Why don’t guys talk to me for a while if I initiate they reply but won’t continue to talk why is this?

[laurlaur101]

There’s this guy that seemed interested in me when we first met and then stopped talking after about 20 days and he hasn’t talked to me too much sometimes I try to talk to him and initiate first and he replies but doesn’t keep the convo going too much I asked him a question he answered we talked about it and than he asked me how I was we talked for a little bit back and forth than he left me on open and stopped. I’m glad I heard from him a little bit bc I thought he’d ignore me but he didn’t.. so my question is…

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people just aren’t compatible in the long run. I think you say 20 days because it sounds longer in your head but that’s less than a month, which is no time. Maybe he was interested in the beginning and not so much anymore. Yes it sucks if you really like the guy but don’t be pushy. If he isn’t engaging or trying with you as he was before then take it as a sign and let him go. There are other men out there if you let yourself be patient enough.

[laurlaur101]

A part of me feels like I was the cause of this I screwed it up somehow I don't know how. I don’t like anyone else so it’s hard to feel like this again takes me awhile to feel like this I’ll never feel like this again with someone. Yes a little over two weeks wasn’t enough, but I’m just disappointed he came in strong in the beginning I didn’t expect any of this I’m just hurt I never experienced this before never really dated I guess the thought of everything scared me so maybe it is my fault and pushed him away but I don't know how to fix it

[Opinion Owner]

Don’t do that to yourself, you could’ve been absolutely perfect and still had this outcome, simply because you weren’t the right fit for him and that’s just life. Because you haven’t had good luck with men, I think you’re just clinging onto the potential of what this could be since you were starting to like him a lot, but realize that was a fantasy in your mind. You’ll feel like this again though, same as how I’m sure you had a guy in your life previously that you thought you’d never get over, but one day you did. Even with your first love, when that didn’t work out you probably thought that was the end of your love life. Talk yourself off the ledge, it’s not that deep and you will find the right guy. You just can’t twist his arm into being that person and you shouldn’t even want to.

[Opinion Owner]

Also, I think you should focus on yourself rather than men for a while. With how hurt you are by this it just seems like you have a low sense of self worth, and if you can’t see your value then no man ever will. You have to love yourself first before you can love a man, otherwise you will rely on him a lot to uplift and reassure you, and that’s not what you want.

[Vikkrram]

I would say he isn't interested the way you at him that's why.

[laurlaur101]

Ok but it must be flip flopped bc at first he seemed like he was and I was u sure about how I felt then when he stopped talking I realized I was starting to like him.. well I like the attention I cared and got attached