Whay the hell does this mean?

[Anonymous]

Conversation with me and a friend who I sleep with causally sometimes.

me: it’s not that ion want to i just don’t know if i’m comfortable enough to spend the night at your house like that rn
me:idkkk what to sayyy, can’t you ask somebody else to spend the night? i’m sorry I don't know how to helpppp rn 🫶🏻 we can always chill tomorrow or next weeeek
him: alright that's cool it was just a question.
me: look i’m sorry i’m just trying to help and give you options
him: i know girly, I don't know if you understand that or not”

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+1 y

The whole conversation was about me sleeping at his place. I said “Probably not.” And he responds with “Then there’s my answer 😂😂😂” and then the conversation continues. When I said, I don’t know if I’m comfortable enough.

[Massageman]

The part about "I'm sorry I don't know how to helppp" confuses me.

Are you platonic friends or bed buddies?

You could be sleeping there because your house and bed burned up, or for more intimate reasons. Once you get that sorted out, things might get a bit clearer.

[SnowedIn]

Oh. Here's what I think. I think he thinks he was offering you sex. And I think he thinks you didn't understand that. And that's the source of his last sentence about girly you don't understand.

[spartan55]

I don't think your ideas of what he is implying is even close to the truth. I actually doubt he is implying anything. Guys aren't about talking in code.

[MementoMori777]

hard to tell if i have no clue whats being spoken about

[Asker]

Updated question !

[MementoMori777]

then he just seems to have accepted it, nothing more, I don't know what you want me to tell you tbh

[Asker]

Like is he implying that he has options, but if he had other options then he wouldn’t be asking me to spend the night. Or is implying that he knows I’m trying to help.

[MementoMori777]

you do know im not gonna have the answer to that right? lol

i really dont understand ehy youd sabotage yourself like that but if he isn't too worried about it then i would assume he has options yes and since you told him about hanging tomorrow im pretty sure he already created the idea like "alright ill fuck this other girl tonight and then tomorrow ill fuck her (you) with this chat you basically said "go fuck someone else and then tomorrow we can hang, which i would assume y'all both know how thats gonna end

[mommymommymommy]

you're fucking him, but you're not sure if you're comfortable sleeping at his place?

[TallAnon]

He was disappointed, that's all that's in this convo

[Tstrbrainer]

Not sure. Maybe we can sleep and find out?

[Asker]

updated question

[Tstrbrainer]

Why are you not comfortable?

[Asker]

He’s really hurt me in the past. And I’m just not comfortable enough right now for that.

[Tstrbrainer]

Understandable

[In_Trance]

It means he'll find someone else

[Anonymous]

All you had to say was “no”.

[Asker]

I understand that, but I don’t understand what he meant by “I know girly. I don’t know if you understand that or not.”

[Opinion Owner]

I didn't understand that part either. maybe he was drunk and talking nonsense.

[Asker]

Like is he implying that he has options, but if he had other options then he wouldn’t be asking me to spend the night. Or is implying that he knows I’m trying to help.

[Opinion Owner]

Why do you care what he implies?

[Asker]

am I the only one who feels like he sounded salty when he said “all right that’s cool I was just a question.” when I told him I wasn’t comfortable enough like that right now.

[Asker]

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