What should I do to get the guy back?

[yaoooo]

We had a great time before. But I did something wrong and he is not replying to me now. What should I do to get him back?

[Anonymous]

You need to learn how to accept when things don’t work out, regardless of the reason. I’m not sure what you did wrong but I’m willing to bet you are being harder on yourself about it than you should. If it really was that bad and he doesn’t want to deal with you because of it, then accept his decision, learn from this and try not to make the mistake again. You’re feeling like you’re missing out on a great opportunity because you aren’t finding anyone better.

[yaoooo]

Thank you for the advice. I tried not to contact him or bother him anymore. I just wondered whether he would come back to me because he is really really good. What I did before was send him a bunch of messages and call him, and he felt that I gave him too much pressure.

[Nifrayu]

Give him space. If you try to force contact with him, it will just push him further away.

[yaoooo]

Normally how long? I waited for three weeks. After that still no response.

[Nifrayu]

In that case... I know this is difficult to accept, but he might not be interested in reconciling with you. You may have to accept that you won't get him back. I know you don't want to hear that. I've been there. I know how much that can hurt.

[yaoooo]

Thank you for telling this! I totally understand. He told me he needed some of his own space. And he said I gave him too much pressure. I totally got that now. But I just feel regrettable because we talked very well before. And we both like music a lot, even the same singer, same song, same demo. And we sang the song together, which really had the moment getting connected. And he is a writer, I really like his work.