Is it true a 30 year old man wouldn’t take a 22 year old girl seriously romantically?

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[razelove]

It isn't the age gap that would affect that nearly as much as what he, or she wants in the relationship to begin with.

If I get with a woman my age, or a woman your age, whether you take me seriously relies on what you're trying to get out of me, and what you feel when you're with me. It's the same the other way around.

Like if I'm just looking for casual, or to mess around, it doesn't matter what the woman does, she's already in that frame, and is going to stay there. If I'm looking for something serious than the possibilities are likewise open, though more likely than not most pathways again lead to casual.

It isn't your age, it's just people, and how difficult it is to find a serious relationship. So far I've had one in my life that is still going strong out of countless dead ends, catastrophic failures, growing further apart, or starting in that casual framework.

[ohsheeT]

It depends on who the people are I look at people not at their age but as an equal I know 19 21-year-old 22 year olds that are so smart and have it so together that you don't even think about their age because they're so wise in there their wisdom they're Independents their strengths I think the only time that you're going to get somebody not taking somebody else serious at any age is because they need to feel that they are the one in control they are the dominant person they have an ego they think they're just better and if that's the case you don't want to be with that person anyway I don't see why you would have any problem and no matter what age the guy is if he cannot take you serious in any realm you don't want to be with him anyway

[provokeesmokee]

I think it's wise for him not to. And unwise for her to try.

8 years in your 20s is a big chunk of growth and progress.

Personally I'd feel weird about it if I were either person.

Life stage, experience, and power dynamic are important to consider. As is whether or not he is comfortable.

You might be fine with it, but if he isn't then he isn't. He doesn't owe you a relationship with an older man.

[kylee2437]

I’ve been in this situation as a 22 year old girl, and he not only did not take me seriously, but he also had his mind made up on what he wanted in life and it didn’t involve a future with me what so ever. He didn’t want marriage, didn’t want kids etc. He entered into a relationship with me simply to control my life

[MrOracle]

Not true overall. Her age (22 being old enough to have graduated college) would be a minor factor for most 30-year-old men. Whether he took her seriously or not would largely be dependent on her morals, values, and life goals.

Of course, this assumes the man in question actually wants a serious relationship. Not every man does, and the guys most women want and fight over - the top 10% guys - are almost never really interested in a serious relationship. There's nothing you can do if you choose one of those guys.

[Fireguy17]

That is only 8 years different, so depending on her maturity level would determine if I took her seriously or not.
I have dated someone 11 years younger, I did not know that when I met her, it was after, but she had her collage degree and a good job.
I was planning to marry her until she started sleeping around.
I have dated I think it was 5 years older than I was, and my wife is 9 years younger than I am.
the older you get the less important it seems, especially only 8 years.
Now 22 and dating a 14 year old, that is a problem.

[DaveJord]

Nah, thats only 8 years difference. I am 46 so anyone under 35 I don't really take seriously... be then again they don't really take me seriously.

I do not know how old you are, but I cannot tell you I took any 22-year-old seriously. Not just woman, I mean all 22-year-olds.

[Berethor]

Men prefer pretty and young women, and if she virgin no reason to not take her seriously.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy#Research

[SDM1993]

As with everything, it depends on the people. For example, I'm 30 but crushing hard on a 21 year old. Sure some might find that a little sceezy, and I fully understand why people think that. Here's the thing though: despite the 8, near 9 year age gap between us she's already far more mature than I have ever been and likely ever will be. I do genuinly want an actual, "proper" relationship with her.
Some 30 year olds might not consider an 8 year age gap to be serious relationship material, that's always going to be the case. But not every guy will be like that. Again, it all depends on the person.

[JamesMI616]

I'm 35 and I would certainly take her seriously. I'd also manage my expectations. Life experience is more important than age itself. I'd be concerned that settling down in your early 20s could deprive you of certain experiences that you could regret not having in the future. The last thing I would want is for you to grow to resent me. So as long as we could have some adventures before settling down and knowing the odds are against us, ( like any relationship) I'd be open to it.

[Alwayreckles93]

Are you seriously kidding me? Why? A woman yourbsame age has money career a house a car. Why a 22 year old who doesn't own crap?

[JamesMI616]

@Alwayreckles93 I actually prefer women my age but not for material reasons. I'm just saying I wouldn't look past a girl who was into just because she's 22.

[MementoMori777]

Would you take an 18 year old seriously romantically? Be honest

Or will it most likely be their physical appearance? You'd only be lying to yourself if you cap

[Bekaaaaaaaahhhh]

It depends on the connection we had and what interests we had in common and if he was willing to try to relate to me

[MementoMori777]

So personally why do you think an older man would go for someone younger rather than a woman their own age?

Use all this information to read people, if he tries to get sexual too early in the bond, take it as a sign.

[baseball_del_tuono]

I’ll take you seriously

[Alwayreckles93]

She seriously needs to stick to guysbherbown age. I mean why necessarily a 30 year old men? She has feelings for his wallet i bet.

[MementoMori777]

Or the 30 year old men could be seeking for the younger puh, could go either way no lie

[baseball_del_tuono]

@Alwayreckles93 would you date an 18 year old

[Alwayreckles93]

@baseball_del_tuono No thats weird i have little brothers who are 18.

[HighValue]

Not true. A man that wants a serious relationship would take whatever girl he dates seriously.

[WonderBell99]

Depends. 8 years is a big gap, but not as huge as 11 or 12 years. You can still make it work. Age isn’t a determining factor of one’s maturity.

[FunkyMonkee]

No. Mom & dad were 10 years apart. She was at least 20 when they got married. My first girlfriend was 6 years younger than me. My best friend's first old man was nearly twice her age (she was 16 when they met online!).

[Staximus]

I don't know. It depends on the individuals. I've known 22 year olds who were ready to settle down and get married, and 30 year olds who acted like they were still in college. So it could go either way.

[exitseven]

There are so many 22 year old girls on the planet and they are all different. There are some that would take a relationship seriously.

[OfMiceandMen]

If their chemistry matched and maturity levels were similar, then it could work.

[MrCommodore]

Only if she was very mature for her age, but I would have avoided girls that age.

[UniquelyBasic]

Some men will. Depends on what the guy is looking for really.

[Vegasrunner]

That's not true at all. You're using the mistake most women make of thinking your personal experience is reflective of general experiences.

[kakaling]

I truly believe that the girl is still more mature than the man, that has caused this situation. If the man is mature, then this doubt would not have happened.

[ConfessionTime]

There are some women that age who act like parents of others her age and don't take part in the partying binge drinking, and other type of activities that most her age engage in. Those are the ones that can certainly be taken seriously

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Not always true, but you just never know,

[Kingofkings1992]

No, I wouldn’t say that’s true. A lot guys prefer being with a younger girl. Some men might think the maturity comparison would be an issue, but it just depends. That’s not a universal way of thinking by any stretch.

[Alwayreckles93]

A you really that stupid? A 22 year old woman has nothing to offer. I am 30 andi look way more beautiful better then this clueless 22 year old. I own a paid off house a paid off nice dodge ram truck I am financially succeful. Why arenyou guysbso blind foulded?