How to better understand and control my jealousy with my boyfriend? Particularly with social media?

[Anonymous]

So my boyfriend is a lawyer. He works with several clients and does property and litigation. A lot of his clients are artists and other business owners. He uses Instagram as a means to connect. There are several artists who are girls that he follows and they follow for client purposes. There isn’t anything going on and 90% of the time I don’t feel jealous. There is one artist who creates textiles but she has a separate only fans page and also posts on her main Instagram almost all nude at times. This bothers me because he follows her. He doesn’t “like” the photos and I don’t find I’m jealous of her, just the fact that he sees a pic of a partially naked woman weekly. Logically I know she isn’t a concern, but it bothers me. How do I address this internally?

[lucasnabizada]

Ok... I'm a law student in second year rn...

I'm letting you know... I don't know what BAR association he's registered with... But as far as i'm concerned, this is really SUS lmao.

Instagram is NOT a proper place to interact with clients or to have any kind of professional Lawyer/Client relashionship.. It's in fact very inappropriate. You said he works property and litigation-so he's not an agent for them personally and there's no need to have Instagram contacts, can you ethically, probably, still very suspicious and sounds very much like an excuse to me.

I don't want to make you more paranoid and by the way if you totally trust him etc good for y'all.. This just sounds unusual for me

[Asker]

But some of the girls have husbands and some are like definitely not women he’d be into

[Asker]

I think he was trying to bring in new clients

[lucasnabizada]

K very good...

For the sake of argument i'm letting you know what you said means nothing, as a guy husband or not etc if there was a way I could chat and get with girls, I would. I AM NOT saying he is/wants to cheat however I have trouble swallowing that he goes on insta to look at photos of women "FOR WORK" cmon lmao

[Asker]

One was even gay. So I don't know. I appreciate your answer and any more info you can provide though.

[Asker]

No but their photos aren’t of them majority of time. It’s their art pages. He networks and finds clients by their mutual friends. I think he thinks he’ll get a good reputation if he’s friendly to them. Some of these women really aren’t women he’d go with, meaning they’re really really not attractive

[Asker]

This is the only one who posts herself, which is why it bothers me.

[Asker]

I guess maybe I over-exaggerated too. There were only about 5 girls total. 2 were gay, 1 was married and then one was this girl and her art friend as well

[KrakenAttackin]

Men are visual creatures. Your job is to keep your man's attention so he doesn't want other women.