Why do some men change their whole personality around women they are attracted to?

[Anonymous]

- Is it a manipulation tactic to try and seduce the woman? Are they only looking for short term?

- Are they desperate to get the woman?

- Is it just part of attraction, getting closer to your crush?

- Isn't it counterproductive to establish a long-term relationship, since it will bring out frustration in them for not being themselves?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

Women do it again too. It's a natural, human interaction. Happens for the same reason you act different in a job interview. It's largely subconscious.

That's why dating is so important. As you go through stressful or unique situations together, you become more comfortable being yourselves. Eventually the relationship falls into a certain dynamic based on the choices you both made along the way. It's really only at that point you can know if you're good for eachother.

[rigmarole]

Every person gets treated differently. Just because you saw someone act one way towards one person, does not mean they will act the same way toward all people. Interactions are a two way street. They can be very positive, very negative, or somewhere in the gray in between. It doesn't mean someone is being fake when they treat one person good and another person bad.

[ProbablyClueless]

The guy wants to impress the woman, usually, so he tries to put his best foot forward.

[Asker]

But is he sincere or playing?

[ProbablyClueless]

Sincere. I don't think guys intentionally mislead women. Both genders have an unfortunate habit of putting forward an unsustainably good first impression without considering the fact they would need to find a way to keep it going.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input!

[Lokiion]

A lot of guys don’t even realize they change how they act