I don't trust anymore 😕?

[Anonymous]

After a friend hurt me badly playing mind games , ghosting me , and dragging me in a 3rd party situation, I've become guarded and don't want anyone close to me, not even him.. this guy has been stalking my social media pages. He's with someone new, and he's watching my content.. it's gotten to the point where I had to stop doing content because he's there always watching...

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Any advice is greatly appericated, I don't know if he created pages to stalk and troll my account..

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I never dated this guy. Met him in a social media group along with other friends. Just saw him as a friends and he played mind games too advantage of our friendship. I'll never date again and haven't in 12 years.. I can tell he's stalking my page by my view watch.. idc he's dating someone else.. he was talking to someone else when we were talking about my content I did. Due to this , I'm uncomfortable doing content on YouTube and TikTok

[exjunkie72]

... i can not imagine how you feel but i wish you find a way out. pls... i am not better... or lets say worster as your friend did to you looking back.. and i regret i til today what i ddi to this... wonderfull girl... sometimes.. lile me i felt she also ghosted me for no reason... and trust me... i have to learn... that sometimes people... and i didn't have the coruage to at least ask like you do here. no i was the man pathetic crying after she left me and took drugs make her feeling bad. liek it was.. love what a bad joke.. but I CAN TELL YOU CONCLUSION... AND I HOPE IT WORKS FOR YOU BETTER AND IT WILL YOU HAVE MORE COURAGE AND THATS WHAT I ALREADY ADMIRE... YOU WILL HAVE TO DEAL WITH IT... AND WITH TIME IS NORMAL FOR ALL HUMAN BEINGS TO PROTECT THEM FROM THE PAIN SOMEBODY DID TO YOU OR I DID TO HER.. AND AFTER SO PATHETIC SHOW MY REAL FACE.. TO LEARN THAT I CAN ONLY DO ONE THING IN LIFE.. TO LEARN. .. TRY TO LISTEN TO YOUR INSTICTS.. AND STILL I WOUDL TAKE THAT WHOLE BAD TIME AS SOMETHING IN LIFE WHICH WILL SHOW WHY SUCH BITTER MOMENTS ARE ALSO THE REASON... WHEN YOU FIND YOURSELF FIRST WITH YOURSEL... SELFCONFIDETN... THEN YOU WIL ALSO FIND THE NEXT PERSON YOU TRUST... HEY YOU MADE A AMAZING MOVE TO WRITE THAT HERE.. I didn't HAVE FOR THAT THE SRY BALLS.. LADY... WE CAN HOWEVER IN LIFE ADAVANDE IF YOU WANT... BUT NEVER ALONE. ASK FOR PROFESSIONAL HELP.. OR... MAYBE A GROUP.. WHATEVER... AT END... WE ALL ARE HUMAN BEINGS. AND FACT IS WE ARE SOCIAL... I DONT THINK NOBODY WISH TO BECOME A OLD BITTER MAN OR WOMEN..

GOOD LUCK

SRY FOR MY HORRIBLE English

[Asker]

Not butter just want this guy to move on.. he played mind games, ghosted me , and drug me in a 3 party situation... we were simply friends.. I have moved on and trying to heal , but don't want anything to do with him or any relationships with men... I don't get close to men.. due to him doing all this had to shut down my YouTube and TikTok channels and there he is there watching my content as I can see who views me... I wish him well moving forward, but I'm going on with my life or trying too

[Asker]

We were simply friends but he had to play mind games

[Asker]

Bitter ^

[Anonymous]

chicks take their online persona so seriously i wonder if you ghosted them on twitter if theyd become a ghost irl
asker are you there? helloo hejlooo
can you walk through walls now?
i bet you have a great sinister cackle.

ah ok you wanted advice... well not using social media would be out of the question of course. Then you'd disappear altogether.

i know its my go to solution to everything but why not visit him late one night and cut his throat.
Then take a selfie with him and turn it into a fun meme when you get home.
you'll probably get 100s of new followers

[Asker]

You sound like an idiot and inces you men are complete trash and emotionally stupid this post proved that

[Opinion Owner]

so thats a no to my advice?

[Asker]

I wasn't dating this guy we were friends not anymore

[spartan55]

So, if he ghosts then he shouldn't be allowed to view your content? What kind of logic is that? Just block him... and no one is stalkng you when you post publicly...🙄

[Asker]

Wtf is he watching me for? I wish I could block him.. he's probably created multiple pages and my pages is now private

[Asker]

Not public

[spartan55]

Because he can? Why does it matter? Just move on. You never even met the dude.

[Asker]

I have moved on why hasn't he?

[Asker]

I moved on weeks ago

[Asker]

He's with someone he shouldn't be stalking my page.. it's creepy now

[Asker]

He played mind games and strung me along..

[spartan55]

How do you play mind games and string you along when you never met and never dated?

[spartan55]

Yeah, clearly you've moved on as evidenced by this post... You still don't seem to understand what stalking is. He's not creepy either.

[Asker]

Because we talked online I swear to God you men are stupid 🙄 just stop talking to me seriously.. this is just who you men are just stupid as hell

[spartan55]

Excuse me? You're right, EVERYONE else is the problem, not you.

[spartan55]

Yeah we are stupid, you don't even know wtf stalking means.

[Asker]

Weirdo who tf ghosts someone and then watches their social media pages just lurking ,. a creep

[Asker]

Yes you are stupid @Spartan55

[spartan55]

@asker
Says the pink anon who doesn't know how to block someone. You are the last person who should be calling anyone stupid.

[Asker]

I'm anonymous because I can

[spartan55]

That's great, and sounds helpful.

[Asker]

0 lack. of intelligence..

[spartan55]

You sure talk about lack of intelligence a lot.

[Asker]

Yep yep

[Willlovewinintheend]

First, he's not stalking you because you're posting it on a public platform. Second, you're just upset he found someone new and making things up in your head because he doesn't want you.

[Asker]

He's stalking my page this dude ghosted me and started stalking my pages- idc that he's found someone new never dated this guy just want him to move on and leave me alone...

[Asker]

Been single 12 years the best thing was walking away and I don't date men either !

[Asker]

I'm making things up but can see him stalking my page despite he ghosted me - you sound like trash

[Willlovewinintheend]

Again, he's not stalking if it's publicly available. And this guy is not hacking your because he ghosted and doesn't care you. And if your page is private why would you add him and give him access to your page? Doesn't make any sense.

He didn't break any laws, so no he's not stalking you. You sound paranoid.

[Asker]

He ghosted me so why is he watching my content? He was talking to another female while talking to me and I didn't care.. i treated him like a friend.. now a former friend.. idc what he has to say or who he's with..

[Jdodkfndosn]

Not to discredit your worries but is it possible you're associating other people's similar post or comments with him

[Asker]

No most of these guys are toxic af posting lack of intelligence

[tfan1]

Block him and report him if necessary Even to the police. Stalking of any kind I would think is illegal.

[Asker]

Agreed

[spartan55]

Except he isn't stalking her.

[Asker]

He is stalking me.. just lurking on my page after he ghosted me...

[Asker]

He ghosted me - he went no contact.. now he's stalking my social media pages.. why?

[Asker]

I'll probably have to delete both social media pages

[Asker]

I can block him on tiktok , but youtube no @tfan1

[tfan1]

Contact YouTube and tell them the situation - they should listen 👍🙂

[Asker]

Thanks

[tfan1]

You’re very welcome and good luck 👍🙂

[Asker]

Welcome 💕

[jahaims]

You just need to be wiser about who you trust. Not trusting anyone just creates problems and you will end up bitter and lonely.

[Asker]

Not bitter or lonely.. ita not even about trust we were friends not anymore as I have moved on.. I didn't date this guy.. met him a social media group

[Asker]

Along with other friends I tslk too

[Asker]

Talk too

[jahaims]

It's not even about trust, but that was your headline question?

[Asker]

I've been single 12 years by choice and not interested in dating men

[Asker]

It is were friends due to his behavior and mind games.. I no longer trust him

[jahaims]

Not even remotely relevant to what I said.

[Asker]

I don't know what part you don't get

[spartan55]

@asker
You aren't getting any of it, so yeah...

[Asker]

I get it he needs to get it and move on to to his 3rd party.. I'm not asking for clarity or closure.. seen this multiple times with mrn and these mind games

[Asker]

Men -- I don't have expectations with men anymore nor expect anything.. due to his behavior why we're no longer friends

[Asker]

Him stalking me was the initial question and the lack of trust even as friends.. furthering proving why men and women can't be friends

[Asker]

That's what I come to the conclusion too

[Danny_dan92]

Just disconnect from the dude

[Asker]

I am disconnected. Did you read the post.. there is no communication between us...

[Danny_dan92]

Then you’re good

[Asker]

I have no closure or clarity and atp idc to get it...

[Danny_dan92]

Ok then what’s the problem?

[Asker]

I asked about the stalking he's doing

[Danny_dan92]

Block button

[Asker]

What is blocking 🚫 going to do he probably has back up pages to stalk me on social media with

[Danny_dan92]

Depending on the app, Instagram for example will give you the option to block a person and any potential accounts. That blocks their IP address

[Danny_dan92]

I’ve had to block the same individual over and over before. It’s annoying but it’s doable

[Asker]

I'm not on IG only youtube and tiktok

[Danny_dan92]

First of all tik tok, is tik shit.

Youtube? You’re kinda fucked I think lol

[Asker]

Not really, just delete and start over

[Danny_dan92]

There you go, you get it

[Asker]

I think it's time to stay away from men collectively what it sounds like

[Danny_dan92]

Fuck it, just kill all of us. You’ll be happier then

[Asker]

No not kill any of you maybe avoid many of you

[Danny_dan92]

It’ll be easier if we’re all gone. You won’t be walking on egg shells

[Asker]

No, I will keep my distance.. it's safer and better

[Danny_dan92]

That’s a tactical decision

[Asker]

It's a decision I made 12 years ago.. it's not changing

[Danny_dan92]

Holy smokes

[Asker]

No choice atp

[Anonymous]

Doesn't sound to bad.

[Asker]

Doesn't sound bad - trust issues now you probably go around hurting women?

[Opinion Owner]

Well it's official! You're a really bad judge of character.

[Asker]

Nope I never dated this guy and never will

[Asker]

You sound like no empathy or concern

[Opinion Owner]

No. I just don't have empathy for fools that make thier own bed. This guy became this way overnight? No. He was always this guy. You didn't pay close enough attention to the signs. And at 30-35 you really should no better by now. Which means you're a very S-l-o-w learner. I do wish you well. Because I know a woman like you is your own worst enemy.

[Asker]

We were friends - never dated this guy ! Never slept with him. and never met him. simply friends in a group.. he switched up months after we started talking.. note to self stop being friends with men.. I already don't date you guys and being friends isn't an option either

[Asker]

If I knew he was gonna do all this wouldn't even talked to him fr the start... he won't have the access the 2nd time that's for sure