Indian guys, please make me understand?

[Giulyy214]

I was/am in a long distance relationship with Indian but he was too racist towards white girls, saying they are all cheaters so he constantly fought and doubted me even though I'm the most loyal person he could probably find. I tried to be patient, hoping with time he would see I'm not like that, but time didn't work and I couldn't stand his false accusations, I've been patient for more than a year and nothing changed. So explain me how does this work? I never had any bad thoughts or negativity about Indians but it makes me believe how racist they are towards white women and not all white women are the same... why am I in the middle of being stereotyped because some white girls are cheaters, what about the loyal ones, they have to suffer because of bad people? Is there any way I could get him to understand how I really am without him analyzing anything I say and make it sound I'm the bad one 😔

[serious]

Well I don't agree that Indians are racist. That is not true. I understand what you are saying though. For your situation, I think it is possible that this man might have had bad relationships before where he has been hurt and so is unable to trust women in general.

Of course that does not mean he can accuse you of cheating. That is not justified at all. Since you are in long distance it is going to be tough for you to put your stance.

Honestly I don't think you can do much. It is an issue that he needs to deal with himself and on his own. No matter what it takes.

[Giulyy214]

Your last paragraph is what I felt but I was hoping to be wrong, I can see I can't help him and it's so hard when you love someone so much, who you know has been hurt so much (and I wanted to take his pain away) and I wanted him to see the truth, but it seems impossible. And the worst part he is there lost alone in the world and hates me because of thoughts which are far from the truth.

[serious]

Thanks for the MHO

[Marked_Man]

Not Indian but I wouldn't be with a guy like that. It's not because he's an Indian, but because he's an ass. Anybody you're involved with should believe you unless there's reason not to and shouldn't go around accusing you of things other people did. That's really insecure and abusive. Disconnect yourself from that guy. There's a million other decent guys out there loving and looking for a genuine good girl as a girlfriend.

[Avicenna]

Don't stay with someone who doesn't respect you, especially if he's far away. He isn't going to magically change either.

[CALIGVLA]

Is he wrong about white girls though?

I'm white and you'd think he's a big fan of white girls if you heard what I say about my exes and white girls in general...

[Giulyy214]

I'm not saying he is wrong, I'm just saying not everyone is the same, and it's not fair that the good girls have to suffer because of the ones that don't care

[CALIGVLA]

You made a good point indeed.

[In_Trance]

You lost me at long distance

[_Troian_]

Lol.. why would u pick an indian u want him to make u some pasta with curry on it?