How come the only way to get any man’s affection and attention is to show him my body?

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SueShe · Accepted Answer

You will never get affection by showing your body. What you will get for sure is a reputation.

You have to earn the affection and that takes time. Affection can be linked with love while showing your body makes you look cheap, devoid of dignity and self respect.

If you think that by fornicating with people thwy will give you affection, then you are on the wrong track.

MissBoogus · Accepted Answer

Well I’m not sure what experiences you’ve had but that’s not true

genericname85 · Accepted Answer

cause men make sure to have a girl they are physically into before investing emotions. cause you know knowing if you like someone physically is very quick and simple. knowing if you like someone personally takes a lot of time. so why would you do the step that takes more time first? men are just efficient.

JHAYES317 · Accepted Answer

You’re clearly dating some very toxic guys if that’s the case. Personally, spending quality time, words of affirmation, physical touch, etc would all work on me, I don’t need to see a woman naked to want to be affectionate. Maybe he has some resentment towards you though so maybe try couples counseling?

Jdodkfndosn · Answer

Because y'all at odds with what you want and what you have to give to get it. He wants sex and wants to give as little affection as possible. You want affection while having to provide as little amount of sex as possible.

MosynMen and women desire different things

loveslongnails · Answer

Don't mistake attention for affection - they're not the same thing. The simple answer is that most men in your age range aren't interested in much else besides your body. I said most, not all, but best of luck finding the ones who are interested more in you, the person, at your age.

Juxtapose · Answer

Well let's cut through all the bullshit and social norms.

Men primarily date women because they can sexually gratify them unlike friends. They want you to be like a best friend who gives them amazing orgasms everyday and you form a special bond because of your physical closeness.

Nirmroth · Answer

I could ask the same to girls. Why is it that I rarely get any messages of "I didn't feel a spark/connection" anymore since I started to initiate kissing/ making out on the first to second date?

Miristheiss · Answer

That's a dark hole you are heading down. If you fall for that lie enjoy the misery that is coming your way.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Most men are simple creatures and not interested in quality conversation.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Good chemistry is a rare thing. You've got the energy you're giving off, the energy he gives off, and then the way you each respond.

BourbonAndBacon · Answer

You might need to work on your personality if showing your body is the only way to get a man's attention.

Pyrofox · Answer

It depends on the type of men you strive to attract.

jshm2 · Answer

That's called "grooming" kiddo. You should steer clear of that.

stratford · Answer

Perhaps you are trying to get the attention of the type of guys that are vain and just look at women as sex objects.

Nifrayu · Answer

It's not. My attention is attained with a display of intelligence, competence, confidence or humor.

DaBiggestBird · Answer

That’s not really affection I would say, it’s just… attention. Yeah

jahaims · Answer

You either don't have anything else to offer or those are the kind of men you are finding.

shortster · Answer

You could get mine without doing that. You just need to spend time with me.

Anonymous · Answer

If the only way you can get his attention is taking off your clothes, you are either not very interesting or he is a selfish person or both.

RealMarek · Answer

You’re finding the wrong men.

RedInnocent68 · Answer

We’re very visual and touch is our love language.

Anonymous · Answer

It is not, but it is the easiest.

Anonymous · Answer

Maybe cause you lack a personality.

Snakeyes7 · Answer

It's not the only way.

Anonymous · Answer

😆😆😆 because you have nothing else.

Anonymous · Answer

Stop dating low quality men.

In_Trance · Answer

It's not

Anonymous · Answer

Not true

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