What does it mean when guy says” you’ll someone more compatible” like I’m not enough for him?

[Anonymous]

He break it off because in his mind we wanted different things in life

Updates

11 mo

Anyone :)?

Updates

11 mo

He said ”you’ll find someone more compatible”

[D_Bone_Steak]

Yeah... I think you answered your own question.

[Asker]

Sorry I don’t know what you mean?

[D_Bone_Steak]

You're not enough for him. I would guess maybe actually too much for him. 🤔

[Asker]

Too much for him in what way?

[genericname85]

the verb is missing from the question in your quotation marks. i guess that's why you're not getting a lot of replies. you'll "what" someone more compatible?

[Asker]

He said ”you’ll find someone more compatible”

[genericname85]

It just means he felt incompatible to you. That's nothing negative about you.

[Asker]

How it’s not negative? Although he said it was because of our life plans not aligning i feel it was just an excuse and he didn’t really find me attractive

[genericname85]

Because not every person is compatible with every other person. People are different. That doesn't mean bad or good.

[devilish-cutie]

it means he thinks you are too different to work

[Asker]

He told me” I’m very sure you’ll find your soulmate one day” etc. That actually hurted since I wanted him. It’s like he doesn’t feel anything for me altough he said I’m I’m very nice person etc

[devilish-cutie]

Im sorry, I know it hurts but i think you should accept rejection. You may try plead your case to him but if he still doesn't want you then you gotta accept them. You know people can love you and still not want to be with you, it be like that...

[Asker]

I definitely won’t contact but his reason just seems bullsh! t excuse..

[BoopBoopBeep]

Pretty straight forward. Your lives aren't compatible. Different goals/interests/whatever, but not aligned. Of he thinks your high maintenance and he's trying to be kind. A lof of us will say that in that case.

[Asker]

High maintenance in what way?

[Asker]

What if he was just letting me down gently

[Asker]

:))?

[BoopBoopBeep]

In any way. Most men aren't going to want to deal with a high maintenance woman. Maybe he WAS just letting you down gently... but at the end of the day what is the difference in that distinction? What would it change if it were one or the other?

[Asker]

Because if it was just an excuse it means he didn’t find me attractive

[BoopBoopBeep]

He didn't find you attractive either way that's why he walked away. Either physically attractive or socially, or attractive as a mate, or your goals made you unattractive, there is some degree to which when considering you he said "She is not attractive for me to pursue."... because otherwise he'd be pursuing you. But that's how all failed interactions work so I'm not sure what the big mystery is here.

[Asker]

Life goals may not align and but guy can still find girl physically atteactive

[Asker]

Attractive*

[BoopBoopBeep]

So you just want somebody to tell you you're pretty?

[Wise4myage]

He doesn't feel a spark between you and him. I understand why it hurts, but at least he's direct and to the point.

[Asker]

Are you it was about spark and not about our life plans like he said?

[Asker]

Sure*

[Wise4myage]

Yes, that's my guess.

[Asker]

Why do you think so that he just made an excuse?

[Anonymous]

means he knows your both not compatible because he's not into you

[Asker]

But he said it was because of our different ”life plans”

[Opinion Owner]

its called letting you down softly

[Asker]

Are you sure?

[Opinion Owner]

would you respect him more if he was direct about it

[Asker]

Yeah. He was giving me empty compliments and that hurt more. He sent long paragraph saying how it was “very” nice to talk to me and get to know me and how I’m “very” nice person and I have a good heart. He also said he’s “very sure” that I’ll met my soulmate one day. It’s like I’m that pathetic that he thinks I would be devastated because of him

[Asker]

:))?

[In_Trance]

no idea what that means

[Asker]

He said you’ll find someone more compatible than me

[In_Trance]

So stop talking to him and go and find that person

[Asker]

But why would he is quick to say that just because of our life plans?

[In_Trance]

He doesn't like you. which is fine; not everyone is going to

[Asker]

But he said it was because of our different ”life plans”