Guys, I’m a mistress who just went off on my married partner bc he never shows any effort or spends money on me. I know he cares about me?

[Anonymous]

So why not just shut me up by getting me flowers or something. His response is: that’s just the way I am. I went off the handle. What can I expect from him moving forward?

[OlderAndWiser]

You are not the most important woman in his life and you never will be. You can try to maintain an illusion in your head but you will eventually be confronted with reality. He is a cheater and loyalty is a foreign concept to him. In the meanwhile, he enjoys having sex with you. That's all it is. If he loved you, he would be with you and not with his wife.

[Berethor]

Or he should be with both without hiding it, that's what polyamory is about. :)

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[OlderAndWiser]

@Berethor Obviously, his wife is not interested in that or the dude would have them both at his house.

[Asker]

You are not wrong

[Anonymous]

You’re a mistress what do you expect? His side chick. If he wanted to treat you the way you want him to treat you, you’d be his girl, not his mistress. It’s purely sexual. Those types of gestures to me show a love that should only be shown to his wife. Although what he’s doing w you is screwed up, still that something directed toward his wife, not you. If you want that in a relationship then stop being his side chick, his booty call, find someone who will treat you that way. You really can’t complain.

[Berethor]

Well why you need him to buy you stuff? can't you enjoy being with him without that? :)

[Asker]

I guess I just want to feel special. I’m very successful, have my own home , cars, business etc. our time is limited, just want to feel like he cares. Actions > words

[Berethor]

If you have so much money then you are the one who should buy his stuff. :)

[Asker]

Lol , I’m honestly a giver, and would spoil him if he didn’t have to explain where it came from to his wife

[Berethor]

It says that you are 18-24, how you got so rich? your dad has helped you a lot? :)

[Asker]

I’m closer to 40 😉

[Berethor]

Then why you lied? and he is much younger? and you are his sugar mama? :)

[Asker]

No he’s about 10 years older

[Berethor]

I see, what you like about being mistress? why are you okay with that deal? :)

[intovertedguy]

Why are you with a man who is married instead of being with a man who only has a relationship with you?
With a married man his wife will always come first and you will always come last.
He's the one benefiting the most from your relationship, he is intimate with two women whereas you and is wife have to share him (although his wife doesn't knows about it).
You're a giver so stop wasting your time with him and find someone to whom you can give fully and openly your love and whom will reciprocate it to you.

[ProbablyClueless]

Girl, your his affair partner... the most an affair partner can ever expect is to be a sex toy.

[spartan55]

You can expect to be treated like a cheap piece of ass.

[zero444440000]

why did you marry him? what do you like about him? like i need context in order to give a good answer

[Berethor]

She didn't marry him, she is his side chick, he is married to other woman.

[zero444440000]

@Berethor "Guys, I’m a mistress who just went off on MY married partner"

[Berethor]

@zero444440000 he is "her" married partner, but he is not married to her. :)

[zero444440000]

@Berethor maybe that is what she meant, still confusing wording.

[Anonymous]

You can expect to get what you get. Because you're the side piece. That's just the way it is.

[SnowedIn]

Nothing. You can (and should) expect nothing.

[barn_stormer]

you're just a side whore. you deserve nothing.