Should I add him since I removed him?

[Anonymous]

Should I add him again since I removed him because he annoyed me. But he didn’t remove me bavk until weeks later so maybe he didn’t want to remove me straight away

[Anonymous]

Why, so you can remove him again in a few days or weeks? Learn how to manage and express yourself in healthier ways first, that behavior is too immature to expect anyone to tolerate.

[Asker]

Well if he doesn’t message or reply yeah….

[Asker]

Well maybe you can’t 😂

[Opinion Owner]

You’re going to make yourself look manic or something. Like it’s fine if you’re annoyed that he didn’t reply but you should’ve just left it alone, not delete him. Because now you’ve thought better of it when you should’ve just chilled on that in the first place.

[Asker]

Yeah it was he left it on for at week plus that’s why I thought what was the point but yeah he did take 2 weeks to remove me back might have noticed it before but probably didn’t remove until weeks later I guess but yea

[Opinion Owner]

Even besides it just being a bad idea on your part to add him again, what is the point? Don’t you want a guy who actually puts effort into pursuing you? There’s no way he should be able to leave you on read for over a week, make no attempts at having a date or even checking in with you, and yet it’s still on your mind to circle back to him. You should bump up your standards and expectations with men, don’t settle for bare minimum. Hell it’s not even bare minimum that he’s doing at this point, girl.

[Asker]

Exactly why I removed him before you said I’m being immature

[Asker]

So I should not?

[Asker]

But then I don’t understand why he talks about me to friends asking about me etc

[Opinion Owner]

Yes, I said it’s immature to be deleting because you’re annoyed then going back. Is it immature to delete a guy because he’s not a good match and then staying away? No, there is a big difference. Who knows why he’s mentioned you to his friend, but actions speak louder than those words and if he’s leaving you on read for over a week and not trying to engage with you then clearly he is not as interested as you think. There’s nothing wrong with that, he just isn’t worth the energy, in that case.

[Asker]

Hmm yeah I get it I’ll be joining in the summer I guess I’ll see what happens then I don't know 🤷‍♀️ 😅and if he does ask about it then should I tell him why I did that

[Guy13]

Dependent upon annoyance and whether he knew or did it purposefully

[Asker]

I don't know but he was asking for my number but won’t give his then calls me on private …. But then his friends kept asking me if I miss him and I heard he asked if I acc left the job so I don't know