Is living other girls photos in bikini a red flag?

[Lilibet]

What you guys think if a man that you are in relationship likes other girls pictures, specifically pictures in bikini, butt pictures etc. do you consider it like a some sort of a cheating? Is this means he likes her and I should be worry about it?

[Wise4myage]

Its not cheating, but he needs to know if you don't like it.

[Lilibet]

But if I will talk to him about it then I could look like a creep for checking that anyway

[Wise4myage]

No, you won't look like a creep.

[Anonymous]

I don’t think it’s cheating but I think it’s incredibly disrespectful and tasteless.

[Lilibet]

That’s exactly how I feel. Not sure how I should confront him cuz if I tell him he does that, I would look like creep for checking that

[Opinion Owner]

You could just say that the photo popped up on your for you page and you saw that he liked it, maybe? If it were me I would definitely bring it up.

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s not cheating. Just means he sees something with his eyes

[Lilibet]

I get it that he sees it, but does he need to show everyone that this is what he likes

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s the part you dislike. You feel like he’s disrespecting you by liking them for others to see

[Lilibet]

Yeah, that’s exactly how I feel, and I don’t know if I’m just jealous and I’m in the wrong, or this is just really disrespectful

[BarryLiverstone]

It’s online. It’s a bit of both. But is it a big deal? Do you worry how it makes you look to others online?

[Lilibet]

Bothers me more that he’s showing publicly that he’s attracted to someone else, makes me feel like he likes their body more than mine and maybe if she would text him he would go for it cuz he already made a first move

[BarryLiverstone]

Well ya if he’s literally liking a pic of someone he’s around during the week then that’s one thing. Do you feel like he sees you as attractive? Have you been cheated on before

[Lilibet]

I think he does, but still freaking bothers me, on the other hand I know that guys do that, scrolling down on ig etc and you see the pictures and just give a like, and I get it maybe there is no deeper meaning than just “ she’s good looking but that’s it “ cuz obviously they are always gonna be someone more attractive than ourselves, but feels like betrayal
And yes, my ex cheated on me but he was a narcissist

[BarryLiverstone]

Tbh I’d just ignore the fact that he’s randomly liking pics online. You could ask him to look and not like if you explain others can see that activity. But these girls are not likely to dm him, right?

[Lilibet]

I don’t know that, cuz they are not models, I wouldn’t mind models tbh, but they follow each other on ig so seems like they know each other

[BarryLiverstone]

So here is some truth you likely know. Girls tend to post those pics for attention and will follow bank guys who like them. The guys follow them in the moment. But it’s less than 1% any cheating happens.

If they are not models why would he see them over giving you attention?

[Lilibet]

Cuz he might find them more attractive, you know I feel kinda stupid that I even check that, but is just feels like no one nowadays can just be honest and 100% respectful

[BarryLiverstone]

People can be honest and respectful. But that’s earned

[Lilibet]

Yeah maybe but shouldn’t we respect people that we are spending time with in general, than just waiting for them to earn that

[BarryLiverstone]

That’s not an easy answer. Yes some respect is expected but if you haven’t communicated to him why his actions feel disrespectful then how could you expect him to act correctly?

[Lilibet]

Very true

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you

[In_Trance]

stay off social media before you fuck everything up

[Lilibet]

Yeah, it does seem like social media destroys many good relationships tbh

[Anonymous]

It's means you're not sexually attractive to him