Guys, you get have a girlfriend - or wife - do you think you are entitled to have sex whenever you feel like even if girlfriend/wife isn't up to it?

[Anonymous]

Someone responded to another of my posts with an attitude that is a definition of what is a spousal rapist

"No wife would say no to her husband just like that if there's no real good excuse behind it and the husband doesn't needs a permission to access his wife's body"

This is a claim by what society calls a spousal rapist nowadays. And that has ALWAYS been the case unfortunately in the past police & courts rarely charged vermin for raping their wife.

Regardless it shows a blatant lack of respect for the woman herself and puts her in a category more along property to do with as one likes rather than a fellow human being.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

She never has to if she doesn't want to regardless. Guys need to have a release every so often, it's healthier. We can always get ourselves off. If a girl didn't want sex for a long time, I would feel she was no longer sexually attracted to me.

[Asker]

That's entirely different if a woman constantly puts off having sex then somethings amiss - either she's having some sort of medical issue and/or worst she's cheating. What my post is about is expecting a woman to have sex whenever a man feels like it even if she's not interested / willing

[Berethor]

She is likely cheating or she asexual, both things are clearly bad, she is bad.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

No he shouldn't expect her to, if she doesn't want to.

[Berethor]

Then why he needs her? he should cheat on her or leave her I would say.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

@Berethor Sometimes she isn't interested in sex because the guy never did anything to get her turned on. Women need a build up of sexual tension sometimes.

[Berethor]

@AjayOnTheInternet clearly not the case here and he totally should expect her to.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

@Berethor So if your "girlfriend" says "No, I'm not feeling it right now.", you're telling me she has no choice? You gotta be fucked up in the head to think she can't say no to you.

[Berethor]

@AjayOnTheInternet she have choice but I have choice to leave her for that too.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

@Berethor Absolutely, you can, but every girl I've been in a long relationship with has told me no at one point or another. They just weren't in the mood at the time, but we still had sex a few times a week.

[Berethor]

@AjayOnTheInternet okay, and I was talking more about no sex for a long time.

[AjayOnTheInternet]

@Berethor That's what I thought she meant too at first. Then the Asker said the question was, "Does a girl have to, when a man wants to, but she doesn't want to."

[Berethor]

@AjayOnTheInternet still don't make clear for how much time she don't want to.

[Asker]

@Berethor There's more to life than sex. You want that, hire a prostitute. If you can't offer a woman more than sex WHY should she be wasting her time with you?

[Berethor]

@Asker I rather hire a cook can cleaner, and she is the one who is wasting my time.

[Anonymous]

No, husbands are not entitled to sex whenever they want it, and if a husband forces himself on his wife against her will, that's rape.

Having said that, sex is an expectation in marriage, and rightly so. A wife who denies her husband sex on a regular basis or uses sex as a tool to manipulate her husband is every bit as bad as a husband who rapes his wife. It's a two-way street.

[Berethor]

He should not force himself, he should cheat or leave, she a useless partner.

[Billlewis]

Oh, no, not at all. If anything, I expect my sexual access to her to be even more restricted after the wedding, and if she chooses to impose a regimen of strict celibacy on me, I trust her completely.

[ProbablyClueless]

Not entitled to sex, no. But it's quite a statement about a relationship when sex becomes weaponized.

Men aren't entitled to their partner's body, but we also don't deserve to have our desire for our partner used against us.

[boobliker]

it a two way street but yes mostly and if she want driving to work I not a taxi. so we both give and take but sex should never be a bargening tool as most girls do here in the UK

[Berethor]

He should not drive her anywhere if she don't put out, he should punish her by that.

[dudeinohio]

A wife should carry out her duties when asked. A guy should not force a woman if she says no.

[Asker]

And are not YOUR duties to treat her well in sickness & health or do vowes only work when it's useful for you?

[dudeinohio]

Yes. I take my duties very seriously.

[Asker]

@dudeinohio - obviously not by what you said

[dudeinohio]

Believe what you want to believe.

[Asker]

"A wife should carry out her duties when asked. " - No where in marriage does it say sex is a duty so no you don't take your duties or vows as important. Douchebag

[dudeinohio]

Thank you for your comments, they have been noted.

[exitseven]

I have been married for many years and have never done that

[Berethor]

What the point if being married to her in that case? she is useless I would say.

[Anonymous]

Nope, but if I am married there should be sex on a regular occurrence. Or one of us isn't fulfilling or spousal duties.

[Asker]

Where is it written that it IS spousal duties? I mean you have 70, 80 & 90 year olds who are happily married & they haven't had sex in years if not decades.

[Opinion Owner]

It is in the vows.

[Asker]

ROFL. Not in traditional vows.

[Opinion Owner]

Not explicitly, but it is there.

[Asker]

ROFL. So it exists only in your head.

[Opinion Owner]

You can believe that if you want.

[Berethor]

She is useless, don't put out, the man should leave her or cheat on her I would say.

[boobliker]

But also if SHE keeps his balls empty he will stay true,

[Anonymous]

Nope, only men who consider their girl as escort would do that

[Berethor]

He need an escort if he with a useless woman like that or he need to leave her.

[Opinion Owner]

@Berethor I don't know man, they are not "entitled" to have sex that's what I feel

[Berethor]

@Anonymous but they are, a woman that don't put out is useless as partner.

[Anonymous]

No, I would not feel entitled to have sex whenever I desired it.