Is it true a 30 year old man wouldn’t take a 22 year old girl seriously romantically?

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razelove · Accepted Answer

It isn't the age gap that would affect that nearly as much as what he, or she wants in the relationship to begin with.

If I get with a woman my age, or a woman your age, whether you take me seriously relies on what you're trying to get out of me, and what you feel when you're with me. It's the same the other way around.

Like if I'm just looking for casual, or to mess around, it doesn't matter what the woman does, she's already in that frame, and is going to stay there. If I'm looking for something serious than the possibilities are likewise open, though more likely than not most pathways again lead to casual.

It isn't your age, it's just people, and how difficult it is to find a serious relationship. So far I've had one in my life that is still going strong out of countless dead ends, catastrophic failures, growing further apart, or starting in that casual framework.

ohsheeT · Accepted Answer

It depends on who the people are I look at people not at their age but as an equal I know 19 21-year-old 22 year olds that are so smart and have it so together that you don't even think about their age because they're so wise in there their wisdom they're Independents their strengths I think the only time that you're going to get somebody not taking somebody else serious at any age is because they need to feel that they are the one in control they are the dominant person they have an ego they think they're just better and if that's the case you don't want to be with that person anyway I don't see why you would have any problem and no matter what age the guy is if he cannot take you serious in any realm you don't want to be with him anyway

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

I think it's wise for him not to. And unwise for her to try.

8 years in your 20s is a big chunk of growth and progress.

Personally I'd feel weird about it if I were either person.

Life stage, experience, and power dynamic are important to consider. As is whether or not he is comfortable.

You might be fine with it, but if he isn't then he isn't. He doesn't owe you a relationship with an older man.

kylee2437 · Accepted Answer

I’ve been in this situation as a 22 year old girl, and he not only did not take me seriously, but he also had his mind made up on what he wanted in life and it didn’t involve a future with me what so ever. He didn’t want marriage, didn’t want kids etc. He entered into a relationship with me simply to control my life

MrOracle · Answer

Not true overall. Her age (22 being old enough to have graduated college) would be a minor factor for most 30-year-old men. Whether he took her seriously or not would largely be dependent on her morals, values, and life goals.

Of course, this assumes the man in question actually wants a serious relationship. Not every man does, and the guys most women want and fight over - the top 10% guys - are almost never really interested in a serious relationship. There's nothing you can do if you choose one of those guys.

Fireguy17 · Answer

That is only 8 years different, so depending on her maturity level would determine if I took her seriously or not.
I have dated someone 11 years younger, I did not know that when I met her, it was after, but she had her collage degree and a good job.
I was planning to marry her until she started sleeping around.
I have dated I think it was 5 years older than I was, and my wife is 9 years younger than I am.
the older you get the less important it seems, especially only 8 years.
Now 22 and dating a 14 year old, that is a problem.

DaveJord · Answer

Nah, thats only 8 years difference. I am 46 so anyone under 35 I don't really take seriously... be then again they don't really take me seriously.

I do not know how old you are, but I cannot tell you I took any 22-year-old seriously. Not just woman, I mean all 22-year-olds.

Berethor · Answer

Men prefer pretty and young women, and if she virgin no reason to not take her seriously.

SDM1993 · Answer

As with everything, it depends on the people. For example, I'm 30 but crushing hard on a 21 year old. Sure some might find that a little sceezy, and I fully understand why people think that. Here's the thing though: despite the 8, near 9 year age gap between us she's already far more mature than I have ever been and likely ever will be. I do genuinly want an actual, "proper" relationship with her.
Some 30 year olds might not consider an 8 year age gap to be serious relationship material, that's always going to be the case. But not every guy will be like that. Again, it all depends on the person.

JamesMI616 · Answer

I'm 35 and I would certainly take her seriously. I'd also manage my expectations. Life experience is more important than age itself. I'd be concerned that settling down in your early 20s could deprive you of certain experiences that you could regret not having in the future. The last thing I would want is for you to grow to resent me. So as long as we could have some adventures before settling down and knowing the odds are against us, ( like any relationship) I'd be open to it.

HighValue · Answer

Not true. A man that wants a serious relationship would take whatever girl he dates seriously.

MementoMori777 · Answer

Would you take an 18 year old seriously romantically? Be honest  Or will it most likely be their physical appearance? You'd only be lying to yourself if you cap

WonderBell99 · Answer

Depends. 8 years is a big gap, but not as huge as 11 or 12 years. You can still make it work. Age isn’t a determining factor of one’s maturity.

FunkyMonkee · Answer

No. Mom & dad were 10 years apart. She was at least 20 when they got married. My first girlfriend was 6 years younger than me. My best friend's first old man was nearly twice her age (she was 16 when they met online!).

exitseven · Answer

There are so many 22 year old girls on the planet and they are all different. There are some that would take a relationship seriously.

Staximus · Answer

I don't know. It depends on the individuals. I've known 22 year olds who were ready to settle down and get married, and 30 year olds who acted like they were still in college. So it could go either way.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

If their chemistry matched and maturity levels were similar, then it could work.

MrCommodore · Answer

Only if she was very mature for her age, but I would have avoided girls that age.

UniquelyBasic · Answer

Some men will. Depends on what the guy is looking for really.

KostasKouvalis · Answer

Not true. I'm a 30 year old man who's pursued 22 year old girls romantically. I have a young mental age

kakaling · Answer

I truly believe that the girl is still more mature than the man, that has caused this situation. If the man is mature, then this doubt would not have happened.

ConfessionTime · Answer

There are some women that age who act like parents of others her age and don't take part in the partying binge drinking, and other type of activities that most her age engage in. Those are the ones that can certainly be taken seriously

Anonymous · Answer

Men only like younger women because they think they are more controllable. Of course, they are horribly misguided.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Not always true, but you just never know,

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

No, I wouldn’t say that’s true. A lot guys prefer being with a younger girl. Some men might think the maturity comparison would be an issue, but it just depends. That’s not a universal way of thinking by any stretch.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Depends on how worthy the 22 year old is… if they do what the man likes and wants I’m sure an agreement could be arranged

boobliker · Answer

and why not a girl at 22 has more to offer than a man of 30 walk away girl better mem will take you on and treat you better too!

Vegasrunner · Answer

That's not true at all. You're using the mistake most women make of thinking your personal experience is reflective of general experiences.

Anonymous · Answer

absolutely. not sure what a 30 year old MAN would want with a 22 year old GIRL...

Rohaan2020 · Answer

i am 30... and i don't think age has anything to do with taking someone serious... its about the response u get from opposite side... if shez serious then i would be too

BoobMan · Answer

No--definitely not true in general. Obviously could be very much true in specific instances.

shades777 · Answer

this is one if those depends because you can't assume anything like automatically he's more mature at 30 than she is as 22.

Mallic00 · Answer

FUCK NO! I could give a hot shit how old you are, all i care about is how competent you are and how compatible we are as people. Anything beyond that is meaningless.

dudeinohio · Answer

When I was 30, I actually had a 22 y. o. girlfriend. I took her seriously.

LiamJHayden · Answer

It depends upon the maturity level and the guy.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Yet, somehow that’s the age men prefer when it comes to relationships.

Redeye69 · Answer

Possibly.. if she is mature...22 can be pretty young or old depending on the person... but so can 30... lol

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, it is true. They think that girl is immature.

lightbulb27 · Answer

it's more the maturity. so no.

Alwayreckles93 · Answer

Only for sex objects.

Kiss_Me · Answer

Depends on the maturity of the woman.

Iron_Man · Answer

Yes, what’s the problem? Women are mature.

Pohjolan · Answer

Not by default.

Guardian45 · Answer

Uhhh. No. What gave you that idea?

najekim · Answer

Age wise, no. Maturity wise, perhaps.

baseball_del_tuono · Answer

Not at all that’s non sense

SnowedIn · Answer

That is not true.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

That's not true at all

Gabriel-Chicanito · Answer

I guess, depends on the Male..

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Not true at all

itsalyssaagain · Answer

It's not true.

slatyb · Answer

No, it isn't.

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all, on contrary

Pterodon · Answer

False

TrillXHippy · Answer

I don’t know

BLP11520 · Answer

Why not?

forknowing · Answer

not necessarily true

Abdulwahh · Answer

He would lol

Anonymous · Answer

So true

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