Guy told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship, but is now dating someone else… was he just trying to protect my feelings or?

[Anonymous]

We talked on and off for awhile and I never felt like he was 100 percent truthful.. I constantly asked if it was ME he didn’t want to be with. He always reassured me and genuinely told me that he didn’t want one with anybody.

I am deeply insecure and struggle with my own low self esteem. He knew that… bc we got into it and he told me some truths I kind of needed to hear.

I just feel disappointed and sad bc I really thought he was being honest with me. I really do like him and deep down I want him to be happy but I can’t help feeling like I truly wasn’t enough … like I already knew.

[spartan55]

Still won't let this go eh? And you still think that he wasn't honest with you, which is complete crap. He was honest all along.
He got tired of your unstable and erratic temperament (remember you wished he died and actually said that to him)
You lived in the same city and never met in person. You talked to him for how long, a year? Think there might be a reason for that? You don't seem like you will ever actually take any responsibility for that situation
It's easier to just blame him.

[Asker]

He’s to blame too

[spartan55]

How so? What did he do wrong?

[SomeRandomGuy89]

Men are always ready for relationships but it takes the right person to bring us around sometimes. And that right woman isn't the right woman all of the time. It's situation dependant.

[Asker]

I felt like he could have been right for me but I wasn’t right for him… we were supposed to be fuck buddies anyway

[SomeRandomGuy89]

Maybe you could have been right for each other but perhaps it just wasn't right now... timing is important in life.

[Asker]

I truly just think he felt bad for me… he’s friendzoned me, said he likes me as a friend ect… I don’t think he saw me as anything else but a fwb… even tho we never slept together. He didn’t want to sleep with me anymore bc I wasn’t in the right headspace and he didn’t want me catching feelings/ becoming hurt if a relationship didn’t happen

[SomeRandomGuy89]

That could very well be true. You know the situation better then me.

[Asker]

I just don’t know how to feel. I know I feel really depressed about it

[SomeRandomGuy89]

The best thing you can do is just get on with your life and do what you would do if you were happy.

I personally go for physical activities when I'm feeling low. Go for a run, hit the gym, go to kickboxing, or whatever it is that you do.

You really shouldn't be sitting around and ruminating when you're feeling down.

Cold showers are also a good way to boost dopamine levels for a couple hours afterwards and motivate you into action if motivation is your issue.

In any case, get off GAG.

[Kyr0s]

Maybe. Maybe not. We never know. Stop overthinking and work on what you can.

[Asker]

But I didn’t find out he entered into a relationship until after we stopped talking. They started talking 2 months after

[Kyr0s]

Right. Best not to think too much about it and move on with your life.

[Anonymous]

His lost. You're an amazing person and beautiful.

[In_Trance]

or... what?

[Asker]

He just didn’t care