Guys, have you ever left an awesome girl thinking, "if I can get someone amazing like her, I probably can do better"?

Question

Did landing a girl that ticked all the boxes give you an ego boost thinking you could do even better than her?

TheSpaceGnome · Accepted Answer

What kind of nonsense is that?

I don't consider anyone out of my league because that mentality in general is based on bias, and if the first girl isn't my ideal woman, then I'm not going to settle for her to begin with, so there wouldn't be anyone to leave, and their isn't any insecurity to get fixed with an ego boost.

I also don't even have an ego, that shit is for losers who let peers mold them and feel the need to boast as a self defense mechanism against people's negative opinions of them. Being that concerned about the opinions of others is just a weird way to think in my opinion.

Also, if she ticked all the boxes, how can someone else be "better" than her? Ticking all the boxes is literally at the very top of "better", plus when you add in having a social history history her, even another girl who ticks all the boxes isn't as good as one I have fond memories with, as that creates emotional attachment.

Lionman95 · Accepted Answer

Yes when I entered university there was a girl that I tickled nearly all boxes but one. To me back then the problem was that I looked for something adventorous not sexual but in terms of life. Like I wanted to go out , have fun and try out things, also I come from a family where women aren´t quite but instead speak about what´s on their mind.
She on the other hand was the Christian good girl so to say. I actually regret never asking her out because to me she seemed too chilled and being used to women that tell you what they want I didn´t know how to interact with her. Later in life I met her again and had to realise that I misunderstood her and interpreted her actions wrong she´s married now and I had been in contact with her and her husband for some time until the pandemic hit.

provokeesmokee · Accepted Answer

Not a guy, but a gay.

That's never been my motivator for leaving. It's usually been either (for the men) disappointment in their incompetence and poor self-control, or (for the women) not a good fit between necessary compatability for me.

It's never been because I think I can find someone better - especially not because I already found a good partner. That's not really how I think about things. I don't like to count chickens before they hatch.

Why risk a good thing just because of my own ego?

I leave if there's a reason to leave. "What if someone else, but better" isn't a good reason to leave someone. Especially when there ISN'T someone else, because I don't cheat.

Anonymous · Answer

Never. That would be a stupid thing to do. Seems like there are very few women like that these days so if a man found someone like that who checked all boxes it would be in his best interest to stay w her.

Juxtapose · Answer

No lol 😆 What kind of narcissistic, bullshit process is that?

msc545 · Answer

No I wasn't trying to do better. I was just trying to get someone who was sane.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No. Any time I've left an awesome girl it was because we were just not meant to be, and continuing would be wasting her time and mine.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Nope. That whole "thinking you can do better" thing is pretty much exclusively done by women. Men aren't under the impression they have control in the dating game.