What’s wrong with me?

[Anonymous]

• When we’re alone together everything is perfect I’m all he sees. When he’s away at work or wherever it’s like I’m dead , no text no calls nothing but says he wants to marry me that he loves me that there is no one else when we argue it’s very extreme physically and verbally. He tells me he hates me that he wishes ib would die, wreck my car and break my neck he really punched me in my face for asking what i did wrong what’s wrong with me?

[TommyMountainFigure]

All I can see that is wrong with you is your inability to choose the right guy for you.

Yes, you can make excuses for him by saying things can be great, but wrapped up in all that greatness is a monster who abuses you and then ignores you... !!!

[Asker]

I wish it was as simple as just leaving my situation dint allow it unless I want my son and I to be in a shelter which suits probably change my life but I don't want my baby remembering that maybe an excuse but my love for my son can't do that he got me fired took the job I was about to be promoted to and not only that the firm he cheated on me with is wiring at my store

[TommyMountainFigure]

I assure you whilst your son may not understand now, if you leave? In time he will. and he will never forgive him for the way he has treated his mum, but if you stay? Your son will think the way you are being treated by him is not only acceptable but the likelihood is your son will go on to treat other women the same when he is older. So you are not doing him any favours by staying. You really aren't.

[wise5]

Sounds like an abusive relationship. This is a serious case of it's not you it's him. If I were you I'd have left when the argument got physical. The verbal bits could have been words spoken in anger in the heat of the moment, but heed those red flags well.

But if you take anything away from what has been said here it should be this, get out of that relationship. Don't give him any warning just pack up and leave. He lost any chance to make up the moment the argument got physical.

[Asker]

Thank you so much and in wish I could just go

[Sketti2021]

Nothing is wrong with you. He's got issues and you need to leave him asap

[Asker]

Thank you for your comment I really am stuck my circumstances are not normal in any way just learning is not an option for me

[karaspara]

He's the problem and you need to get out of there

[Asker]

In wish I cud

[Wise4myage]

Id say you suffer from low self esteem and you need to find it and dump this guy before he seriously hurts you.

[Asker]

I didn't use to be insecure but after he got through with me but literally dint even look in the mirror b anymore in hate b the person b who I dunt know that's looking back