Do men "chat" to other guys, on social media/messaging apps?

[LovingJo]

For instance, women can have long conversations (as we are ALL aware) with any sex...
But do men just chat about random every day type stuff? Or is there always an outward purpose?

Yes, we do.. Please elaborate

No, we don't.. Please elaborate

Other - Please elaborate

I'm a girl/here for the results

Updates

+1 y

So, what you are TRYING to say is, when you are on and off line, all the time... There's a pretty good chance, it's a woman you're speaking to? For whatever reason? 😂😉

Updates

+1 y

So, going on the majority of responses, does this indicate why men's mental health can decline, over time.. BECAUSE they're not as "open"? It seems a shame to me, to not have this connection, for whatever reason. 💯❤️

[molonski2]

Mainly useless talk about sports or sex..
Although , I did have my friend here from Australia , and we did talk in-depth face to face about his broken marriage , but this would never have happened had it not been face to face.
Mosts mens talk is mindless drivel as men don't open up to each other , just small sht.

[matchrestore]

Some. Girls are better at keeping a conversation going in general, but some guys are as well. Almost all guys I chat with regularly are people I met in real life, whereas I chat regularly with a few girls I haven't met in real life. It's not that I plan for it to happen... Most of the time when I DM people I don't know its just to ask a few questions, some just turn into more fulfilling conversations that continue past the initial topic.

[LazerBean]

It seems like there's usually a purpose, but that purpose may be small. We have 2 or 3 friends that my husband texts fairly frequently, but it's usually related to their mutual hobbies or planning our next get together.

[PositiveFlight]

Yes from time to time. Usually when answering a question. Guys are more competitive but when respect is given both ways, men talk and open up to help each other. Many guys are good men. Its only the few assholes that make us seem bad across the board

[PositiveFlight]

@LovingJo In your recent follow up/update, I think you are right on. A lot of men do suffer or internalize issues because they will not open up to one another about things. I think the mentality often is seen that it’s weak to open up, display emotion, show concern for one another and so on. There is a fine balance. Men definitely need to show their masculine side but there is nothing weak or non-masculine about displaying care for other people for being open and actually communicate.

I think I often times annoy a lot of men both on here and in person. I am open, honest and descriptive on any topic to a fault. As I have matured in life, I find great value in the ability to communicate my thoughts, feelings, desires, concern, and excitement on literally any topic. It’s very liberating to communicate and be honest with another human being whether that be men or women.

[OfMiceandMen]

I don't tend to chat with guy friends online. When I text them it is for the sole purpose of scheduling something. I don't just text them to ask how there day's been. I usually keep it short and sweet. We can chat once we get together.

[OfMiceandMen]

Re: Update... Noooooo.👀

You are correct, I tend to chat up my friends wives, as some of the guys can't do anything without their permission, so I go straight to the source and butter em up. LOL

[LovingJo]

I just mean whether it's as friends or otherwise.

[OfMiceandMen]

It's as friends, no other purpose. The women in my life are my buddy's wives and to me their like sisters.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

No, Once in a blue moon I will speak to a male on here, but I prefer to text my special female friend and I never give out any private cell phone numbers because you don't know who is a catfish on here. But with her, she has gained my trust and I have gained her trust so that means a lot to me.

[DarkWinterNights]

Chat apps? No. Closest I have is a friend who likes to call me just to talk about random stuff and it kinda drives me crazy because I can’t do anything when I’m on the phone.

[LovingJo]

😂 😂

[Jamie05rhs]

Yes, but sparingly. When men talk to each other, we don't talk for the sake of talking. We get to the point, make the point, and then stfu.

[LovingJo]

[Jamie05rhs]

@LovingJo Lol

[Jamie05rhs]

Update 1: No, not necessarily. There are plenty of other reasons to be online.

Update 2: Sadly, true. Although it isn't totally because of a lack of intimacy with men. Because men were made to have a relationship with a woman and have intimacy with her. You can't replace that with even your best guy friend, no matter how great your relationship is. It just doesn't work that way.

[dragoblack]

Usually if our guy friends are going through emotional problems, we are there for them.. because we sure as hell know, no one else want to listen to nor acknowledge our emotions and be there for us when emotionally vulnerable.
Bros be there for eachother.
Aside from the emotional junk, we talk about common interests and hang out opportunities.

[RyanK9b]

I dont know how to answer that.
We just don't, we are rational problem solvers. There is no chit chat

[RyanK9b]

We can't be open to females only to males.
So real guys will never speak with you about hard problems.

[LovingJo]

That's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard, in my life!! 💯

[RyanK9b]

Deal with it. You will never hear real problems from successful guys bc it will be to much for you and will shatter your word view.

Its better you stay in the dark otherwise it will be like a switch in your head that butchers your relationship.

[LovingJo]

🤣🤣🤣 Oh.. My.. God!! 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[RoastedToast]

No not really. With my guys if we have no purpose we don't talk until something comes up and we pickup where we left off. I haven't spoken to one of my mates since February but I know he's doing good so when something comes up we'll talk like nothing happened and arrange catch-up

[Sanser]

I usually talk with my guy friends so I dont really think this is a thing... I dont care about gender at all. Of course I have a special girl in a chat or something like that but I talk with friends to have a good time.

[Fireguy17]

I don't, it is usually straight to the point, want to go to the races today, I'm out of Schlitz, you have any?
What do we need to do at the station today.

[Billlewis]

Oh, all the time, because I'm curious about how much sex they're having and what they think about various topics, etc.

[SnowedIn]

Occasionally. Conversations are more difficult with other guys.

[Billlewis]

Of course conversations with other guys are going to be more difficult for you -- because you're an absolute stud!

[SnowedIn]

@Billlewis... okay thanks lol

[Billlewis]

Yes, sir; I think that was more a statement of fact than a compliment... lol

[spartan55]

Do you seriously have to ask this? You think we sit around and group chat about our days, and who stared at us. Is that what you honestly think we do.

[LovingJo]

Wtf is your problem? 🤔
You can clearly see be the response that this is a good question, if you don't like it, why bother to answer?

[spartan55]

Who said I don't like it? Yeah keep telling me how I feel...🙄

[LovingJo]

Oh, it must have been your great attitude. Get the fuck off my page with this shitty attitude - k?

[spartan55]

Yeah, keep telling me what to do. Hold on, I have to go DM my buddy about what happened at work today!

[LovingJo]

LOL 🥱

[exitseven]

yes, we talk about all the usual stuff, football, beer, cars and Arnold Schwarzenegger movies.

[Astarlessnightsky]

Ofcourse i chat with friends and maybe some strangers.

[DrKrieger]

I'd say the average dude won't elicit random conversations with other guys, like they would with a girl. However, I do message people all the time who have similar interests/hobbies.

[Iron_Man]

Not really only if it’s help needed or they’re actually friends on social media and we just talk about other users for example

[Guardian45]

Guys don't usually chat online, unless it's about something important like a sports game, video game, movie, food or booze!

[TallAnon]

Yeah, once in a while I message to a bro, chat for like half an hour and then we see eachother like half a year later again, haha

[TallAnon]

Update; No, there's also group chats, games, even homework could cause the behaviour

[Sparkie460]

I have friends that when we talk, we'll talk for a while

[Still-alive]

Sometimes i do. Not as often though ill admit.

[JesseP1nk]

Sure we talk. For example i talk to my brother almost everyday random stuff. But i think men conversations are shorter than women

https://www.youtube.com/embed/hUs-x4UeMS4

[bananathunder]

Yes. I use certain apps instead of texting my friends

[Hanrej]

Rarely. We usually need a purpose to communicate.

[AgentG111]

Depending on the subject or topics yes I chat with other men and apps.

[AngryCarl2]

Men don't chat. We do exchange important information.

[Mansearching]

Always a purpose

[Andres77]

On rare occasions

[msc545]

not really, no

[Alex8736]

When talking to family, friends and colleagues

[CubaPirate]

Only to friends on hete

[CubaPirate]

Here

[BLP11520]

Why men are boring

[BLP11520]

>> Sports, guns and politics and the my wife is a bitch speech... yawn

[Kelly6]

I'm here for results

[Anonymous]

Yes, but it's always dirty stuff.

[dougeats]

only when im in the mode for cock tbh

[Tstrbrainer]

Wait, guys chat with guys? 🤔

[Tstrbrainer]

We chat only when there is something to chat

[Bklynbadboy12]

I rarely do

[eagle1951]

i don't