Why would call if he clearly doesn’t care?

[IssaYasmina]

I told this guy I liked him and was vulnerable with him and he replied just with “huh” . I didn’t respond to him and he called me 5 days later at night.

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Me and this dude have talked before or had some romantic history/interest he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship though

[MementoMori777]

One important question that might seem completely off topic but can be very important to your question, did you have sexual intimacy with this person already? Follow up question, was he romantic before or after you have sexual intimacy with that person?

[IssaYasmina]

Unfortunately yes 😔 we had intimacy plenty of times

[IssaYasmina]

Follow up question: after

[IssaYasmina]

We’ll actually he was romantic before but then I decided I was ready to have sex with him

[MementoMori777]

Damn, sorry to break it to you but I have created an assumption you won't like which hopefully I'm wrong but considering you gave this man the benefits a woman should give when they are in a relationship without you having that commitment not only does it give off an easy vibe from your part which no one sees as relationship material but if he was chasing you before its possible he stopped seeing you as relationship material after that but didn't refuse the sex which is iffy or he used you like a rag, he manipulate you by making you feel special (not saying you aren't, I'm sure u are in your own way) but he made you feel like something serious was gonna happen and took advantage of how easy you are and he knew deep down he can fool you for pleasure, so he did and he did it until he either got bored of it with you or he replaced you with another woman, again I hope I'm wrong but considering he's being distant now makes it seem like those emotions he claimed to ever have for you were false or the results would be different, clearly.

[IssaYasmina]

Ouchhhhhhhh. My chest is hurting now. Is there away for me not to seem as easy anymore? Is there a way for me to recover from that. What does this have to do with him calling me after I was vulnerable to him and him brushing me off

[MementoMori777]

Aw pour soul, I'm sure it is, cause it's not something easy to take in, he probably called you to get laid again, only you know if that was the reason and him brushing you off is a sign that shows he's manipulating you because he wouldn't have such low patience with you if he really cared about you the way he claimed, I've seen several of your posts around here, I'm just an observant person in general so I have realized that you are very easy but your heart is in the right place, you are always being manipulated by someone, you are asking me how you can be seen as less easy but unfortunately deception isn't the way too go, if you want to be seen as hard to get then you have to be hard to get, it's the only way to be harder to get, because actions speak louder than words and when you are sleeping with every guy you believe is trying to cuff you, just cause your heart is in the right place doesn't mean theirs is so dickheads would take advantage of your love seeking soul and will use you for their own benefits, in order to assure love, you have to wait for that cuff Issa, they don't cuff they don't get the benefits of a relationship, and yes that will chase most of them away but tbh those are the ones you want to avoid cause they are the ones that take advantage of people, if the guy wants to genuinely cuff you, he will wait and cuff you first and wouldn't have a problem with waiting because their full intentions aren't sexual, sex should only be a benefit for two lovers, not the foundation of a relationship, sorry I talk so much but I'm trying to see you winnin, watching women get broken to pieces by douches piss me off, it is what it is lol.

[IssaYasmina]

I thinks it’s important to let you know since you’ve been seeing a few of my questions up here, all of these questions have been about the same person. He has been the only one that was able to get into my heart like this even though he’s not really a good person to be an an emotional attachment with. With that being said I don’t think I’m easy if you wanna say that I am for this one particular person sure…. but I’m extremely picky on who I give my attention to and unfortunately it was him

[MementoMori777]

You know that was a very important detail I never picked up which changes a lot but not everything, if you aren't like this with many and just him then you aren't an easy person but you chose the wrong person to be easy with cause he took advantage of it, you aren't an easy person but made an easy choice, I would assume that if you wouldn't have made this choice and you would've waited until he cuffed you he probably would've shown his true colors before and you wouldn't be in the exact same position as you are now, because as we all know, sexual intimacy can bond someone closer to each other, don't think I'm blaming you for anything tho cause you are the victim and he's the problem but the results could've been different, I hope I'm wrong with all this but what I just can't wrap my head around is why was he stalling that cuffing if he had such a special connection with you, cause my morals and values tell me that cuffing should've been step one, sex should've been step five, either ways tho I hope you find solutions and hold strong and don't let the toxicity change you, I wish you the best outcomes and results and fast healing. 💯🙏

[spartan55]

Such a waste of time. Are no other guys on your bench currently?

[spartan55]

He was calling for sex.

[IssaYasmina]

He lives two hours away, I’m not worth the drive to him but hey maybe you’re right

[spartan55]

You can do better. Have some self respect.

[boggboss]

Because he felt bad not feeling the same dont equate not caring

[Emanon25]

He was bored and wanted to talk to anyone.

[In_Trance]

He's bored