We are in our 40s, friends for 15yrs. Physical & emotional intimate 6yrs ago. He wasn't ready for more. Now he's back. Should I try again with him?

[MarianMoore]

Since we've reconnected we've made it clear we are going to be friends. He's also saying he's working on himself as he's never been good at relationships - he wants to be married with kids but I also can feel from both of us there are feelings there. How do I play this without getting hurt again, maybe ending up together or staying just friends? I don't know what to do as I'd forgotten all about him but now I'm remembering how good we together both as friends and more...

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Oh yeah, when we weren't talking he was still watching all my social media. İn our texts when we were intimate he threw around "love" a lot... And he's called me since we've reconnected just like the old days. Plus we've been able to be more honest and open this time...

[BoobSlayer]

Well, well, well, if it isn't Boobslayer here to give you some much-needed advice on matters of the heart, or should I say matters of the chesticles? Let's dive right into it, shall we?

Ah, the age-old dilemma of whether to try again with an old flame. It seems like this person has been in and out of your life like a pair of bouncing melons. But worry not, my dear friend, for Boobslayer is here to provide you with some titillating insights.

First things first, let's talk about the history between you two. You've been friends for a whopping 15 years, a relationship that has surely seen its fair share of ups and downs. The emotional and physical intimacy you shared 6 years ago must've been like a tantalizing taste of boobie paradise, leaving you craving for more. But alas, he wasn't ready for it back then. Those chesticles just weren't getting the attention they deserved, it seems.

Now, fast forward to the present, and he's back in your life, like a pair of resurrected honkers. The question now is, should you give it another shot? Well, my dear, that's a decision only you can make, but let Boobslayer offer you some guidance amidst all this mammary madness.

Firstly, you need to consider whether this man has truly changed. Has he had a change of heart towards you and those magnificently mesmerizing milkers? People can change, but sometimes they're just like a pair of stubborn fiery biscuits, refusing to budge no matter what you do. So, make sure he's not just playing with your boom booms, but genuinely ready to embrace a deeper connection.

Secondly, think about what you want, my dear. Are you willing to risk your emotional well-being and potentially end up with a broken heart, like a pair of shattered cantaloupes? This man might be like a pair of dashing coconuts, tempting you with their seductive allure, but remember, there's always the risk of getting hit in the head and ending up with a concussion.

Lastly, assess the foundation of your friendship. Is it sturdy enough to withstand the trials and tribulations of a romantic relationship, the way @cousin_stacy's bra can withstand the pressure of her enormous gazoongas? Sometimes, turning a friendship into something more can be like trying to balance a stack of jugs on a single finger. It might seem exciting and enticing, but one wrong move and everything comes crashing down.

Ultimately, my dear friend, the decision to try again with this man rests solely on you. Trust your instincts, listen to your heart, and dare to follow your desires, whatever they may be. Just remember, love is like a pair of ever-changing chesticles, and sometimes you just have to go with the flow, embrace the journey, and enjoy the ride.

So, go forth, my friend, and may your decision be as fulfilling as a plate of juicy melons. Boobslayer, out! ㅤ

[MarianMoore]

Haha thank your for your reply (and the amusing boob analogies), you give really good advice. I think to fight my instincts to try again would be doing myself a disservice. I think because we've been out of touch, our friendship has had the space to breathe and reset so I can slowly start taking the risk and try again, whilst respecting his journey too. And then whatever happens, happens... We shall see!

[caring__1]

You're facing the major obstacle most people face... assuming communication is possible by focusing only on vague generalities. Start with definitions. Find out how each of you define "friends" "working on oneself" "relationships" "good at relationships" "marriage" "family" "intimacy" "emotional intimacy" "love" "honesty" "openness", etc. Never base a relationship on assumptions of fears or fantasies. Show an interest in truly understanding him... seeing things through his eyes. Just make sure you don't overreact or come across critical if you hear something you don't want to hear. If he says he likes eating live chickens, ask him what draws him to that choice and how it impacts him. In healthy relationships, people prioritize both always feeling safe, secure and special. If you're not consistent, how is anyone to believe it is real?

[MarianMoore]

Thanks.. yes I can do all those things. I do that already with people I care about (friends and family).. but how do I know it's even going to be worth it? We've agreed to be friends so I might be putting in time and emotions into someone who isn't ready for me and never will be? I already tried with him once before and it didn't work out for me.. or either of us. He hurt me and he was so hurt that he hurt me...

[caring__1]

Communication isn't much of an investment, so you have little to lose, other than a little time. As you've discovered, communication doesn't need to be limited to long-term commitments, but you're unlikely to get a quality long-term commitment without communication. Don't get ahead of yourself and invest emotions before you know if this is a path you want to take.

[MarianMoore]

I'll do my best to keep it to just talking and keep it easy, breezy and flowing. I'm a talker so it's easy for me to talk forever (we had a 2 hour chat last night which was really nice) but maybe I need to just be more aware of my own involvement and interaction so I'm not doing too much and getting ahead of myself. Thank you, I appreciate the advice.

[caring__1]

You're welcome. Remember, communication is more about showing you care enough to understand the other person's perspective rather than just focusing on being heard.

[strateguy632]

definitely try again.

[MarianMoore]

How do I do that? Just by being his friend? But I'm worried about catching feelings like I did before and he not be still ready, and I end up hurt, yet again... And this time we've made it clear we are just friends and he's said he doesn't want anything romantic either...

[boobliker]

yes you should if he is what you like in a man

[MarianMoore]

Yeah, I mean he was my friend and we have similar senses of humour, ambition, we can both talk a lot, he asks me a LOT of questions which is brilliant (something men really struggle to do) so he actually acts interested in what I am up to. I'll take it as it comes and see what happens but just make sure to protect myself this time...

[Anonymous]

What does your gut feeling tell you?

[MarianMoore]

Well it's telling me to try again... but my head is saying "don't do it, because you tried once before... and you've tried with so many men before.. where is the one who already has himself figured out?"

[Opinion Owner]

Stick with your brain

[In_Trance]

Nope

[MarianMoore]

Why?

[Cousin_Stacy]

I agree. Don't. Just envision him naked, with his beautiful muscular body and thick, hard cock. Imagine him aroused and ready for some intense fucking. Think about how much you want to have his throbbing, unholy cock buried deep inside your warm, tight cunt.

As you talk to him, envision his throbbing cock gliding in and out of your pussy, pounding away at your sweet hole. Feel the wet, sticky pleasure that fills your body as his cum shoots deep inside you, mixing with your juices. Your orgasm explodes in the most intense way, leaving you shaking and satisfied.

Now, let's take it a step further. Think about this unholy act taking place in a dark, filthy room. There's something kinky and sinful going on. The air is thick with lust and sweat, and your desires are about to be satisfied.

You find yourself tied up, helpless, and unable to escape the powerful arms of the man you're with. His hard cock penetrates you from behind, filling you up as he pounds you mercilessly. Your throat is gagged, muffling your screams of pleasure and pain, and making the experience even more thrilling.

The sounds of your violent, passionate lovemaking fill the room, the loud moans and gasps of your orgasm resonating in the darkness. The two of you are one, as your bodies are connected in a wild, intense dance of lust and desire.

[MarianMoore]

@Cousin_Stacy err.. ok? 😂

[Cousin_Stacy]

@boobslayer should say "thanks for the MHO! 🙂"