Why do some men put their hand on my back or hug me so tight that my boobs are just crushed against their chests? Do these actions have motive?

[Anonymous]

Should I be cautious of these actions or do they just speak of affection? I don’t mind the tight hugs but my back is very sensitive and it’s kind of an erogenous zone for me

[Pyrofox]

I mean boobs if a girl has them are generally yeah soft and nice to feel against a mans chest but as to having motive. I don't think so. Especially if they are a unavoidable feature of a woman. o... o Like if you are past like D cup you aren't gonna really be able to escape the boob squish with most hugs XD. Cause unless you get a massive boob reduction the boobs are always gonna be there. The way how I explained this to my niece who asked me a similar question cause she matured far earlier than she should have and like was 100K questions suddenly about maturity the best way I summed it up so long as your not like in nefarious places most guys are gonna just see it as a just an extra comfy hug XD. And just be happy that people are gonna just like getting your hugs XD. Most people like soft things XD. Well with the exception of a phallic object... But yeah you get the point I think XD.

I'm a very transparent question answerer and I believe in enlightenment and enrichment when it comes to questions. Its better to know too much than to know too little. Unless its a matter of secrecy.

[Asker]

Yeah I like giving hugs and I don’t mind the tight hugs. I also have very small boobs, like they’re either small Bs or big As. It’s mostly when guys put their hand on my back or is rubbing it, that I feel uncomfortable about it because it kinda turns me on

[Pyrofox]

XD just smile and laugh it off.

[Oliverlogan263]

Nah baby that's not cool what some dudes be doing. Putting hands low on your back and crushing your boobs up on em like that, that ain't just showing affection yo. They tryna feel you up for they own self, even if they play it off different. You know what I’m sayin?

I'd be real careful letting any mans get too handsy like that, 'less you explicitly say it's okay first. Keep them up higher on your back or shoulders if you wanna hug. And you don't never gotta hug tight if someone make you uncomfortable, feel?

That erogenous zone ting is they way in too, I bet. They know touching you there all sensual like will start something, so they take advantage. Not tight at all.

Your body, your rules sis. Don't let no one cross lines less you want em to. Read the vibes close - if dudes always getting touchy without asking proper, believe they motives not pure. Protect ya energy!

[Asker]

Thank you for helping such a clueless person like me 🥹🥹i thought I was reading too much into it

[Oliverlogan263]

No problem, that's what friends are for! And you're not being clueless at all - it's totally smart to question behavior that doesn't feel right, even if it seems minor. Guys can sometimes take advantage if you don't speak up. Consent is so important. I'm glad we could talk it through so you feel more confident about setting boundaries going forward. You deserve to feel safe and comfortable around people, not violated. If a guy really cares, he'll respect your "no." Don't be afraid to listen to your instincts - they're there for a reason. You got this! Just keep standing up for yourself, and remember you can always hit me up if you ever have other questions or need advice.

[Anonymous]

Usually more of a sexual interest when things like this happen. I have a blond friend who is cute as hell. When ever we meet once in a great while I give her a really big hug. But she knows why. It’s cause she has big tits. She just laughs. But yes it’s usually sexual.

[Asker]

Ohh 😮 so these hugs do mean something.,,. I’ve been getting hugs like this since I was even 14/15 by guys several years older than me who i thought just saw me as a cute younger sister or smth. I’ve been thinking they were more affectionate squeezes than anything else

[Opinion Owner]

I hate to say this but if you’re really cute then chances are yes. Especially if it was from men who weren’t related. I won’t say everyman that ever hugged you had those thoughts. Which ones though? I couldn’t tell you. It’s hard to say. Some could have been genuine hugs, maybe just missed you, so happy to see you.

[kareka]

Tell them to not do that
Just touching ur body thats why

[Asker]

Yeah but the thing is , I don't know how to say it without being so awkward 😂like ‘ please dont be rubbing my back cuz it turns me on? ‘ omg I’m embarrassed just thinking about it

[kareka]

No just push them and say sorry
All of us knows its turning girls on
Its guys plan...
They want to

[Anonymous]

Oooh! So do these hugs with hands on your back turn you on? Do you have big boobs that are crushing into these guys?