What do you think of an "ok" looking guy who purposely avoids going out or making friends or even meeting girls?

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He purposely refuses to meet anyone or even go out of the house unless for groceries or to pay bills Other than that he refuses to be around anyone or to talk to anyone

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Sounds like me. I'm not just "ok" though and pretty sure face to face I could seduce any chick on this site. So why would I not be out there looking for what some people think everybody is looking for?

It's the people my dude. I don't like people. Even getting a vagina got tiresome for me. A lot of bullshit comes attached to that vagina. I've created a home gym because I could even go there without getting bugged by people. Some people are just like me. Some people are like my friend that married a Japanese pop star and constantly wants to go to fancy clubs... dude would drag me along and I hated it. But for him... going to different countries and living it up with a bunch of people is his thing. I'd just rather play video games or read a book. People come with all the same damn social games I've lived with for years. I'm ready to just not be a part of that. Also I'm married... have kids... I've already seen most of the world... so that might play a part in my particular situation. I know I'm not missing anything or have that fear of missing out.

So don't be too down on your friend that just doesn't want to deal with the hassle of people. Not everybody is driven to just enjoy constant interaction with others.

bolverk · Accepted Answer

That he remains alone is his choice.

It could be that if he's at college/university he is totally focused on his education which is not a bad thing given that the majority of colleges/universities have an anti-male environment and he's decided that its safer to live in solitude than have to deal with the shit show that surrounds being falsely accused in the kangaroo court of college/university Life.

Or if he's working he could be totally focused on his career, and keeping to himself as a method of self protection in the post #METOO work environment where keeping a distance and being professional is the only safe thing to do.

As for 'meeting girls' if he's in his early 20's that can wait until he's secure in his career, from his 30th on he is just coming into his prime he hasall the time in the world to find someone if that's what he really wants, but he should watch his back, if women suddenly start showing you attention in him who have in the past ignored him they could just be looking to 'settle' and love will have little to nothing to do with it.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

It’s okay. If being alone is his gig, and it’s not harming himself or others.
I’m alone a lot. I’m average looking and told I should get out more and date but I’m content on my own and comfortable in my own self company. I have found that extreme extroverts and narrow minded folks have problems with understanding why someone would choose to be alone

Boomchakalaca · Accepted Answer

Im thinking, would he act the same way if we were to date like, very distant, timid, annoyed. Most women enjoy going out and dressing up. eating dinner.

asphaltrhymes · Answer

I'm actually quite happy with my circle of loyal friends and content with every growing year at being happily single. I'm like the nerds in that show, without the nerdy aspects, and without the later seasons of them getting hitched or coupled up. I'm quite happy as my path at just enjoying my friends, family, and me time and working, paying taxes.

I'm actually quite fulfilled the older it took me to realise year on year growth how I realised, especially now at 29 recently and ongoing, it all makes sense and how arrogant and stuck-up I was at 18 or at even 25. Hooray for my growth 🙃🙃🙃

VikingWarLord · Answer

That's actually going to work in your favor at your age.

Listen to me Sunny Boy, LISTEN UP!

The worst thing a guy can do is CASH IN HIS CHIPS TOO EARLY.

Your sexual market place value will SKY-ROCKET as you get into your 30s and 40s. You'll still have broads in their late teens and early 20s who will want you bad. Focus on getting your MONEY up right now. Get a gym membership and go 3 times a week (Monday - Wednesday - Friday) and get your diet on point.

The female attention and "friends" will come and go throughout your lifetime, but when you succeed in your 30s and 40s, you'll be much better equipped for those things.

DamianTheSmikkelbeer · Answer

This is basically 16 year old me, he definitely needs to snap out of this phase and open up more. Humans are social-creatures, we need to talk and have connections with other humans. The people who claim that they’re lonely and all fine and living the life are lying and unconsciously feel shitty about their situation, and no by opening up i don’t mean that he needs to be a social-god or to be popular by any standard. You have one life, live it!

EricSummer · Answer

That sounds very sad. What does he do all day? Play computer games?

A world of opportunity is lost. And he is even ok looking.

I for one could not live like that. I could withdraw from the world for a time, but only with a woman. When alone I'm getting restless and a lot more social.

ColHathi · Answer

Seems like a lot of people can relate to that ^^ I'm no different. I've pretty much been doing that for the last 16 years.

... I'd be careful about getting too comfortable. That kind of life style is gonna weaken your body and make you fat if you aren't careful.

Reorx · Answer

I know because I am that guy. I still meet girls but never pursue them. I'm not of a frivolous mindset & am marriage minded but my life's circumstances does not allow me to. I have obligations & people that depend on me. Dragging someone into a situation like that wouldn't be conducive to a good relationship or child rearing.

Sophie_me_like · Answer

It's sad. If people do judge, their loss and need to be taught about life. Acceptance is not a new concept. I just want to know a person not how the so called person does look like. There is more than what just meets the eyes! Always !

HowardB · Answer

I was like that and look where it got me? I’m 32 with no wife and kids. I had girls chase me all the time growing up even in my twenties. I was just too shy to do anything about it. I had mad women chase me down with their cars to pick me up. I feel like a loser who had opportunities

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t think at all.  He should go out, if I meet him somewhere, I will at least think.

Spongebobssocks · Answer

I'd love to talk to him cause I'm the same! Could proboaby relate to you. Depending on the reason ofcourse.

Anonymous · Answer

I feel sympathy because I know he's hurt, but I also feel like he's a loser for not doing anything about it.

Like if he's depressed because he's lonely, but purposely doesn't try to change it or go meet people but instead ignores them, it's his own fault that he's lonely.

But if a guy ignored me I probably would stop paying attention to him, because I would take it as a sign that he's not interested in me.

Adam1978 · Answer

I don't care his life his choices doesn't affect me.

slatyb · Answer

He sounds depressed with a great deal of social anxiety.

rienna888 · Answer

That doesn’t sound healthy. He should go outside everyday

annabananna · Answer

I would be worried for him. I don’t think it’s healthy to be alone all the time.

Minahh · Answer

I mean same why to bother with people when majority of them are assholes 😃

Greenbean27 · Answer

The depends on if he enjoys life like that. There is a difference between alone and lonely.

Oliviaelif · Answer

Glad to know that while there are so many fake and hypocritical people, there are still people who want to be isolated from them.

grega239 · Answer

Thats me. And i dont care enough to change that

Ghen28 · Answer

Dang, sounds like me. xD But I'm a girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Sounds like me outside of this app

blissinanarchy1 · Answer

I’m starting to be like that. Giving up on women

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Sounds like he’s depressed

Anonymous · Answer

He needs some serious therapy.

LovrUFFAllls · Answer

That would make it difficult to meet people

In_Trance · Answer

whatever works for him

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Pretty much describes me

Fromdusktilldawn · Answer

Same here

KrakenAttackin · Answer

He has shit to do.

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