My ex always said my reactions were under expressive or incorrect, why would a guy gaslight?

[Anonymous]

I was never excited enough, laughed at the wrong time according to him, and was always making me say I'm sorry for something I never said. When I tried to explain he would accept and then go back to the original issue. I finally just said, "goodbye" because I couldn't handle his bs. He was actually ruining my ability to think. What's going on with him?

[Anonymous]

It's possible that your ex was engaging in gaslighting behavior, which is a form of emotional abuse where the abuser manipulates the victim into questioning their own perceptions and reality. This can involve denying or downplaying the victim's feelings or experiences, making the victim feel like they're "crazy" or "overreacting," and insisting that their own version of events is the correct one.

By telling you that your reactions were "under expressive" or "incorrect," your ex may have been trying to make you doubt your own feelings and perceptions, and to make you feel like you were the one at fault. This can be a way for abusers to maintain control over their victims and to avoid taking responsibility for their own actions.

It's important to recognize that gaslighting is a form of abuse, and that you have the right to trust your own feelings and perceptions. It's not your fault that your ex was behaving in this way, and it's not your responsibility to change or fix his behavior.

If you're feeling overwhelmed or confused by your ex's behavior, it may be helpful to seek support from a trusted friend, family member, or counselor. They can provide a listening ear, help you validate your own feelings and experiences, and offer guidance on how to navigate the situation and prioritize your own well-being.

[slatyb]

Deep insecurity. They feel small unless they are making someone else feel smaller.

[Anonymous]

Maybe you are abnormal

[Anonymous]

He sounds very judgmental.

[Iron_Man]

Talk it out