Should I text a guy to say that I really enjoyed the sex, in order to encourage him to reach out/let him know I'm not mad at him for ghosting me?

[Bethany22]

I know that some men can disappear for a little while, only to want to spring back to the girl again, but wind up not doing so, because he worries that she will respond resentfully, so instead he just moves on. So what if I text him in a friendly way to admit that I really enjoyed the sex we had together (as I acted like I didn't in the moment). Would that be too pushy/reduce me to a slut? Should I text about having enjoyed something platonic we did together instead?

[RealMarek]

Don’t say “I really enjoyed the sex…” Instead, if you want, say “I enjoyed the time we spent together and miss you.” If he is ghosting you it won’t make a difference but it won’t hurt to try either.

[DB1973]

I would agree. You need a different connection then sex and confirmation to him that your opinion of him is not completely based on that one moment in time.

[worldscolide]

My friend, if he ghosted you, he disrespected you. He got what he wanted, the sex. Your best move here is to block him and move on.

[Bethany22]

Thank you for your advice 👍 will do

[NathanDavis]

to what end though?

if you reach to him and make it about the sex... chances are that he might only come back for that and nothing else

also... if you first acted like you didn't care for it, then reach to him and say how much you enjoyed all of it... those would be extreme mixed signals, which most people feel very wary about (or the should, anyway)

so, what is it really that you would like to accomplish or to pursue with this guy in particular?

[Anonymous]

Yes go for it let him know this slut is open for more! It's just sex no relationship so what does it matter how he views you!

It's just sex and sounds like it was kinda okay sex. Reach out and talk naughty get this attention

You will be on your back in no time

[spartan55]

This is great advice! 👍

[OfMiceandMen]

Maybe not start with the sex part, but nothing wrong with saying you enjoyed your time together. If get together again and are getting intimate, then I am sure he would appreciate knowing the sex was good last time.

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

I would think a generalized message or phone call, noting that you enjoyed your time together, might be the best option. It really depends on how you want to portray yourself.

[yakumo]

I wouldn't mention the sex explicitly. Just tell him you'd like to see him again. Ask him to a date, something that the two of you like. That may lead to sex afterwards or not. If you mention only the sex that may be the only thing that he comes back for. I assume you are looking for more than that though.

[AviatorTom]

What changed? You didn't like the sex then, why would you say you liked it now? He probably won't believe you, thinking that you're desperate looking for a guy to fuck you.

[Benjiman19]

Say something about both the time you enjoyed before sex and what you enjoyed during sex. He'll most likely respond back to you as soon as he can.

[RavVid]

Since you have had sex with him I don't think you should be concerned at reaching out in that way.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sure! Why not? I'm pretty sure he'd be thrilled to hear it, unless he's an asshole.

[Billlewis]

How long has it been since you had sex with him?

[MiddleAgedClimbee]

Perfect question. Time plays a factor in attraction and desire.

[Bethany22]

@MiddleAgedClimbee @Billlewis 4 months ago. Does that mean that my attraction is sincere?

[Billlewis]

And you haven't spoken to him since then? Let me think about this for a moment... I may also message you, if that's alright.

[Billlewis]

Please follow me, so we can discuss this further. Thanks

[DB1973]

4 Months…If you kept his number that long you had something you didn't want to let go…But he has moved on, unless he is a bed hopper or finds it difficult to secure women…. Why would you want a bed hopper?

[Nifrayu]

There's nothing wrong with that. No garentee he will respond to it though.

[Anonymous]

What's the point? He's made it pretty clear that you meant nothing to him

[BoopBoopBeep]

Yeah maybe you can form a friends with benefits situation

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah, you could let him know.

[RedInnocent68]

No. In those circumstances it will look desperate and frighten him more…

[shortster]

That is likely to get you into a friends with benefits situation and not a real relationship.

[Mike87479]

Lol no I don’t think that’s a good idea.

[LazerBean]

No, acting desperate is never a good idea.

[exitseven]

Yes, I am sure he would love to hear from you.

[notfoundtoday]

Do you want to have sex with him again?