Why does my married male coworker act this way and how can I make my situation less awkward at work?

[Anonymous]

I’m trying to understand the intentions of my coworker (30 M married). He leaves me drawings of hearts and smiles on papers that I will see. He gives me random compliments. He always looks happy to see me and doesn’t miss a chance to say hi to me. Also, he gets awkwardly quiet around me. When I need help, he’s eager to help. He’s also very chivalrous. I find him looking at me a lot and frequently we lock eyes with each other without saying a word. He likes to wave and smile at me too.

All of this attention has caused me to become nervous around him. I’m strongly attracted to him too. It’s like there’s a strong unspoken connection between us.

I have to work nearby him and sometimes it’s just the two of us at the end of the day and in these moments we rarely speak to each other. When I do speak with him, it’s like my mind goes blank and I get lost in his eyes and my words come out too quietly. How do I make this feel less awkward at work?

[Anonymous]

Sounds like you need to set some boundaries. It could be an actual conversation where you explain that nothing's going to happen. Or you could mention the weekend trip with your boyfriend, which might cool him down.

[Akam93]

Considering he's married I wouldn't go far with him.

[Asker]

Yes, I’ve been trying to keep it professional.

[Avicenna]

Sounds like he wants to cheat with you

[In_Trance]

Ask his wife; she'll know how

[boobliker]

report him to HR