Girls, how would you feel if a guy buys you a drink and thats it? He has no expectations after?

[Still-alive]

This question made me wonder: How do you feel about men that offer having drinks as a date?

imagine you are at a restaurant or bar and a guy walks up to buy you whatever drink you want. then after says ‘you’re welcome. Have a great night.’ Then walks away.

basically showing you he's got no expectations. He just wanted to buy you a drink… maybe just because he finds you attractive but thats it.

how would you feel about that?

And just to be clear im not really a bar person nor have i ever really bought women drinks before lol. not really my thing. I just wanted to see your opinions if this happened hypothetically speaking.

Impressed

Confused

Id think its some kind of mind game he's playing

Id think ‘wow he’s actually nice’

Appreciative of the kind gesture

I wouldn’t care much

Different feeling

Updates

6 mo

Try to imagine the drink was made right in front of you and no drugs were added to it too. So no foul play

[meetkitty123]

First I would only accept the drink if it was served to me direct from the bartender and second If he was a stranger I would then thank him sincerely With a smile on my face. If he seemed appealing to me It would be an inviting big smile sweet expressive smile and I'd be flirtatious; using my eyes. However It would be up to him if he would like to sit and talk... I don't chase men... If they want me they need to come to me... And if I'm interested I will respond and eventually seek them out in a balanced manner...

Now if I already knew the man and I was very interested I would give him a nod to come forth while giving him my flirtatious glance and smile.

[Ms_Facesitter]

That's great and all but how will we know for sure?
Unless I know you already, I don't think I'll know for sure.

[Still-alive]

I guess you don't. but all you know is he didn't bother you anymore after buying you the drink.

[Ms_Facesitter]

True, but I would always decline the offer :(

[Still-alive]

Fair enough.

it really sucks that you girls can't trust guys buying you drinks anymore because of their shenanigans. i feel for y'all.

i just stick to playing video games. bar scene ain't for me lol

[Ms_Facesitter]

Or they are nice about it, or they think you owe them something because they bought you a drink, or they're creeps who spike your drink. Not worth the risk.

[IslaTheWitch]

I can buy a drink myself. If he wants to pay for it, it's nice but not expected or required.

[Still-alive]

But would you think anything of it if he doesn't try to talk to you or ask you out after? he just walks away?

[IslaTheWitch]

It would be strange but also mysterious :D

But I would ensure he didn't add anything to that drink before drinking it.

[Still-alive]

ok and once it passes the 'cool he didn't drug me' test? lol what would you think then?

[IslaTheWitch]

What can I think? If he buys a drink and leaves, it means there is nothing to think about, right? If he wanted to make an impression, he would make the smallest move, like saying something, leaving a note, whatever.

But I'm not the guessing person. If I don't know and can't ask (he already left) I wouldn't spend much time dwelling on it.

[Still-alive]

alright interesting

[IslaTheWitch]

I like your questions :D

[Still-alive]

lol thanks. i try to make them different from the usual :P

[provokeesmokee]

I appreciate it but unless it's made in front of me, I'm suspecting a roofie and he has a backup man waiting to strong-arm me into their car.

[Still-alive]

Ok what if its made in front of you?

[provokeesmokee]

I'd appreciate it and drink it.

If I cross paths again, I might chat with him if he's not busy. Maybe return the favour with a drink of my own to him.

[Sour-rose]

Greaaaat... not really a drinker but a free drink on them would be nice. Unless I'm driving, uh-uh. I'm a responsible bitch.

[Still-alive]

If it was me i'd order you a chocolate milk lol

[Sour-rose]

Omg youuuu... that's... not a bad idea but... yooouuu.

[Simslover92]

I had this happen to me before and it felt honestly great to have a guy buy me a drink and no expectations attached.

[LazerBean]

I'd be very suspicious and wouldn't bother getting the drink. My dad was very clear that he thought it unwise to trust bar-type men and gifts from strange men.

[thegreenyogi]

I'd be flattered. If I like him I'll accept the drink for what it is. Just a drink.

[Still-alive]

Would you do anything else? or just take the drink and then nothing?

[thegreenyogi]

I'd take the drink and enjoy it. Then it's up to that guy as to whether he wants more. If so he better let me know. I'll consider it and walk out of the bar.

[Still-alive]

Yeah its just, if you read the question i linked a lot of women dislike being bought a drink by guys because it usually comes with expectations or even entitlement to something else... usually a date or sex or both. so with him simply buying you a drink and walking away should somewhat indicate he has no expectations whatsoever.

What do you think?

[thegreenyogi]

I guess you have a point. I'm not typically that woman you'd find in a bar. In fact it's for this reason that I avoid certain places because I am aware that there are expectations. And i guess if the woman in question doesn't want to give anything more she shouldn't accept the drink in the first place.

[Still-alive]

So if it were you and he bought you the drink you're expecting at least for him to chat with you? or maybe asking you out?

[thegreenyogi]

Chat with me is the bare minimum I'd expect.

[Still-alive]

Alright cool thanks!

[thegreenyogi]

Welcome!!

[DeeDeeDeVour]

Voted for poll option #5: "Hey! Thanks for the drink and the conversation! T'was nice meeting you!"

[Apple1996]

Nah I wouldn't like that. I'd think he was trying to take advantage of me. Possibly slip a date rape drug in the drink

[menina]

I would feel confused and I would wonder if he wasn't playing games. But yes, it would be nice.

[RavenQuill]

No strings attached is unfortunately uncommon. I'd be confused, but touched.