine a guy is not so attractive and also bad behaviours, do women still want them? No.

MementoMori777 · Answer

I stopped hiding mine with kindness and it's much better I gotta say, I don't know why but I know it works

RavVid · Answer

A common theme of female porn, i. e romance novels, is they tame a guy into being socially acceptable devoted to her

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Because usually a "bad guy" is very confident which is what women like. They don't really like an actual bad guy who is disrespectful.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Because they are bad girls, aka bitches, also, it's not most of them, just some, and nice girls like nice guys. Bitches are not marriage material (they aren't even friend material).

YourExLover69 · Answer

Maybe their bad luck.  Or they see just physical appearance and wealth of a guy but don't see and focus on the behavior, attitude of guy and can't predict future.

Babygirl_S · Answer

I love good guys 🥰

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

They aren't. They're attracted to people who are sure of themselves. They're attracted to confidence.

Jazzy54 · Answer

Yes and that has broken many women’s hearts over the years. It’s a false assumption that a woman change a man. This isn’t a movie.

Minahh · Answer

Nice boys are shit either so who were supposed to like? Orangutans are a better option at this point.

annabananna · Answer

I think some girls like to fix them and be the one they changed for. For some they just like the excitement.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Attention. Girlies want a challenge, task, restoration, and/or a project. Bad guys represent all of these almost simultaneously. For her and the insane mind she has.

exitseven · Answer

I always figured that they had self esteem issues

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe the real reason is because they don't love God or themselves so are only attracted to those who do not love God and themselves...

Cubus · Answer

Natural instinct. Females see bad guys as strong ones, who would pass strong genes to their children.

Rangers · Answer

Well, yeah. You nailed it, they hope they can fix him, but they don't learn from their mistakes, so the cycle continues

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Typically younger women like guys like this because they are lots of fun but these type of dudes are just for short term relationships only.

Twalli · Answer

Yea, they believe that bad boys will change with a good woman, and they believe that they are that woman.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

bad boys are common.. they are everywhere but good boys are hard to find. good boys have money also. maybe if she is poor or abandoned she will find bad boys available easily.

Anonymous · Answer

I think the girls who are attracted to the “bad guys” are immaturely developed.

mommymommymommy · Answer

The immature, like the immature. That's why the IMMATURE girls like the BAD (immature) men

LiamJHayden · Answer

Most women are attracted to non-boring guys, not necessarily just bad guys.

Anonymous · Answer

They're immature plain and simple. Any woman that picks a so-called "bad boy" over you. Be thankful, she actually did you a favor.

lorenzomichael · Answer

Because we're adventurous, exciting and don't give a shit.

OddBeMe · Answer

What’s the definition of a “bad guy”? Because I would say criminal…

Pink0123 · Answer

I'm not that's asking for trouble. For other woman they might come off as cool. But it's not cool when they get mistreated or cheated on.

Abdulwahh · Answer

Women are merely attracted to there character strengths such as : high confidence. High social status. Care free. Etc.

Katrina1987 · Answer

They aren’t type let people walk all over them. They then be ones with a backbone.

SpaceGalaxy · Answer

bad guys smell like sweat good guys smell like soap

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