So supposedly I wasn’t in the same mood as I’m always in today coming from closer friend coworker of mine ( maybe I just wasn’t so up beat as usual)?

[Anonymous]

So one of my closer colleagues/friend calls me after work and we start talking and she mentions a few coworkers where asking about me, as in what’s wrong with Diana today, I personally dont think anything specific was wrong maybe I just wasn’t all upbeat but not like I brought my mood on coworkers supposedly they believe something is not normal with me today so they tried asking my closer associate/friend…question is why do they (care so much) if anything was up with me even let’s say why does “me” bother them so much bc like I said I didn’t bring it on to others my mood so that shouldn't bother them but why go ask my friend instead of me personally if that’s the case

[provokeesmokee]

The office at large probably thinks your friendly coworker is going to bother you least. It's kind of socially normal to let the person with the best rapport interact with someone if they seem down.

Especially if it's the first time you've had a down day at work, it's probably coming from a genuine place of concern/curiosity.

No need to freak out.

[Asker]

You they really are concerned about me or just being nosy

[provokeesmokee]

Could be both. I like to operate from an assumption of good will, first. It becomes clear if there's bad intentions, and you can raise your defenses then.

But you risk alienating yourself if you're paranoid.

[CupcakeTheDestroyer]

It’s called having “resting sad face” happens to me when I’m tired. People assume you’re sad when you might not be.

[Asker]

But you think they really care I doubt it

[Asker]

Why they trying to ask behind my back

[236color]

Your friend knows you better. She's more likely to know if something is up with you. This is a good thing. People are concerned about your well being. Remember that if you are or become depressed. People care about you. You matter to others.

[Asker]

You really think they are or just being nosy

[236color]

People just being nosy, don't care about why your mood changed. They may care about who said something about you, spreading nasty rumors, inappropriate judgments about your sex life, that kind of thing. "Hey, are you okay? Seems like your mood has changed." is not something nosy people give a shit about.