Recently bumped into someone I used to talk to in 2018. He’s 37 and I’m 25 now. I believe he’s married. Would it be inappropriate to ask him …?

[Anonymous]

Would it be inappropriate to ask him if he thinks I’m pretty?

[Luckycharms12]

What the hell is wrong with you can show pic here guys will tell you. not ask some lad that's married image if his wife or partner seen that message. Could end his marriage or relationship.

[Asker]

He’s the one that messages me and looks for me 😂😂😂

[Luckycharms12]

Block him don't need the drama

[Asker]

Maybe he just wants a friend? 🤷🏻‍♀️ All he dies is send me videos of him singing and playing his musical instruments, selfies of him doing his day to day activities or him at work and he just asks about me.

[Luckycharms12]

We both know that BS

[Asker]

👀😂😂😂😂😭

[Luckycharms12]

You are 25 if he is having mid life crisis that's his issue not yours loads single cute lads

[Asker]

I agree with you. I’m going to keep my distance.

[spartan55]

Sure, after you ask him if he's married. Don't be gross.

[strawberrybaby3]

What kind of stupid question is this? Are you that insecure about yourself that you’d have to ask a man you think is married if he thinks you’re pretty?

[Asker]

😂😂😂😂😂

[Asker]

So…it’s inappropriate?

[strawberrybaby3]

It’s inappropriate and disrespectful to yourself and the wife.

[Asker]

Okay…so, I need you to help me understand something. He was the first to reach out to me and tell me we talked. I don’t remember anything but he remembers everything we talked about…even the smallest details. He sends me videos of him singing and playing the guitar. He asks me about my interests and hobbies now. Is his behavior towards me appropriate?

[strawberrybaby3]

Why would you even entertain a married man though? No, him reaching out to a woman he use to speak to while he’s married is not appropriate but what makes it appropriate for you to keep entertaining him, then consider asking him if he thinks you’re pretty?

[Asker]

I honestly don’t know…I don’t remember him at all but I’d be lying if I told you he isn’t handsome. Yet again, he’s married…yes, in our culture he can have four wives but still…he’s married. I’m just trying to decode his behavior to help me understand if his behavior is strictly friendship and if I’m the one that’s being inappropriate.

[strawberrybaby3]

If all he’s doing is sending you videos of singing and playing guitar, it would be you that is crossing the line by asking him that question

[Asker]

That’s true. I guess I just asked because aside from the videos he sends me selfies of his day to day activities…in one of the selfies, I replied and toid him “you’re handsome”. I was feeling bad about it but he kept sending more videos as if nothing happened.

[Anonymous]

If you find him attractive and would like some no-strings-attached sex, this sounds like a strong lead!

[Opinion Owner]

So are you going to go for it, QA?

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes. That constitutes flirting with a married man.