Guys, Why is my Ex avoiding eye contact, hiding from me, and not saying hi to me?

[CAPLOVE]

I am a sophomore and I have known this guy since my freshman year. I approached him at the begging of this year. We texted for about 3 months and dated for two of those months. He ended up asking me to homecoming and that night he kissed me and asked me to be his girlfriend. We were supposed to go to a football game one Friday and everything was going well then he avoided me at the game and that Sunday broke up with me out of the blue. Everything was going well. We play the same sport so sometimes I see him at practice. He always avoids eye contact and never says hi. This weekend are teams had to help each other. when I went over to where his team was he walked away and went to the bathroom. I feel like I did something wrong but I know I didn't. Why is he avoiding me?

[Summeroflove]

I don’t know why some people do the things they do. I just really don’t.

If he won’t talk to you. It sucks. But just leave him be. He isn’t worth the time or energy to worry about anymore. He isn’t concerned about you obviously so.

Im sure it hurts but. There isn’t much you can do but find better

[CAPLOVE]

It does hurt. Thanks, that makes sense

[Summeroflove]

Your welcome. Some people just aren’t good people. Some people are good at acting though.

They pretend to be good. They pretend to be interested. But it’s all just a act. It’s just how they want to be seen. Now who they really are

[CAPLOVE]

Yeah, fakers suck

[Summeroflove]

Yup. They do. I have more respect for someone whose just a bad person… not much respect. But more respect. Then a person who is disingenuous.

[Summeroflove]

At least you know who they are and you can avoid them

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He's just trying to avoid you because he broke up with you and there is a possibility he could have cheated on you, so who knows I could be wrong.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, he doesn't see, m like a cheater. I literally was his first girlfriend but ok...

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

@CAPLOVE Thanks and Best wishes on this one, I hope and pray all good comes out of this for you and him ((Hugs))

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Thanks for MHO :)

[SnowedIn]

He's likely avoiding you because he feels guilty for breaking up with you. Or doesn't want to see you hurt.

[CAPLOVE]

That's what my dad said. Why does he feel guilty? Is there a way to show him I'm over it? Is it ok to say hi?

[SnowedIn]

I think it's 100% okay to say hi, yes. And that may help. It also may not. I realize that sounds wishy washy but it's an unknown. I said he might feel guilty because he he broke up with you. And it was out of the blue. He'll know he hurt you. As for showing him you're over it: be normal, hang with your friends, be happy, if you find another guy that's okay, etc. Show him you're happy and that'll let him know you're over it.

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, thanks so much!! you were very helpful

[CAPLOVE]

oh, Also is it ok to flirt with his friends?

[CAPLOVE]

and could I invite him to dances in the future or no because we haven't talked for a long time?

[SnowedIn]

Lol you're welcome.

As for his friends... that comes with some danger. Your motives might be pure but he might think it's getting back at him. Or trying to get back with him.

As for dances, maybe! Doesn't hurt to ask but he also might see that as you trying to get back with him or (worst case) desperate -- even if you're not.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, I definitely don't want to seem desperate

[CAPLOVE]

This guy friended me on insta and he is friends with my ex. He is cute and we always look at each other. He also just liked one of my posts. He's never talked to me though. Should I make the first move? and if so what do I say?

[SnowedIn]

Yes make the first move! And, it's awesome that he friended you. Say something that makes him say more than just yes or no. A question about your post where he has to explain his thoughts.

Or ask him something about school.

[SnowedIn]

Or a movie or music.

[CAPLOVE]

Another question and you don't have to answer it if you don't want to. Does the boy or the boy buy condoms? It's not for s its for bj but I'm curious. Should I just buy them and keep them in a drawer incase I need them in the future?

[CAPLOVE]

Should I message him on inta or ask in person?

[SnowedIn]

I'd do insta now to keep his interest up but also talk to him in person.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, can you give me a mock what to say?

[CAPLOVE]

His names Nathan

[SnowedIn]

As for condoms, it's both people's responsibility. So, yes, you can and should buy them.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, thanks

[SnowedIn]

About what to say. Maybe something like, "I'm glad you liked that post. I really like (whatever it was about). Do you like (something related to that)?"

In other words, keep it something he has to respond to and can't just say yes or no but also that you learn about him.

[CAPLOVE]

I'm scared lol

[SnowedIn]

Why? How can I help?

[CAPLOVE]

I don't want to be rejected and I don't want my ex to hate me.

[CAPLOVE]

I am not a guy so I don't know what they say to each other but Ik a lot of the team due to my ex and I am afraid that there were things said about me that aren't true.

[SnowedIn]

Your ex can be his own problem lol.

Just ask this boy some sort of question. Something simple getting to know him.

Alternately, say something about your dog or ask him how track practice was.

[SnowedIn]

As for the possibility of rumors, just ignore that and operate as if their aren't any.

[SnowedIn]

And don't burn the sweatshirt... good ones are expensive

[CAPLOVE]

ok, you give great advice

[SnowedIn]

Tysm!

[CAPLOVE]

i also had another question.
Do guys know about the color flower thing or do they just by you the color of a flower to match your dress?

[SnowedIn]

Hmmmmmmm... Great question. I always bought flowers that (a) I knew she liked and contrasted with the dress in a pretty way and (b) had some color with the baby's breath or leaves. One dance I went to her dress was blue so I got white roses and had the baby's breath dyed blue.

But... I'm old so there may be some code that I'm not aware of.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, yeah I don't know becuse I saw something on Pinterest but I don't know if it's true

[SnowedIn]

Now I'm curious. What's that?

[CAPLOVE]

I can't send it becuse my xper isn't high enough but I'll try to explain

[SnowedIn]

You are also more than welcome to DM but that's up to you.

[CAPLOVE]

Black= new begening and hope Red= classic and means I love you blue=mysterry, you give this to a person you think is unique and wonderful Pink= sweetness and feminity Whit=eternal loyalty, young love, and everlasting love Yellow=friendship Orange= energy, enthusiasm, and desire purple=royalty ranbow=diffrent other col, ors and meaning combined depending on colors peach roses=graditude there more but I don't feel like typing. Maybe google it

[SnowedIn]

That was a really good piece of it. Very cool. Actually makes sense.

[SnowedIn]

Knowing that I'd say that some guys will know it and others won't.

[CAPLOVE]

ok, how do I get more xpers

[CAPLOVE]

Also how do I find younger people on here I want to follow some people my age so I can get the opinions

[SnowedIn]

Lol. Ask questions and answer questions. Give good answers so that people like your answers -- you get xpers that way too. But, keep posting and they will grow. Pretty fast too.

[SnowedIn]

And the only way to find the younger folks is as you see users ages, follow them. There's no way to sort users or something like that.

[CAPLOVE]

ok,,,,,,,,,,,,,

[SnowedIn]

Can I help more on that? Sorry if that wasn't enough of an explanation...

[CAPLOVE]

No, you have been very helpful. I might be asking you questions in the future so heads up

[SnowedIn]

Happy to answer!

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he is trying to keep you off his mind and avoid explaining what happened

[CAPLOVE]

Why dosen't he want me on his mind? Do you think he wants me back and why won't he explain why? I want to know why so I can improve. Also he won't let me give him his sweatshirt back. Should I keep it or burn it lol

[Avicenna]

He sure doesn't act like he wants you back. You're at a age when people break up with each other suddenly for no reason at all or a weak one. If he won't take his sweatshirt back, donate it to charity.

[CAPLOVE]

Haha, thanks

[msc545]

Ask him, not us. We have no idea why he is doing that.

[CAPLOVE]

Ok, but like I don't want to weird him out he broke up with me in September.

[msc545]

well, decide what is important to you...

[CAPLOVE]

Dude wth do you mean by that

[CAPLOVE]

There's so many ways this can go

[msc545]

ok, before I get into that with you - what is it you want from him?

[CAPLOVE]

I don't know I want him to ignolage I exist

[CAPLOVE]

Like I want him to say hi when he sees me and I want to know WTH happened

[msc545]

ya, well, give it some time. The guy is not going to respond to pressure. Be nice.

[CAPLOVE]

I will be nice. I'm always nice

[msc545]

ok cool. Why did you guys break up anyway?

[CAPLOVE]

I have no clue? that's why I''m asking for help so I can try to find out wth happened

[msc545]

Oh I see. That does make it complicated indeed. Are you talking to him or texting or?

[CAPLOVE]

nope haven't talked since new Year and all we did was send a text that said happy new year.

[Iron_Man]

Find out talk to him

[CAPLOVE]

How do I talk to him? should I text him or talk to him in person?

[Iron_Man]

In person

[CAPLOVE]

What do I say?

[Iron_Man]

Talk from the heart lay it on on the line tell him how you feel

[CAPLOVE]

What would you want to hear?

[Iron_Man]

What kind of a football game are you going to football season is over with starts in September again

[CAPLOVE]

Oh this ended in November I saw him at a rowing event last weekend

[Iron_Man]

Oh ok