He’s not doing the things he used to? We’re still good friends and hang out, I don’t want to give up?

[Anonymous]

Ok so I started this new job & I met this guy, we started having casual sex then a couple days after I met this other guy at work and we started having casual sex. So I stop w the first guy & just have a casual relationship w the second one. Well we start spending a lot of time together & kinda date, I say kinda bc I had just got out a 6 yr relationship so I wasn’t rushing into anything. Well to lay all the cards out, I wasn’t really into the relationship because he wasn’t all I wanted in a partner & I kinda behaved like that. Months are starting to go by & well I start a second job, surprisingly I start having a flirtatious relationship with my boss. My “bf” knew more then he led off bc I would come home & talk about my boss to him & he could sense I was into him. Then one night I get drunk & have sex w my boss & go home to my “bf”, I know horrible! So that starts so much! We start having problems & then we go out one night & get in a fight, I get so black out drunk, his friend take me home & we sleep together. Huge mess! So I start to see my “bf” really “loves” me & wants to be w me, I need to be all in. So I do exactly that bc @ that point I see potential, I’m all in completely loyal. There’s still problems & he try’s to distance himself & I get possessive bc no! I was fine not getting too involved. The casual relationship was great for me, sex was amazing I had company when I wanted I was fine! We’re a year in & i been putting in the work but he’s shutting me out! He no longer has sex w him or any Intimacy. He says he’s depressed or focused, & that we’re still bestfriends he hurt still, but like I’m here & all that but I still want sex. His penis is the one I want forever it’s perfect & I’m just so confused bc I just want sex from him rn, I’m going insane. I keep overthinking it’s something else & it’s making us more apart bc I don’t understand. Am I the only that felt something special? I want him to just open up & be honest if it’s something else. Help!

[SueShe]

The first sentence was enough for me to have an opinion about you. I did not finish reading the lengthy paragraph.

Obviously, I would react the same if I knew that my co-workers gets intimate to such an extend with other co-workers while being in a "relationship".

You are not propagating the best view of yourself and word gets around quickly among co-workers. No wonder that he wants to distance himself from you. Any excuse is good enough because he is most likely very disappointed in your behavior.

Ask yourself why you act the way you do and you will get the reply you are seeking.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like what you really want is him as a boyfriend

[bean2k21]

[FilmGuy93]

You seriously don't see why he's acting different after you put up a wall?

[In_Trance]

I don't think you're being honest with yourself