Why he doesn’t want me as a friend but has girl friends?

[Anonymous]

Am I too boring for him to be friends? He told me he wants to be more than friends and if we can’t be friends than no. Today after not talking for a while before I broke up with our relationship we talked again and he mentioned he went to eat with a girl friend. Everything was fine but he left me on read after I sent him a good night text 🙄 but when we don’t talk he’s all over my social media watching my stories first. Why her and not me as a friend?

[Anonymous]

Cause that friend is willing to give him pussy. Maybe not, he may just using her to make you jealous. But regardless he wants something sexual from you. Whether that’s just some ass then he’s out or a relationship that’s hard to say. But based on him having “girl friends” I’m willing to bet he just wants to mail you. An friends with benefits situation. Sounds like a scumbag, leave, move on, but you know you won’t. That’s why he will continue to treat you this way cause he’s got you wrapped around his finger. Prove me wrong.

[Asker]

Maybe you’re right. Maybe he was just hiding his true intentions. In the beginning he treated me like a girlfriend but I asked to just be friends and that’s when he started being this way. When I tell them my story they always blame it on me by saying I iced him out in the beginning. Either way I’m pretty sure he was just hiding his true intentions.

[Opinion Owner]

I mean for me when I was younger if she just wanted to be a friend I’d say ok. That’s cause in my warped mind not k owing at the time, that maybe things would progress to something more than friends as we spent more time together. He just straight shut you down. So he may have really liked you but since you shut him down he’s going to act like a jerk to you or he only intended on having sex w you.

[ProbablyClueless]

Different relationships feel better in different forms... the guy doesn't want to be a casual platonic friend with you because that's just not the vibe he feels with you. Realistically, it probably has nothing to do with anything you did or even how he actually feels. People just do a lot of random, mindless shit. I've had to learn that "the hard way" throughout my life.

I used to think people were super intentional about why they did the stuff they did. My mind was absolutely blown when I discovered that most people have no clue why they do most of what they do.

[GoingNooWhere]

If he has feelings for you which is how I am reading your question, then sometimes it's best not to be friends with that person if they don't feel the same way because it can hurt deeply.

[RavVid]

He has said as more than friends so he wants to fuck you. It is not a friend situation.

[Tstrbrainer]

Usually guys befriend a woman if they find her sexy.
He definitely finds you sexy, but you've made it clear that he'll just stay a friend.
So obviously he's not wasting his time

[Danny_dan92]

Means those female friends of his he’s interested in and wants to fuck them. Not you

[spartan55]

Gives a better blowjob.