Am I going crazy or do I just need to chill out?

[Cancerbby92]

My boyfriend really doesn’t spend anytime with me anymore like he use to in the beginning. he goes out with his friends and family he will just come get our 6 month son and just leave me at home. when he’s not working he wants to go out on weekends without me it’s been happening for awhile now and Im ready to just call it quits. it’s been two years now for us and I just mentioned to him about me wanting to start my own business he doesn’t say anything but he just went to the game room and spent over 2,000.

[_Maya_]

You're not going crazy. He's just not living up to his end of the relationship. It takes time and effort from both people and he'd rather spend that time doing other things. The novelty of a new relationship has worn off. I hope he is doing enough with his (and your) son at least. If he can make time to go out with family and friends then he can make time to be at home with you are your son. He just doesn't seem like he is grasping the whole idea of what it means to have a family. You give up some things when you bring kids into it.

[Cancerbby92]

You are exactly right! And he’s 34 now so I thought he wouldn’t gotten all of that out of his system when our son came. He’s so different now and he gets real upset if I go out

[_Maya_]

Wait he gets upset with you if YOU go out but it is okay for him to do it? Wow.

[Cancerbby92]

Yes!!! He just told me I don’t need to be out late I need to be in the house with our son like I don’t be home already all the time.

[_Maya_]

What an ass.

[pathfinder69420]

Maybe you should have higher standards? The guy put you in the hospital once. You surround yourself with people who use you and take you for granted. You treat people who actually care about you and love you more than words like total garbage. Maybe disconnect from romantic engagements and get right before you hurt more people? No? Okay. Stay away from me.

[April_love]

Yes I think he lost interest or seeing someone break up so you can find someone who really wants your time and appreciate your effort

[Cancerbby92]

I agree! I just told him this and he swear up and down he loves me so much and that he thinks I’m the one cheating

[April_love]

Yeah that’s not right toxic get out of the relationships and if he ask why don’t get upset keep your cooll and say you know why let him pack his own stuff

[madhatters4]

i mean it sounds like your relationship has fizzled. it sounds like you two aren't really in a relationship beyond sharing a kid... at least based on what you described here

[Cancerbby92]

Yeah it’s dead already. I confirmed this two weeks ago. And then he claims the reason he don’t take me around his friends is because he says I’m way too nice.. basically he thinks I’ll flirt with his friends

[madhatters4]

well that is absurd

[madhatters4]

thanks for MHO

[bingbongbangbung]

Time to give him an ultimatum then... or maybe seek couple's counselling I don't know

[pathfinder69420]

Maybe you should have higher standards? The guy put you in the hospital once. You surround yourself with people who use you and take you for granted. You treat people who actually care about you and love you more than words like total garbage. Maybe disconnect from romantic engagements and get right before you hurt more people? No? Okay. Stay away from me.

[boggboss]

Have u not spoken to him about this

[Cancerbby92]

Yes. All the time and I’m tired of mentioning it now. I’m just so tired now. We walk around the house not speaking to each other…

[boggboss]

Clearly your relationship is t
Dead then already