What is your opinion on friends with benefits?

Question

I had a guy who was my bestie at high school, and then after that we stopped communication or talking for like 15 years now , He added me through a mutual friend on facebook and he saw me and my pictures and how much I have grown and become beautiful and sexy... etc, he is out of the country and he is coming by the end of the week, and asked me to meet , to catch up ( reunion) after 15 years, problem is he clearly asked me to sleep with him just for sex plain sex, and he can't stop thinking about doing stuff with me, I told him no and I don't want to do that but he keeps nagging every day, and I don't know what to do, I have been single for a while now almost a year and I actually do miss having sex but yet I didn't think of doing it with my school friend, like we used to have an innocent relation ship

strawberrybaby3 · Accepted Answer

If he is nagging you for sex and you’ve told him no, I would say this is somebody you should stay away from. Sex is something that should happen naturally, where BOTH people are comfortable and consent to it.

As for my opinion on friends with benefits - as long as you understand that this is not a relationship and that you are simply friends who have sex with each other, and you’re both being honest about your intentions and feelings, there’s nothing wrong with this. But the problem is that rarely both people are ever honest about just wanting to be friends, and there’s always one person hoping it will become more and that sex will change the other person’s mind. One person will always end up being hurt.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

If you became “hot and sexy” by your 30’s.  I’m 100% sure you can find other hot and sexy dudes. Why the hell you want to give it to some “friend zoned” school friend. Who by the way. Don’t look “all that”. Probably looks mediocre, Probably looks average or beneath average. And to top it all off. He’s thirsty. So basically an entitled, thirsty, gross fuck.  Tell him exactly this. All of this I said. Tell him. Tell him “  YOU LOOK FUCKING DISGUSTING  🫵” 🤣🤣🤣 oh well. Someone gotta sit him down. You become a hottie and now all of the sudden he wants to talk to you after 15 years? He gotta go. Don’t even meet up with him. Block. Delete.

RingOfFire · Accepted Answer

By your age you should know the answer to this.

Should you have sex with someone you're not interested in having a romantic relationship with? No.

Should you have sex with some weirdo you haven't had any contact with in 15 years who is begging you for sex like some horny dog and won't take no for an answer? No.

Should you even stay in contact with some weirdo you haven't seen in 15 years who is begging you for sex like some horny dog and won't take no for an answer? No.

What happens after you reach three strikes?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

It sounds like he just wants to have sex with you and nothing more , you are best to block him and not meet up with him period , He is clearly just thinking with his Dick , so if you want to be used that’s up to you , if you don’t want to be used then block his ass

coachTanthony · Answer

Love me a friend whose got some benefits lol

Anonymous · Answer

WHY are you even entertaining this loser?

Most women - and men - if approached by a high school classmate 15+ years later after NO contact asking -- well demanding -- sex would tell classmate to GET LOST.

Do you have such little self esteem / self respect that you'd keep in contact with someone who simply wants sex and who you told no to instead of blocking them?

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As for friends with benefits this is something a LOT of people get WRONG.

The key is you are FRIENDS first. Doesn't mean have to be literal friends but you KNOW them beyond being a fucking stranger you've not seen in almost 2 decades.

That's why it's called FRIENDS with benefits --- not strangers with benefits, not weirdos with benefits, not just met with benefits which are really flings, one night stands, etc.

Anemone978 · Answer

He clearly does not want to date you.. Does he even live in your city? You haven't seen him in 15 years.. So why would you sleep with him?
I get you are horny but I am sure you could find someone better, don't do it..

chrissykerdock · Answer

having a friends with benefits allows you to keep your skills intact if not improving them so when you meet a man you can pleasure him with up to date styles... other than that there's not a lot of good... i mean they're not your boyfriend they're not going to marry you necessarily.

abbyjgriffin98 · Answer

If you do not want to do it then don't do it. If you want casual sex, then fine. Go for it. Just be protected. Just know that all you'll be getting from him is casual sex. Not a romantic relationship and not even a friendship because friends don't pressure their friends into doing something they are uncomfortable with.

glennos89 · Answer

I don't think anyone of us can help you out with your dillema to be honest. Thrust your inner voice and let it guide you. Your gut instinct will tell you what's the right choice to make, don't let the brains overthink the whole situation because the brains only make things complicater then it needs to be

Paul09 · Answer

Well I'm the opposite, I always dreamed of having sex with someone I use to know from high school. Kinda of a fetish. But this guy nagging for it, doesn't deserve it. He sounds very selfish, and mostly like not even good in bed. You are right not to want it. Your choice to do it when you want to. Nothing wrong with a friends with benefits. Probably can be better than I night stands. Better to do with someone you can trust. I can't believe he bags for it, so disrespectful and desperate.

Anonymous · Answer

I don't think it can truly work when you put actual friendship there. The good formula is more like a casual hookup or something. Only works if both people are on the same page and not too close but close enough emotionally. From what I observed it always either end up the right way that people don't like which is just getting bored with it at some point and say bye or messy feelings on one side. You have to be a truly confident and independant person to do this.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

He's trying to take advantage of you for selfish reasons. Don't do it!

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Having an friends with benefits that works out well seems to be something of a rarity, but I'm sure it's a lot of fun when you do find someone who can handle it.

Pohjolan · Answer

If you want to have non-committed free sex then go for it. But remove your  single  status from dating apps and don't come here later whining that the fuckboy you chose to mate with is a fuckboy.

ShesRad80 · Answer

to each their own in life, but i do not partake in those kinds of relationships.

nastyb · Answer

this is the reason why there are so many single moms. Understand that if you do accidently get pregnant, you will spend the next 20 years raising his baby. He can get off scott free

Adaeva · Answer

It is in their nature to fuck most anyone they can find so you can't blame the man, for having sex with trailer trash.

AviatorTom · Answer

friends with benefits relationships work for some people and not for others. It's really up to you if you want to just have sex, nothing more. You won't be judged, one way of the other.

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

In the words of one wise space admiral: "It's a trap!"

Nifrayu · Answer

I have no issue with it. I've never had one, but I would be open to it.

NeverGiveUp69 · Answer

They are great. I only have 5 atm, but the complicated shit is pretty rare. I have had a lot of friends with benefits and only a few got complicated

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Women can’t have sex without catching feelings because they need a reason to do it  men will fuck anything for any reason.

Light_beam · Answer

You should keep it inside your pants, Can't you? Being so horny doesn't mean fuckung anyone.. Have some self respect if you even can !

Anonymous · Answer

It’s probably fine without actual physical sex. Just friends being insanely open about taking about such things, and perhaps also sharing photos. Real sex should only be in marriage, though.

SolitarySolace · Answer

It’s stupid. It’s just a relationship without the commitment

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Should have friends with benefits relationship because you both want it. Not because of nagging

lorenzomichael · Answer

Fuck it why not? Just don't fall in love. Get it while the getting is good.

boobliker · Answer

I love it in my younger days, good sex and no ties

Anonymous · Answer

That's what 99 percent of non immigrant "relationships" are in the U. S. anyway now, so it's the norm... for them.

Anonymous · Answer

You're 35 years old with no self respect stop being a hoe

Twalli · Answer

It's essentially a relationship that people don't want to call it one.

Jerre · Answer

They are good friend and we all enjoy fucking

Anonymous · Answer

It's the best type of relationship there is.

LiamJHayden · Answer

Not interested.

Anonymous · Answer

Easy sex. No strings attached. Good thing abortions legal.

Masterodd · Answer

I don't know... I've never had one or two.

LostA__Aryen18 · Answer

It can work depending on the situation

jahaims · Answer

It's for people that don't deal with trauma.

Anonymous · Answer

I value myself more than that 🤷‍♀️

KrakenAttackin · Answer

Only a hoe has a fuck buddy.

dolemite58 · Answer

it’s fun until the girl catches feelings

robocop666 · Answer

anything to get laid is a god idea.

Hotboy_booblover · Answer

I would love to have one

QuietRunner · Answer

I enjoy it quite a bit

sheikalana · Answer

Damaging.

love_conquers_lust · Answer

Dicey.

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