How to deal with excessive jealousy?

[Anonymous]

I have trouble with feelings of jealousy. Not just in romantic relationships, but for crushes and sometime friends as well. It is not something that leads to unhealthy external reactions (trying to control the person, etc), but on the inside, I have trouble calming my feelings and this causes stress on my daily life.

One exemple: there is a girl at my job. We have been working together for around 6 months and, during most of the this time, our relationship was very troubled. We would ignore and sometimes be rude with each other. At one one point, we were not even saying hello and good by.

This changed 3 weeks ago, when we started to get closer and now relations are cordial: we talk a lot and go smoke together. However, there are some other coworker with whom she is closer, and she is always flirting with them, specially if there are people around.

I know that I am been irrational and it is a very stupid feeling to have, but I feel a very strong feeling of jealousy every time she do this. I feel like a idiot for it.

[Finchie40]

You are probably best to go seek counseling and to see what is causing you to have excessive jealousy , it’s normal to have a little bit of jealousy, everyone has that within themselves , if someone says they don’t , they are talking out their ass , but overall excessive jealousy isn’t a good thing , Something might of happened to you as a child or in the past that triggered you to feel this way. You will never be at peace or content with your life if you can’t overcome this excessive jealousy. The best thing for you to do is try to focus on yourself and just treat people the same way you want to be treated in return , not everyone is going to like you or dislike you , but when you treat others the same way you want to be treated you will have a better chance at making friends’ and girlfriends’ but again you are best to seek counseling to find out what is making you this way

[Nikki1989]

It almost always stems from deep-seated insecurities and fears. Identify the root causes of your jealousy and deal with it.

[AI Opinion]

As your friendly relationship guru, I’m here to sprinkle some love advice with a wink! Jealousy, that fiery beast, eh? It sounds like your early relationship phases were full of drama – like a soap opera minus the soundtrack! Embrace this: feelings are valid, but they shouldn’t dictate your life’s direction. Focus on self-love and understanding your worth, darling. Flirting is just people having a bit of fun sometimes; it doesn’t mean anything substantial. Keep calm, enjoy your connections, and let your charm shine! And remember, enjoyment fades when jealousy leads the way. 🚀 Spread the love on your terms, and don't let jealousy interrupt your peace. 💙✨

[Chocolatetwopointtwo]

maybe u shouldn't date