My boyfriend talks down to me like im a child when he buys me things and makes me feel ungrateful like I can’t buy it myself when I can, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

I’m 18 & he’s 25, we’ve been together 1yr n a half and we have a 4 month old babygirl (don’t judge me) But he makes me feel so small and like a brat when he goes off on me in public after he’s offered to buy me something he then snaps at me and says I don’t know the value of money and I’m an ungrateful brat when I could’ve but it myself but he offered. I have always been grateful and never thought twice on spending my last £10 on him as I do buy him things too and treat him but it makes me happy knowing he’s happy with what I’ve bought him; why doesn’t he feel the same about it?

[DaySpring]

It's okay to be grateful and still want better.

If I were you I would do an exercise that will change your relationship like you cannot imagine.

Here is the exercise: Create a joint vision for the relationship. What does this mean?
It means a blueprint in which to live by and progressively strive to.

Now note what I'm about to say next because it is of urgency that I say this. If you do NOT create one, your relationship will have 2 unconscious visions that battle for supremacy. You have an unconscious vision and so does he. Much of it is being driven subconsciously or by the way you feel. If you released the right bio chemicals in your body when he treats you this way then you'd like it. I'm getting side tracked though.

All relationships that fail do so because of a lack of a joint vision or lacking the discipline to stay in harmony with that vision. Now you know the vision part. I'm not going to get into the discipline part because I think you just want to resolve your 1 problem.

[DaySpring]

Don't do what @mansearching told you. He literally is suggesting what I told you people do who do not have a joint vision. It's a losing blueprint. People are not perfect you both have to learn to grow together but in an orderly fashion. Real commitment is when both parties are willing to change and grow for the betterment of the relationship.

From what I read you have not tried that yet. Sit down and talk to your man. Do it with love. Don't be toxic because you will just activate hostile subconscious activity in him. All the wrong bio chemicals and such will be activated. Do it with love. If he still doesn't want to change then you have a decision to make but still don't treat him bad. Don't go to that level. Love yourself enough to not attract any more negativity into your life. Treating others wrongly always attracts negativity.

[Mansearching]

When he offers tell him no. Buy it yourself.

Talking down to you is a whole other subject. Don't take it. Go right back at him. If it gets to much, leave him. It won't get better unless you defend yourself. But not, leave him and get child support. It'll be hard going to school, job and raising a child. But you can do it.

[jahaims]

He only got with you because you were young and easy to manipulate. He is a narcissist more than likely.

[Iron_Man]

You better discuss everything every detail with him right away

[In_Trance]

Talk to him about it