If you are in a very small room with a guy that you don't know well, do u care if he closes the door while you are there or not?

[dirsto]

you are just working/studying

[OlderAndWiser]

What is the setting? A study carrel in a library? Office in an office building? Bedroom in a shared house?

Why does the door need to be closed?

Do you ask the female if she objects to you closing the door?

[dirsto]

Office in an office building

[OlderAndWiser]

Why does the door need to be closed?

Do you ask the female if she objects to you closing the door?

[dirsto]

it does not. is it impolite if I close it while she is there without asking her.. it is a very small room.

[OlderAndWiser]

It is being insensitive to her unless she is a close friend who knows she can trust you.

[dirsto]

why is it insensitive though?

[OlderAndWiser]

She doesn't know you, does not know your intentions, does not know if you are a gentleman or a scoundrel looking for an opportunity, and this would trigger alarms in many women.

[dirsto]

thank u! even in an office environment u would be alarmed?

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, because - as you admitted - there was not a compelling reason to close the door.

[dirsto]

thank u!