Should I tell him I don’t want to see him anymore?

[Anonymous]

I’ve been 2 years on and off with a guy.
I’d say we’re more friends with benefits.
But now I want more and I’m pretty sure he doesn’t.
He left this morning and I just felt sad.
Sometimes I tell myself I won’t see him anymore but then I do.
Should I actually end with him and make it real and final?

[PrettyPriya]

It sounds like you are disappointed with the arrangement and that it is unlikely to change. That would be reason enough for me to call it quits. This is the problem with friends with benefits type relationships. More often than not, one person develops feelings and wants more. The other person doesn't and this is the result.

If it were me, I would say it is over and move on to someone that wants the same things you are looking for, which seems to be a real relationship and not something based around sex only. I honestly don't know how people do the friends with benefits thing to begin with.

If you are quite sure he does not want anything more than to use you for sex, tell him it is over. Alternatively, if you are unsure if he would be open to a real relationship, sit down and talk to him to make sure there is not a chance for more.

You obviously know him and the situation better than any of us do. Go with your gut instinct, which seems to be moving on.

[DaisyM23]

no harm to talk to him about it, but if you're really sure he won't want a relationship then there's no point continuing this if you're getting hurt - just end it, it's too much hassle to be worth anything

[SirJohn42]

If your wanting more then do so.
He will not love you in the way you want him to. Thats whars really hard about friends with benefits kind of relationships one in the party has attachment and feelings for the other. While the other wants to play the field or have sex with others. They dont want comittment.
You need to guard your heart and find a man who wants to be fully in your life.

[In_Trance]

Whar does "pretty sure" mean?
Have you talked to him at all?

[talka20]

Id say yes end it

[brandon1122]

Go for it