Guys can you be just friends with a girl?

[Anonymous]

Recently me and a guy friend fell off I don't know why other than him randomly saying ”why dont you talk to me anymore, you dont need me” he seemed rlly hurt and then started complaining and saying that unlike him i was more social, i tried to explain the point was because i had been dating when we stopped talking for a while he started saying ”there’s no point to me then, i dont get it” it was like him saying there's no point for him talking to me unless we were dating? I wouldn't be

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Okay wow i just came back from an outing love that people answered i expected one response or none so thank you guys for your opinion!! 🥰

Would like to ask what u guys think specifically about my situation i commented on what should i do with that friend? To me it seems like he has feelings im not sure tho im a bit oblivious when it comes to that

[blueonblack22]

Just curious how often do you see straight men seeking out and approaching women “just to be friends with”. Why is always women who so confidently want to believe men want this.

Do not get me wrong. We might become friends through happenstance via a mutual activity (school, work, hobbies, etc.). I have one long time gal pal who I became friends with 15 years ago via a business venture. She isn’t ugly but I never felt attracted to her. The thought of seriously dating her never crossed my mind. But again I wouldn’t have ever approached her because I never looked at her that way. We became friends via a professional activity.

Bottom line warm blooded man is going to approach a woman just to be friends with her and you ladies need to once and for all ACCEPT THAT. Seriously. Quit deluding yourself otherwise because that’s just the hard truth. There is a reason for that and it isn’t just because all we want is sex. No it’s respect issue and the ugly truth is most women are a liability to men as “just friends”. Especially if we are attracted to the woman.

This guy gave an excellent response to this on an older but much related question:

Question is what value do women bring to the friendship? I am a guy and to me my male friends are the real friends who will drop their thing to come help me, watch my back and be there for me. They will ask and give just as much.

Women on the other hand have little to offer as a friend. Put it simply they do not have the skills, talent and the temperament to be your friend. Typically they befriend you when they do not have boyfriends. The ultimate guy for a woman is a man who checks the boxes that offer her the stability of a father, the protection of a brother and the passion of a lover. In a "friend" the woman is trying to check the first two boxes because of lack of attraction for the male. She is unwilling to check the third box.

Women as friends, Ask for a gazilion favors, discuss their life drama with you, want you to be the security gaurd when they venture into new situations and 90% of the time forget you quickly once a boyfriend walks into their lonely lives and then lean on you when things go bad in that relationship.

Worst of all, they hate all the women in your life. Every woman you are dating supposedly has an ulterior motive. Every woman you like and respect is actually a bitch. Overall, They love to tag you along because you are zero liability, high utility "friend" unlike their bitchy and competitive female friends. The guy just ends up having a lot to offer in this friendship.

I have over the years written off women as friends. To me they are good companions but not friends. And let's flip it around, the same women who entertains male friends because she is not attracted to them will have zero tolerance to get into the friendzone with a guy she is attracted to. No woman has any time to enter or stay in the friendzone.

Sorry ladies. I love you as moms, sisters, aunts, grandmas but as friends for the opposite sex, there is a lot of work that needs to be done to prove yourself. I am a man, have no need or desire to feel sexless and emasculated.

[Asker]

I haven't finished reading yet but omg so true its so rare a guy ever approached me to be friends it seems to always have some kind of initial attraction to even potentiellt be friends with someone so i can understand ur point, guys definetly get friendzoned more

[Asker]

Okay wow i finished reading that pathetic comment from that guy just say you simple ”hate women” the fact ur sitting around saying ”what does the woman offer” you know how pathetic that is, that man clearly hates women and simply why he can't see or respect having them as friends bc he seems them as inferior, women have always been superior mentally, psychologically, biologically. Men are the inferior creatures with aggressive issues, caveman, primitive brains, the only reason u degrade women is because u dont see them as humans to begin with

[Asker]

How wouldn't you know what i woman offers you? It shouldn't even be a question

[Asker]

If you even value her at all

[Asker]

https://youtu.be/SPMOjevpQko?feature=shared

[blueonblack22]

I didn’t agree word for word about everything this guy wrote.

But again you need to ask yourself something. What value is there for a man to be “friends” with a woman he likes yet she’s not attracted to him? Really?

Men can (and should) accept rejection with grace. But women need to respect the position men are in. But instead they rather act dumb for their own benefit (not all women but way too many). I don’t think you will ever understand what is really feels like to be in that position. It’s agony because if the guy ultimately ends up hating himself thinking she friendzoned him because he’s not masculine enough.

[Asker]

I think its fair if someone stops being friends with someone because they simply can't handle their feelings, if anything a woman who is mature will happily move on with their life and both people dont waste time and the guy doesn't end up feeling like wanted potential. It all depends on the women he is associated with if she loves herself and respects her time, and is intentional with it. If anything i’d respect a guy a lot if he simply walks away bc of he is aware its rather devastating being friends with someone you have unrequited love for

[Asker]

Wasted potential*

[blueonblack22]

“ If anything i’d respect a guy a lot if he simply walks away bc of he is aware its rather devastating being friends with someone you have unrequited love for”

Thank you. I think we are somewhat on the same page here.

But this is where I have problem (and women need to improve upon). In my experiences most women won’t flat out speak up and (respectfully) tell men the truth in these scenarios. Instead it usually drags on while she gives him “rejection hints”. They don’t speak up because if they know they do the guy will likely move on and they lose the attention, benefits, etc. Not just young women but I’ve met grown ass women over the age of 30 who still pull this bs. It’s very insulting because they should know better.

This is one of the reasons I usually make a move (consensually) early in dating. I want the girl to know exactly where I stand so she has zero excuse to play dumb. Believe it or not always about gratification.

I grew up in a time where the phrase “friéndzone” didn’t even exist. No one warned me about this. Being a genuine nice guy I end up getting raked over the coals on several occasions. What happens is the guy feels exploited. Like she sees him as another woman and not a real man. The guy ends up hating himself after it is all said and done. He doubts and questions everything he did with the approach (his reputation suffers too).

Nobody is entitled to sex, intimacy, etc. But for men the friéndzone is actually RESPECT issue not a sex issue.. Because it really does take a lot of us to approach and pursue a woman we are interested in. Doesn’t mean he’s entitled to what he wants. But women could do a better job of understanding and respecting where he stands. Speaking up honestly (but tactfully) is actually the kindest thing you can do. Also do not ask a guy if “you can just be friends” when he’s interested but you’re not. Even if he dumb enough to agree to it, it will never be a real friendship. Attraction doesn’t make people think clearly.

[Asker]

The only reason i can understand this is because i actually tried to ”think like a man” this is where a lot of people fall short both genders included, i have noticed also a lot of girls ”delusional” or the bs accepters they will just play dumb and pull along a guy just because they want ”attention” and the whole women thing of knowing ”omg but why can't we be friends” instead of accepting and moving on, male attention validation for these kinda women, they can't live without it hence why there is so much ”situationships” friendzones and everything once a woman actually loves herself and values her time, trust you can tell by how a women speaks and carries herself whether or not she will tolerate nonesense, but yes the women who still act like teenage girls and fairytale Will still have the dimsy mentality of never accepting things as it is, the only way for a man to not waste his time is to also be firm and stick to his standards likewise for wise women. We all should try to communicate and understand eachother instead of always trying to idealise the person into ”who they want them to be” which is most definetly the biggest pitfall in dating people simply do not want to let people be who they are anymore.

[Asker]

Loneliness also people MUST try to be comfortable ALONE, before dating most people just jump from relationship to relationship, they hate themselves can't stand being alone which ends up stripping people away from their individuality and creates all these toxic nonsensical, comical relationship with no substance, its all people just clinging onto eachother bc they can't stand their pathetic self being alone, the person may not even be compatable with them but all they care about is ”as long as you’re here” these kinda relationship build up so much resentment, control issues, abuse People need to just learn to be alone and then they may actually have healthy relationships and should also spend time reflecting and changing old habits

[Asker]

Its not fully blamed on women plenty of men also use women, get territorial about a women he would never even date, just because he hates her essentially doesn’t wanna see her thrive move and live happy life, these kinds guys exist plenty, it’s extremely selfish, even the guys who won’t let go of their ex years in like 5-10 years and stuff this kinda stuff is extremely unhealthy and common. But again there is negative aspects to both genders let’s be for real now. Don’t act like men are saints. As I said that’s why I think men who walk away is respectable but it actually shows they do care it isn’t selfish to walk away from something that won’t work.

[blueonblack22]

I will never deny that men don’t have faults. by the way I have been in the reverse position with the friéndzone. I know it’s awkward. Especially when the other person is an otherwise good person but you just aren’t attracted to them. I know how what it’s like to feel guilty in that.

But honestly I just keep seeing women over and over again asking “why can’t women and men just be friends?” You don’t see guys asking that for a reason. It’s not just about sex either (big part of it but not all). The ugly truth is women don’t have as much to offer to a man as vice versa in a “friendship”. It’s just how it is.

[blueonblack22]

Also about men not getting over their exes. That’s another topic and it’s a deeper one.

[Vegasrunner]

@blueonblack22 Well said. in my opinion this is more an issue for younger guys because they are more likely to befriend women via happenstance as you mention.

[blueonblack22]

@Vegasrunner yep and there is nothing wrong with making female friends in THAT scenario.

But no hetero man is going to waste his time, hope, heart, money, etc. approaching women. I’m just really fed go with women who continue to want to believe otherwise. Not all but too many are like that.

It’s one thing if younger women still naively believe that. But there is no excuse for a woman past 30 to think like that yet. I’ve met a few who do which is insulting and bs. They know what’s going on.

[Vegasrunner]

@blueonblack22 All excellent points, however in my opinion your taking the wrong approach. I wouldn't be "fed up" with their delusion, I would simply take advantage of it. The friends belief is simply an example to highlight how naive women are. You can also apply it directly to other subject matters. I think more guys would have success w/ women if they took advantage of their ignorance vs arguing about it.

[blueonblack22]

@Vegasrunner there was a time in my life I did some of this (to a certain extent). I remember getting depressed that it was actually working. But I required me to operate in a different mindset that I don’t like doing. I got what I wanted but it always ended badly.

But I am just fed up with the “dog eat dog” society. Really am. In the last few years I just have chosen not to participate any more.

[Asker]

If you’re fed up with then move on with your life and dont entertain people like that, people will be people no matter how much u disdain it or not

[Vegasrunner]

@blueonblack22 Lol, that makes sense and it also explains why so many guys argue hard against truths of female nature.

[blueonblack22]

QA thanks for your feedback earlier. I do believe a part of you does care to understand the male POV on this. That takes mental effort and I applaud you for it.

But this is am issue most women will never fully comprehend. Most women (definitely more then half) think believe they can platonically “bond” with straight men who are interested in them the same way they can bond with another woman.

But they can’t nor should they and there is a legitimate reason for it. Men want to have their masculinity respected. That isn’t an ego thing either. It’s literally part of a man’s identity. So women who think it’s “okay” to even attempt friéndzone bullsh*t are sending men a very insulting message whether intentional or not.

So again. If a man approaches you then he’s interested. He might be just curious or he might be completely infatuated. But he’s always interested.

80% of the problems that come out of that could be avoided if women kept pretending (and hoping) it’s just a “friendship”. You can only be “best friends” with a man who is either a long time boyfriend or husband. But not a man you platonically know. No.

[Billlewis]

As a longtime cuckold who is never allowed to have any intercourse whatsoever, I've noticed a subtle difference in my demeanor and personality over the years, and I now regard myself as fairly similar to a gay guy, because I never get any pussy. I've had some very rewarding relationships with women, and one woman whom I still service orally on occasion, has told me that she enjoys describing her intimate sexual encounters with her boyfriends in vivid detail, because when she talks to me, it's almost as though she's talking to one of her girlfriends.

[JamesMI616]

Yes. Until I can't. I know that in my experience being into someone can come out of nowhere. The smallest thing can completely change the light I see her in. It can be a random comment or even some piece of information like knowing that she's an option is all it takes to get my attention. For me her interest alone is the most attractive quality she can have. I'll add that very few men are looking for friends in the fairest sex. The majority of guys who are in the friend zone because they want to be in her life but they have know idea how to make that happen. The friend zone is full of guys who wouldn't be there if it were up to them.

[strawberrybaby3]

Maybe you misunderstood what he was trying to say. It seems to me like he was saying that why just because you’re dating, did you stop speaking to him. But I understand why you would stop speaking to him. A lot of men will not be comfortable with their girlfriends having guy friends, because they know that the intention of these guy friends is to hopefully sleep with the girl.

[Asker]

I may have misunderstood but he really was making no sense when i tried to make him explain his thought process i guess he's maybe having hard time lately we barely talk other than him responding after i check in on him hah but yeah i feel like the friendship is gone he also kept saying ”you dont need me, there's no point to me” I don't know just very insecure sometimes the best thing u. Can do for someone is to let them go anything i said would bother him and irritate him

[pianogirlmeow]

Men only really become friends with girls they find attractive and more time they’ll end up liking them too. It’s annoying but that’s just how it is. He’s showing his true self. I do know there’s some guys out there that can keep it platonic, just if you asked them out they’d probably say yes.

[Asker]

So trueee

[Aiko_E_Lara]

So your logic can also mean guys can only be friends with another guy who they find attractive because they are gays. And if that's also the case then bisexuals cannot have friends.

[Vegasrunner]

@pianogirlmeow Then by definition that wouldn't be platonic.

[pianogirlmeow]

@Aiko_E_Lara That’s literally what i’ve heard from guys lol. And i’m pretty sure it’s been studied. Also what are you talking about gays and bisexuals? This is only for heterosexual men. Plentyyyy of men have admitted it in the comments here and you’re attacking me for saying the same thing.

[pianogirlmeow]

@Vegasrunner depends how pretty you are honestly. Guys think logically, if she’s pretty and they get along with her then they’ll most likely try out a relationship. That’s just the way guys are

[Aiko_E_Lara]

Plenty of men have also admit that they can actually be friends with women as not only people are sexual, people are also social beings. You're anecdotes it's not really the average. I'm talking about bisexuals for the same reason you're talking about heterosexual men. If the logic behind it is because they might fall in love, which is an assumption or just a speculation by the way, that can also be for bisexuals who can potentially be attracted to anyone who they befriend with meaning to say bisexuals cannot have friends.

[Vegasrunner]

@pianogirlmeow Agree, That's a huge mistake a lot of guys make, trying to use friendship to get laid. I do say women share some blame for naively believing a gut would want to be platonic friends w/ them.

[pianogirlmeow]

@Aiko_E_Lara Well the study was done on heterosexual males, and majority of the opinions i’ve seen and heard were from heterosexual males. This is only my opinion so that’s all i can base it on. i’m guessing the lady who wrote this is also talking about a heterosexual male so you bringing up gay and bi men is a bit irrelevant. I’ve got nothing to comment about cause i don’t know what they’re thinking.

[pianogirlmeow]

@Vegasrunner yeah it’s a shame, from a girls perspective. You enjoy the guys company, you find him funny, you just want to be friends, it’s a annoying that they’re only being friends to get something in return but it is what it is.

[pianogirlmeow]

@Aiko_E_Lara i also believe some men can be just friends with girls. I’ve said it before, i’m just repeating what i’ve heard guys say 🤷🏾‍♀️

[Vegasrunner]

@pianogirlmeow Lol, welcome to planet earth. People typically dont do something for others w/put getting something in return.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

That's because it is only from those heterosexual males they have asked. And there is also a chance that they have ignored those heterosexual male who says they can be friends with women because a man who admits they cannot be friends with women sounds more interesting than a man who say they are friends with women. And what they have also studied is only based on one culture not even world wide. The fact that people are not only sexual creatures but also social creatures, would really contradict their studies. Because it is actually studied that we are also social creatures. You never said some men can be friends with women and now you're saying it's an opinion. You're just going to contradict everything in the end dont you?

[236color]

I can be friends with women, but that's because of my life circumstances. I am in a committed monogamous relationship. I'm 64 years old and my testosterone level is now manageable. I live in a gay neighborhood and most of my female friends are lesbians. The point being even if you don't think sex is part of the equation, if he does, no you can't be friends. Understand, it may seem blatantly obvious to you that nothing sexual will ever happen between you, if he has any shred of hope that it might, you can't be friends

[Chevy1_kb]

yeah like when I was in a relashionship with my ex he said he had girls that where friends yeah right what guy that is my boyfriend has pictures on this girls facebook kissing and naked pictures of her in his phone if she's only a friends and isn't intrested in her that way and then have a one night stand and I ended up contacting this girl she said what you doing with my boyfriend cause it said on her facebook it said they met on 2020 I met him on near the end of November 2018 and after that in 2020 he started cheating and had a one night stand thatscwhat i dont want to be in a relashionship with him again a can't even trust basically a word he says

[Gail_lvsjizz]

Men and women can definitely just be friends. I have quite a few female friends and I would never go there because the friendships are too important. Why don’t you simply ask him? It’s not difficult you know. Just say “do you mean there’s no point to talking because we’re not dating “? You didn’t mention if you were into that by the way. If you are and he does mean that then it’s a bonus because he’s obviously not a close friend and if you’re not tell him straight. If you’re into him and he’s not into you just swallow that hurt and move on x

[Asker]

Its not that simply the Guy talks 1000 thoughts at once, he isn't rlly there x

[Gail_lvsjizz]

I’m not sure if you mean he’s isn’t really there because he’s a figment of your imagination or he’s not a full shilling. If it’s former you can have any kind of relationship you want with “him” if it’s the latter you should tell him he needs professional help and support. Good luck either way x

[PatientZeR0]

Of course, it can be difficult especially from the women’s perspective because men tend to expect ‘something’ in any kind of attention or relationship. I speak as imperfect person myself, but with self reflection, experience, and maturity (and dwindling sex drive) we (hopefully) learn we aren’t entitled to anything.


Over the last decade or so I’ve worked hard on myself to not sexualize women immediately or come on to strong.


Befriending women and respecting boundaries was the best thing I’ve changed about myself. women make wonderful friends.

[RedInnocent68]

Yes, but, and it’s a pretty big caveat, ‘being friends’ means the guy values the relationship enough to not do anything stupid to lose it. However, you cannot overcome biology. I have an attractive and generous SO. I'm also grateful to have some genuine, friends who are girls. I can say nothing would ever happen between us, but I won’t lie and say I don’t find some of them sexually attractive. Neither I nor they can change that. The best I can do is constantly remind myself how incredible my SO is, and not create awkward situations. For example, I wouldn’t think twice about taking a friend for lunch, but I would be more cautious about going drinking with her, and would never go back to her place.

[Anonymous]

Yes you can absolutely be friends.
I think.
My best friend is on/off when it comes to me. I've declined sex, nude pics, and all kinds of shit from her time after time, and she'll go have casual sex with someone to get over it.
I literally won't do anything with her besides sit beside her or give her a hug. I am 0% attracted to her.
I should mention years ago we were a fling for a few days and I was the first to break it off.
It's been a toxic friendship with a lot of fun times just gaming or watching TV together, but every time she starts asking if I'm interested in her I have to tell her no, and she starts to pout.
She's moving soon, and I'm trying to figure out how I'll spend my time without my best buddy.

[Anonymous]

Yes. But what you need to understand is men can find thier female friends attractive (as female friends can find thier male friends attractive). And if you send any signal no matter how vague that show interest in elevating the friendship then that switches gears in the guys mind.

You might be a little socially retarded when it comes to guys and need to work on that. You probably sent him conflicting signals and now he's holding your friendship for ransom, so to speak.

This no different then what a lot of women do. You see it all the time. They let you know indirectly, "feed me ego or I will ignore you. You're only good to me if you're feeding my ego".

[Asker]

The ego or the narcissistic fuel

[ohsheeT]

It kind of sounded like he thought you guys were more of an item than was really happening

And any kind of got butt hurt that you weren't around anymore

Maybe what he should have done is ask you what type of relationship you guys are in or where it wasn't.

But I think there was a much better way than he could handle it
And if you want to be friends with him still then just say hello and let it start again

[Asker]

Yeah to me it seemed like he rlly felt abandoned or something im not sure, I've tried to be okay with him but he seems too hurt and far gone for me to even get him to open up, he isn't telling me whats wrong exactly

[ohsheeT]

There are some guys the moment they start talking with you and if you start communicating for a few days or a week I think they almost feel as if you both have a thing going and if you were to go out with another guy he's going to feel as if you stepped out on him even though there is nothing really going on I think the best thing to do is just be yourself and if he wants to come back into your life let him make that choice and go for it I mean you can't read his mind and be a babysitter all at the same time I don't really mean to say it like that but it's true

[Asker]

Thank you, yeah i tried my best its up to him if he wants to talk again, and he did get hurt and thought ”i would leave him” anytime i mentioned another guy in my life, not sure if its a territorial thing but i did assume he has feelings for me since i was the only woman in his life he trusted his emotions with which is such a big deal in my opinion

[midnightmoon05]

You should tell him to go get a girlfriend so he is not clingy to you. If you are his true friend.
that way…you two can double date. His new girlfriend can become your friend. He should also become your boyfriends friend. That’s what mature people do.

[Hobbert]

Yes.

I guess some men can't be friends with women without wanting to have sex with them.

To me, I treat lady friends as how I would treat men. Talk rubbish, laugh and joke together.

But like others said, We don't really approach a women and ask if they want to be friends. No men does that. Would be even weirder if I approached a man and asked if he wanted to be friends 😂

So yea, mutual friends, parties, work or someone at a bar that you started talking to.

[litty]

Some guys like to think they are “wasting time” or in their mind “friendzoned” and they’d rather not be friends to get out of it. The guy sounds really needed.


A lot of guys aren’t looking for a relationship, but the ones that do + are socially awkward tend to overthink things like your buddy

[Guido]

It can happen but it's rare. I was friends witha woman for years and then we were both single at the same time and we started dating and now married. Together now 30 years.

Friendship is the basis for a great relationship. Your friend probably figured it was time to move on as there did not seem like there would be any opportunity to move beyond friendship.

[Asker]

Yes it felt like that from the converstaion like he was frustated it wasn't getting more intimate than that

[Guido]

Do you regret that you didn't give him a chance if the friendship was that good? I made a good choice, but at first, we were like, "This is either going to be great, or we are going to ruin a good friendship."

[Asker]

wouldn't say i regret but it would maybe work in another lifetime who knows but from how he reacted it doesn't look good from his usual calm, patient understanding demeanour

[baseballnerd24]

I honestly think it is harder and because of the fact that after a while I feel like most guys will develop a crush on a girl they are friends with. I honestly believe that men would honestly rather just hang out with me and women would rather just hang out with women, but as you get older I feel like you are expected to have mixed group friendships with a certain number of men and women in the friend group.

[Billlewis]

Oh, of course. That's actually a big part of my social life, because to me, there's nothing more beautiful than telling a woman, 'I know I won't be getting any pussy, but I just want to please you'.

[desidoll]

Yes, if they don’t find us attractive 😑 but then most of them won’t really try to befriend with unattractive women at the first place.

[Aiko_E_Lara]

You haven't met most men in the world. You're only cherry picking on those who do that

[TruthBeTold77]

Sure if they are gay or they don't think you're attractive and just see you as "one of the guys" or if you've known eachother from kids and grown up together. I think. 🤷

[SexyBrunetteNY]

Most guys will admit that they can't stay friends with a woman or wouldn't have sex with her if she gave him the chance. That said, when a man doesn't desire the woman, maybe the can be pals.

[BeetleBro2000]

Of course. I can be just friends with most people who are friendly. Not all, but most.

[Sonorous]

Yeah, but I'm a different breed though. I've even been friends with girls I didn't find attractive.

[zagor]

Yes. I've had a number of female friends over the years, some of whom I would have liked to be more, others who I wasn't interested in in that way.

I think it was easier to be friends with girls I wasn't attracted to, though.

[Anonymous]

No just no
To be "friends" , guys are more compatible with guys and girls with girls
So if a guy is with a girl, it's something else other unless they are siblings

[patrick994]

In my opinion yes, but only in exceptional cases, for example if she is very ugly or if she is already engaged to someone else.

[Kaamraj]

Yes bit only if there's no sexual feelings for the girl. If there is then you are in the friend zone and she knows it very well.

[AviatorTom]

Guys and girls can just be friends, acknowledging that the guy will almost always wonder what the girl is like in bed.

[ohmyguy]

Yes but be prepare to loose repeatedly realise its you that buckles buckles to. any firm principles n she is omnnipotant being a ghost. See her that la de da you have a friend. enjoy

[Nikki1989]

Most of my friends are guys, so they must be able to do it.

[exitseven]

Yes, I had a few female friends. One was really my best friend for a while.

[Asker]

If u ever have rlly deep friendship

[exitseven]

This girl was the one person that I really trusted. We did everything together and we were always there for each other. Sometimes I wanted it to be more and sometimes she did too but we never wanted it at the same time. She went away for grad s hool and I never saw her again

[serious]

Yes pure friendship is certainly possible. Yes guys can also be just friends with girl.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes. I also kind of dislike the common phrase "just friends." Most of my friends have had my back since middle school or earlier.

[Twalli]

You CAN be, but a lot if guys see friends as a precursor to a relationship. I won't date anyone who isn't a friend first, but I don't pick my female friends based on attractiveness.

[Raaj4you]

I might be attracted to her and I want to date her. But if she wants only friendship then I will accept her only friendship. I will not force any girl to date me. I will find another girl.

[OddBeMe]

Yes. Will sexual unnatural thoughts spring into my head about her? Sure. Probably. Most likely whilst masturbating. But I can compartmentalize like a good boy.

[tzdc21]

Very rarely can that be the case, but 8/10 times, no

[Sparkie460]

Yes I can and I am friends with 3 women. I'm even married. My wife has met them and she knows that we're just friends.

[dolemite58]

whenever a girl says she has a guy friend, im always like that means he wants to have sex with her but she’s not interested in him. Men and women are acquaintances not friends 😂

[MysticDevice]

Yup. I have several girl friends. It works just fine.

[grega239]

Not me. I have no interest in being friends with women because it ends up with her thinking im her personal therapist/utility service

[Aiko_E_Lara]

If I'm not attracted to her, sure. Why do you think loveless relationship or relationships not working happen?

[Anonymous]

Guys in the comments are delusional. No guy can be "just friends" if he's any way attracted to her.

[Lokiion]

Yeah my bestfriends a girl however they usually people I’m not attracted to

[Anonymous]

It's definitely possible. I have some really great female friends. But yeah it is true that many guys would at least think about dating or sleeping with their female friends at some point of time.

[TheWinterMan]

Yeah, if it goes no where further than friendship, move on.

[Asker]

This is what i mean

[TheWinterMan]

Sure be friends with her but find someone else.

[Anonymous]

Yes, but a lot of men can't. The guys commenting that men can't be freinds with a girl are the ones who can't be freinds with a girl.

[Chthou95]

Ill never understand why some men out there want female friends. Pointless

[HappyWoman34]

It sounds like he’s got feelings for you.

[A_Bell]

I've had many guy friends. Still do.

[Jpisme]

In 95% of the cases no

[DaBiggestBird]

It is possible of course

[Unit1]

Yes.

Next Question!

[Staximus]

Yeah, I am just friends with a few women.

[Jamie05rhs]

No; not if I'm attracted to her.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

If I'm not attracted to her them yes.

[BLP11520]

Yes I have and have had many good female friends

[Ava1993]

Sure if their lgbt community I believe.

[Jmmmfi4]

ABSOLUTELY NOT

[DreamLife7]

Grow up

[Asker]

K/y/s

[dudeinohio]

Nope

[Nifrayu]

Of course.

[Anonymous]

They can't be lol

[LunarEclipse433]

Yes they can