Why would guy want to discuss about children early on wheb getting to know each other?

[Anonymous]

Like how many children would I like to have etc. ?

[Anonymous]

There could be a couple reasons. One is that he really wants children so if you don’t want children at least he will know right from the start that this relationship won’t work out. Two he could just be asking you this stuff to get between your legs. Buttering you up the way some men tend to do to make the girl all gooey that she’s like ahhhh he’s so sweet. I don’t know if you’ve already had sex w him or not but I’d you haven’t and he knows you’re not going to give in right away that could be the other reason.

[Asker]

No I haven’t had sex with him and he knows I won’t have with him before marriage (we’re muslims)

[Opinion Owner]

So it could go either way. But I wonder if he wants a family most men seek women’s go are much younger for that. Makes me think he might just be trying to sleep w you. I might be wrong. Have you two been dating a while.

[Asker]

I’m 28. Am I too old in your opinion?

[Asker]

I am able to have kids..

[Opinion Owner]

Well you’re not old, but you’re on the brink of where most men go younger. Not only that your age is listed between 30-35 that’s what I was basing it off on. I’m not saying you can’t have children at an older age, but the way a lot of men think they go younger. I mean at what age would you have children? You date for a year or two, taking you to about 30 years old. Then maybe a year to just enjoy the married life together w no kids. Then kids after that, so maybe about 31-32 years old. I don’t know what your time frame is.

[Asker]

We are muslims. We get married within a year usually.

[Opinion Owner]

Do you have kids now? Married before?

[Asker]

No and no

[Opinion Owner]

May I ask why?

[Asker]

Why do you want to know?

[Opinion Owner]

Why you aren’t married by now or have kids?

[Asker]

Where are you from? Are you from india or something? People don’t always rush to get marry and children if they’re living in the west.

[Opinion Owner]

I ask because for me as well as many other men, it raises a red flag.

[Asker]

How? He’s 30 and never been married either

[Opinion Owner]

Well for one I as a man am not interested in another man so that doesn’t raise a red flag for me. Two I think women are more likely to want to get married before men are so that doesn’t raise a red flag either on his part. Three men usually can wait a little longer for all that as far as marriage and kids.

[Asker]

Whatever he asked me out and is clearly interested

[Opinion Owner]

Lol so you’re getting mad because I’m pointing out some things. Sure he’s interested but in what? Sex?

[Asker]

He’s religious so am I. There’s zero chance that I’ll sleep with him before marriage

[Opinion Owner]

How long have you two been dating?

[Asker]

We have been talking for over a month. We’re planning to meet soon.

[Asker]

We haven’t met yet

[Opinion Owner]

I see. Well I hope things workout for you. Maybe I’m wrong about his intentions but just like a female can tell what other females are thinking men can do the same when it comes to other males.

[Anonymous]

Because he wants kids and is screening you with this question?

[Asker]

But does that mean he already likes me?

[Asker]

Also he said he wants several kids like 5. I’m 28. I don't know if he thinks I’m too old or something

[Opinion Owner]

Not really. Also, I don't think that you are too old for that.

[Asker]

So it doesn’t mean he’s interested if he asks that question?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes.

[Anonymous]

To know if you’re compatible and want the same thing or if you’re wasting time.

[LazerBean]

In case you don't have the same ideals so that he can move on.

[Asker]

So he’s probably looking for something serious.

[LazerBean]

Well yeah that's the whole point of adult dating.

[Wise4myage]

Id say that's a red flag.

[Asker]

Why do you think so?

[Wise4myage]

Its too soon to be talking about having kids.

[Asker]

Is it because of our age? I’m 28 and he’s 30.

[Wise4myage]

No, that's fine.