After the date he walked me to my car after I jokingly said to him are you walking me to my car after we headed to same direction. Why?

[Anonymous]

did he do it because he thought I wanted it?

[Justaguyagain]

I think you may be overthinking this, specially if what you want to know is if he likes you or not. Not everything is a sign

[Asker]

Mind you it was day and sunny when he walked me to my car. I don't know Was it because he wanted to or because he felt obligated to?

[Justaguyagain]

I don't know i would do the same, i wouldn't feel obligated just because you said it, more like "why not"

[Asker]

So he didn’t do it because he likes me?

[Justaguyagain]

I dont think so no, especially after reading the others answers you posted, of him saying no to a second date.

[Asker]

But he said no because of different life goals…

[Justaguyagain]

I see a lot of girls in this platform trying to analyse this kind of tiny details so often. You shouldn't do it, most of the times it means nothing. I still think this is him just being polite

[Asker]

Do you think he was telling the truth or was just making excuse?

[Justaguyagain]

About what?

[Asker]

Ending things?

[Asker]

I meant about his reason to end things because of different life goals

[Justaguyagain]

I don't know, but either way i don't think you will be able to be with him

[Asker]

Why do you think so?

[Justaguyagain]

Because, either if it was an excuse or not, he thoght it was enoght to not have a second date, so i think you should just move on, i'm sorry to say

[Asker]

He could miss me and change his mind

[Justaguyagain]

I wouldn't be hoping for that

[Asker]

by the way during the date we were talking about what we wanted in the future. I told him like after 10 years I would’ve wanted to move ti different country ( in my mind I was thinking with him and possibly if we have kids then with our kids)
I also talked about how I would like to get better job in the future and study more. Maybe I gave him the impression that I don’t want to have kids in the near future? I think he wanted kids soon and said he wants big family. I did told him I want kids too and big family.

[Justaguyagain]

So why do you think that? You told him you want a family too. If you are this unsure about this, you could ask him if it was an excuse or not, but i think is in the best of your interests to just move on

[Asker]

I’m just trying to figure out what was dealbreaker for him…

[Justaguyagain]

And you can't know that unless you ask him

[Asker]

I asked him what plans didn’t align and he said ” just in general they don’t” . Then K wished him all the best etc and we haven’t talked now for almost 3 weeks

[Justaguyagain]

Then he isn't interested, you should really just move on, i know is easier said than done but you don't have another option really

[Asker]

I’m just curious does his answer imply he wasn’t physically attracted to me?

[Justaguyagain]

I don't think so, but you can't know that

[Asker]

Why you don’t think so?

[Justaguyagain]

Is just a guess, i can't know that either. I wouldn't reject a woman which i'm interested in just by her looks, unless she is really unnatractive to me, even so i wouldn't tell her that. But if you two already knew how the other one looked before the date, is pretty unlikely, otherwise you can't know, so i wouldn't worry about it.

[Asker]

I don't know if he really was interested in me. I mean we were talkind daily for 2 months before we met. He did saw pictures of me.

[Justaguyagain]

Well then, i don't think is the case.

[Asker]

But I don’t understand how he can just cut off things just because of some plans that we could discuss..

[Justaguyagain]

I think you should either ask him, or forget about it. People sometimes are just not interested, is not necessarely because there is something wrong with the other person, you know.

[Asker]

Wouldn’t it be dump to ask him questions since we haven’t talked for almost 3 weeks

[Justaguyagain]

Then i would just forget it, if he wanted you, things would have been different

[Asker]

That’s true. I just hope he changes his mind altough it’s slim chance…

[spartan55]

Huh? He did it because he was being a gentleman. Stop overthinking.

[Asker]

So that didn’t necessarily mean he likes me?

[spartan55]

Omg seriously?

[Asker]

What?

[spartan55]

Stop overthinking! You are going to screw it up.

[spartan55]

So as a 30 year old woman you don't know that a guy walking you to your car likes you? Was this your first date ever?

[Asker]

Well he already said there won’t be second because of some differences. I don't know him walking me to my car gave the impression that he was keen of me…

[spartan55]

If he already shut it down then why are you even asking this? I swear you girls are so weird sometimes.

[spartan55]

Oh, nevermind. I think I know who this is. Girl you need to drop this and move on. It's been weeks!

[Asker]

Mind you it was day and sunny when he walked me to my car

[spartan55]

That's great, so what?

[Asker]

But it gave me the wrong impression..

[spartan55]

What gave you the wrong impression? The weather?

[Asker]

That in broad daylight he walked me to my car

[spartan55]

I don't understand what you are talking about.

[spartan55]

Why won't you drop this?

[Asker]

Why would hr walked me to my car after the date ( it was day and sunny so it wasn’t necessary for him to do that) if he wasn’t into me?

[Asker]

He walked *

[spartan55]

It's called basic human being decency and respect. It's not about attraction.

[mommymommymommy]

Did you trust him?

[Asker]

He said at first noo I’m also heading in that direction ( when I jokingly asked are you walking me to my car) but he did walked me in to my car. We just kept talking and next thing I know we’re at my car lol

[mommymommymommy]

Did you trust him

[Asker]

Yes, why are you asking?

[mommymommymommy]

Then it shouldn't matter

[Asker]

But why did he at first go noo I’m going same direction because my car is also there?

[mommymommymommy]

It made sense?

[Asker]

But he still walked me to my car?

[mommymommymommy]

Sure?

[Asker]

Was it because he wanted or because he felt obligated to?

[mommymommymommy]

Probably a little bit of both?

[Asker]

So even if he didn’t like me he would still do that?

[mommymommymommy]

Maybe. Not every guy is the same

[Asker]

After the date he said there won’t be second date because of some differences. I don't know him walking me to my car gave the impression that he was keen of m and that he liked me..

[Asker]

Mind you it was day and sunny when he walked me to my car

[mommymommymommy]

Probably felt it was STILL the right thing to do. Sorry it didn't go well

[Asker]

Do you think he still liked me though?

[mommymommymommy]

He told you he doesn't see a second date

[Asker]

Because of different life goals :/

[mommymommymommy]

Yeah

[Asker]

Do you think it was because of that and he still liked me/ found me attractive or he was making excuses from guys perspective?

[mommymommymommy]

No idea, you could just ask him

[Asker]

But what do you think?

[mommymommymommy]

Why does it matter what i think, im not him

[Asker]

I do miss my and last time we talked was 3 weeks ago :/ it’s kinda sad that just because of different life goals ( by the way he didn’t even want to discuss and see if compromise can made) he decided to end it

[mommymommymommy]

That's the way the cookie crumbles. If one person wants kids and the other doesn't you can't force them to. Time to find someone who does, right?

[Asker]

We both wanted kids but there some other things that didn’t align but he didn’t want to go into details (I wonder why…).

[mommymommymommy]

Likely because he felt it wasn't worth it

I was just bringing up an example hun. I'm not have a life convo on here with you

[Asker]

Worth it in what way?

[mommymommymommy]

What do you think

[Asker]

Guess he wasn’t attracted to me?

[mommymommymommy]

We've already decided this. He doesn't see a second date

[Asker]

But is it because of different life plans or attraction.. that’s the question

[mommymommymommy]

Probably, you realized that they're just too different

[Asker]

Is it possible that he changes his mind?