Plase tell me what I have done wrong here?

[Anonymous]

Uhm i have been talking to this one guy (for a month now) that says he likes me very mutch. He have said he loves me and so on (and i loke him too so we went into relationship last night) but there is this one weirs thing that whenever i suggest to call eachother he at first would agree on the time but then when the time comes up he is just coming up with different reasons for not to call (like going to shower, then drying his hair l, then he bunt his hair) and now it has been a few hours since he last texted and he is not reading any of my texts. There was this one time were he was the one that wanted to call but at that time couldn't talk and had personal reasons, i still said that i can't talk and the subject was down but i think he might be getting back at me for it? Should i be worried that he is playing with me or what is wrong with me? Maybe all the love letters and stuff were all fake and just to make fun of me? Plase help. Im very confused.

[Anonymous]

Almost certainly what is going on here (because it is extremely common for both males and females) is that you are not validating yourself and instead are seeking external validation, in this case from this relationship, so when you don't get the attention that you feel you need, or expected, you get hurt.

I suggest you work on being your own source of love and validation so that you are not dependent on others, this is a requirement for a healthy relationship anyway.

There are plenty of resources online about this, most should be saying the same sorts of things so find one which presents the information in a way that you like.

As long as the message is something along the lines of taking responsibility for you own thoughts, actions, feelings etc and being kind and supportive to yourself inside your mind.

[Guy13]

Text is information exchange which is once a day. Call if you care to discuss something meaningful. We guys have lives to live etc... Do not continually text me all day or you will be on Read and maybe even Ghosted. Talk face to face and things will go much smoother than trying to communicate but avoid via texting.

[spartan55]

This is a case study for why texting is a horrible way to communicate. It sucks, and guys get this for the most part. Girls on the other hand put a ridiculous amount of value on it.

[Pizzette_]

I think you two should have conversation face to face in order to find out whether he is faking something or not

[Pizzette_]

@Sonjita are you here? I'm an old friend of you

[Anonymous]

Stop wasting your time with texting.