What’s wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

My husband of 14 1/2 years won’t sleep with me. He claims to have no drive. My hygiene is impeccable so I know that’s not the issue. If I beg, he performs quite well. But he NEVER initiates. He watches anime all the time when he isn’t working. We’re both older and heavier, he more than I. But I take good care of my hygine and I am working hard to be healthier. He doesn’t seem to care about being healthy. We don’t discuss that. I have to beg him to even spend time with us as a family. He would rather watch his anime. He’s 40 and has been like this since smart phones became a thing. Is it me? If so, what’s wrong with me?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Now I noticed since I lost little over 100lbs my sex drive got higher, but I still got to reach my goal I want to at least get down to 180-200 range and my height is like 5"9"-5"10". I got low T and doctors can't figure out why things are like that for me.

[ChicoFromThe305]

Sounds to me like he's addicted to hentai, always watching anime, it's kinda hard to believe he doesn't watch anime porn.

[Asker]

I believe the same. So… what should I do.

[Asker]

Yeahhhh…

[ChicoFromThe305]

Confront him about it, ask him why has the sexual intimacy between y'all diminish and make sure to mention that it's effecting your happiness and see how he responds, the longer you act like it's not noticeable the longer he will continue doing it "unnoticed" confrontation puts people in a vulnerable spot where they either speak the truth or lie and even if they lie, there's always a certain change because they mentally know the other is aware of something, the change I expect here is that even if he does still try to continue with his porn addiction, he will know you are aware of the lack of sexual intimacy and that it's effecting you a certain way and he will probably try to give you something.

[Asker]

I have spoken to him about it. This is when he said he just has no drive. Am I a fool for staying?

[ChicoFromThe305]

Not a fool cause I'm sure you care about him but I do think that before you do decide to leave, try putting in the effort to convince him to put the effort in as Well, if there's no change then he can't say you didn't fight for the relationship.

[Anonymous]

His hormones’s probably all wacky bcs of his weight. It’s pretty selfish of him to choose anime over spending time with his family, I mean he’s 40 and not a teen anymore… Talk to him about it, ask about his anime maybe that’ll get him talking and excited

[Anonymous]

He is 40 and would rather watch cartoons?

You need a man and not this immature child.

[DaySpring]

Stop judging people because your sh*t smells too. You ain't God.

[Avicenna]

Well, if he's very overweight, that could affect his sex drive

[Asker]

He’s nearly 300lbs

[Asker]

6 ft tall

[Avicenna]

Yeah, that's going to have an effect on his sex drive and his overall energy levels.

[Asker]

Thanks

[AmeerX]

Hate to say it to you but don't you get it? You are fat and you are not attractive to him anymore. Don't worry you will get over it

[jahaims]

Get his hormones checked

[Anonymous]

Speak to him