Why won’t he introduce me to his coworkers?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend and I have been together for four years, we’re serious about each other, live together and have plans of marriage. Two years ago he started a new job where he has a very close group of friends, they go out a lot, especially to parties. He is a very nice guy, I’m very close to his family and all of his friends know about me, so why do you think he hasn’t introduced me to his coworkers? He says he will do it when the right occasion arises but it’s been two years and he hasn’t made the effort to do so.

[melanieeeB]

Aren't they just work colleagues? I would also not introduce my partner to my work colleagues and we do go out too but it's cause the company wants you to be social and shit

[Asker]

They are his colleagues but also very good friends, they go out partying together because they enjoy it and I know for a fact that many of his male and female friends have introduced their significant other to their group, why doesn’t he want to do the same?

[melanieeeB]

Ask him

[melanieeeB]

I can't read his mind and tell you his motives

[Anonymous]

Could be a number of reasons. Maybe he’s ashamed of you. Maybe he’s been flirting w some of his co-workers so he doesn’t want that to come up. Maybe his go-workers think he’s single. It could be a lot of things.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I wouldn't jump to those conclusions. I never introduced my girlfriend to my friends because I wanted to keep them at a distance, and introducing the love of my life to them was too personal for me.
I know that may not apply to everyone, but it goes to show that there are many reasons for it that aren't so sinister

(This is more meant to be info for the asker, I'm not arguing with your comment)

[Opinion Owner]

@WanderingLoveWizard that is true but the way I look at it is if he was willing to introduce her to his family why so long to meet his friends. To me my family would probably meet my girl later down the road than my friends.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Yeah, I guess it depends on how close you are with your friends. That's a fair point

[Anonymous]

Guys don't put as much value on introducing their SO to people they know as girls do.
To prove it to you, as a guy, I'll ask you... who the hell cares? I don't see what the big deal is

[Opinion Owner]

You should be glad that you're not some trophy girl that he wants to parade around to everyone. You're more special to him than that.
I know that doesn't make any sense, but that's the only reason a guy would even want to

[Adam1978]

They are coworkers, you don't bring them home, so unless you visit his job when would he do it?