Guys, how would you react after a girl told you she's not the perfect girlfriend?

[linka_pat307]

[crossdressingrihno]

Nobody wants perfect, perfect is boring
Anyway it's good to admit your shortcomings but if you're doing it for attention that would just put me off if you were just saying it because that's how you felt that's a whole other story in that case it would be sad and Happy

Sad because if you love someone you don't want them to hurt

Happy because if someone is caring about you that much then how could you not be happy about that

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Isn't that normal? Only God is perfect.

[ohshee]

I would say if people o ly listen to themselves.. I would say we all know things before we know them.. if you.. re read What you wrote. That's not you telling him your not the perfect girl friend.

This is you telling yourself it's not going to last and and these are the reason why. And these are thing that you need to work on

Not to be the perfect girl friend
It would be to work on your self

these are areas in your life that you know. you're not the best at.

you don't quite know how to handle it
because you haven't experienced or you have experienced. And these are the things you felt..



And the other thing is guys don't want the perfect girlfriend they either want a perfect girl. Or they want the perfect friend.. they can't have both because for some reason that confuses guys they can't think of both of them at the same time.
Growing guys were never taught about that. Didn't experience but they have experienced a girl a girl as their friend and they have experienced a friend as a friend so if you understand that the friend is going to have more of a bond with him and more loyalty so think of you as his friend because that's what a guy wants a best friend they see things different they communicate different there is no jealousy because all you have to do is look into that person's eyes and they will say I love you if you're jealous you jealous for no reason there's nothing you can do about it so why take yourself there you don't need an excuse to be angry

A perfect friend knows that if she yells that he's not going to hear a word.. never give your men your heart. You keep your heart so you can love yourself cuz the more you love yourself the more you're in love with yourself. There is a difference.
So with love trust. You can only Give what you have experienced so I wouldn't react I would just listen to what she says and tells her there's a better way and please I hope you understand what I'm trying to say I think it's cool and it came from your heart and it's who you are right now in this moment

[MrOracle]

No one is perfect. No one is even close to perfect. We all have problems, shortcomings, and weaknesses. ALL of us.

What's important is that we know what they are, and that we do our best to fight them. Knowing what they are, and NOT trying to temper them is not okay - you have to actively work to improve those areas of your life. Everyone needs to do this, though not everyone does it.

You also need to be prepared to apologize when you make a mistake. We all make them, and sometimes we hurt our partners when we do. We need to own those mistakes and not try to pretend we didn't make them, or that they didn't cause others pain. We need to take responsibility for what we do, especially when it's the wrong thing.

We also need to make sure that we're compatible with our partners BEFORE we make them partners. Some people can handle your weaknesses, and some can't. Likewise, you can handle some people's weaknesses, but not others. It's important to find a good match, because you can't change other people - they're always going to be who they are - so if you can't accept their limitations and weaknesses, you need to move on.

[FictionalCharacter]

I tell my boyfriend that “I’m not the perfect girlfriend. Cause of my insecurities.” Then he responds with “nooo love. You are perfect, don’t ever say that.”

Then I think: (hmph, if I’m so perfect. Why does he put me in the back burner and ignore me?)

[Phoenix-gb]

There would be some concerns, but at the same time, a clear indication that the recipient is wanted by the sender, which for a lot of guys is more than they normally get out of interactions so would be something I'd still potentially look at pursuing if those concerns could be addressed and at least managed if not outright resolved.

All relationships require work, at least this is an attempt at being honest about where the work in this might be required.

[mrsaviour]

This is how every relation works. No one is perfect at some point someone will break. the one who understands and stays are the stand ups. You might lie at the starting saying you are perfect but eventually everyone loses their shit. Even if you say these things or not its all same

[Anonymous]

There is nothing wrong with being imperfect. The problem is most people don't want to fix the flaws that can fix...

"I'll do anything I can to hold our relationship together"

“God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference.”

[AydenHazor]

With that list, take her at her eyes and not date her. I've been in verbally and emotionally abusive, manipulative, controlling relationships before and I want nothing to do with it.

In general, it depends on her reasoning though, as no one will make the perfect partner and both parties need to work on a relationship together

[Kaneki05]

Number 1 tip never trick yourself to thinking anyone is perfect. Everyone has flaws that's just human. Therefore I would tell her that.
I am not perfect nor is she but I want her and that's all that matters.

[WhitneySnow]

I think most guys would be happy to hear their girlfriend say this

[Anonymous]

"I'm not the perfect girlfriend"... aight. Not a problem

"I will tell at you"... yeah, twice. Once gets a warning, twice gets the door. I'm not having a chick who thinks it's fine to show disrespect. Need to rethink that one

[Somoneelse]

I think the first thing I would do is stop texting and try to meetup somewhere with her. Emotions can be hella tricky over text. Based on only letters, you can't know what emotions are hidden behind it.

[Aurora1010]

Mine wouldn't like that. He doesn't think we should keep our negative points and just focus on our emotions without trying fix our problems. And I think he's right about that.

[Shamalien]

I’d react really well to this as it shows a high level of self awareness, honesty, and maturity, which makes a person trustworthy

[Jltakk]

I would tell her something awful like "I'm not perfect either, guess that makes us perfect for each other". I don't do drama very well.

[StrawberryShake]

Sounds like me. But sadly I think most guys would only pay attention to the "I'll yell at you and get jealous" part

[exitseven]

I would tell her that she is perfect FOR ME

[linka_pat307]

So kind
Awwww

[JesseJayNeak]

At least she acknowledges that she’s ain’t perfect. I mean no one is

[Iron_Man]

Wow I have a gag girlfriend just like you on the site

[Iron_Man]

But of course she’s older

[Anonymous]

I'd tell her to find someone her own age since I'm not into 11 year olds

[In_Trance]

"perfect" does not exist and therefore impossible to be an expectation