Would the text that I sent to my man be a good text for a guy to receive?

[Anonymous]

Let me preface with my man, and I were in the same town then it turned long distance. I have not received a text from my boyfriend for an entire month. I texted my man on the daily. Sending how are you’s to check on him, prayerful good mornings, and nights, videos of me cooking, trying on clothes. All of this just for my man, only to get no response from him. I truly wanted to know that my man was okay. Thus I called on the phone, and he ain’t answer. So last week Sunday I called him again from a different number. He answered the phone. I asked how he is doing. He said he was doing good. Then he asked who is this, once I said it’s sweet pea he hung up the telephone.

Now today my brother in-law just asked me “how is your friend is doing?”. I was unsure if my brother in-law was asking after my boyfriend, or one of my girl friends. Once I knew he meant boyfriend, I responded “he is doing good.”

However, I be feeling awful for saying that as my man has not told me how he is doing. That is since he hung up the phone a week ago. I often be getting quite uneasy talking with my brother in-law about things as he is noisy. Thus I always desire to be straightforward, and honest with my man when others ask about him. I felt awful not knowing how my man is doing. I asked him a couple times this last week, and received no reply. I thought I will text him immediately about the conversation, and ask how he is. Seeing as I would love to know whether, or not he is still doing good.

Guys would this text below that I just sent to my man be a good text you would want to receive?

“Baby, My brother in-law just asked me “how is your friend is doing?”. I was unsure if my brother in-law was asking about you my boyfriend, or one of my girl friends. I responded he is doing good. Though, I felt awful for saying that. Quite honestly I did not know what to say about how you are doing. I have no clue how you are doing.

How are you doing baby?”

Updates

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Just to clarify my boyfriend, and I long distance is due to his being away for work sometimes. I should not have prefaced my question the way I did. I am genuinely concerned when my boyfriend goes quiet. Although, I am understanding of his work schedule, and his life happenings (I ain’t feel I should mention here). Which the reasons I am understanding of his quietness.

Just wondering if my family be asking about my boyfriend. Should I tell him they are asking, and is what I text a good text?

[Flower7]

You have been ghosted. He is not your boyfriend anymore. Do not contact him again, from any phone number. If you continue, he will probably block you soon.

[Asker]

Thank you for your input I appreciate it. I am not understanding what ghost have to do with this tho. Only called him once from my phone, and once from google voice. I hardly ever call since he requested I not tie up his lines for work. If he ain’t wanna be my boyfriend why would he send texts like these just before going quiet.
“Hey Princess”
“ I'm truly blessed to have you babe. I've been ok”
“ I miss you too baby. I miss you so much”
“ lol of course my love. How are you feeling?”
“ I love you more I sent you something“

[Flower7]

Those are just words, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

This has to be trolling…. Girl that relationship is over and you’re being so blatantly oblivious and naive.

[Asker]

I do not know what you mean by trolling. My question is legitimate. I am wanting to know if I texted my man the right thing. A month ago all seemed well he was texting back, and forth with me. Then silence.

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry but are you like desperate or something? Why would you ever claim someone as your man when you haven’t spoken in over a month and he’s ignored every attempt you’ve made at communicating? He moved away and left you behind girl, it’s time to accept what is and move on. This is humiliating.

[Asker]

I apologize if anything I have said seemed as though, I am desperate. I had no intention of it seeming that way. I ain’t tryna claim him as my man. He is the one who asked me to be his girlfriend. I said yes, and we have been together ever since. He just goes away for work, hence why I said long distance.

[Opinion Owner]

Going away for work is one thing, but there is no good excuse to ignore you or not to maintain contact for a month and you know that. My boyfriend travels for a living for weeks at a time, but we do not go a day without checking in at least once. That’s how a relationship should be, with you as a priority in his life. You can’t tell me he works nonstop 24/7, he absolutely takes breaks to eat, piss and sleep. He can spare a second while he’s on the toilet to check in, or while he’s cooking or ordering his food, or even before bed. This is not a good man to reserve yourself for when there are so many other options of men who would never do this.

[Asker]

Thank you so much I appreciate you saying all that. It really gave me something to think about.

[_Andromeda_]

Respectfully, I don't think he wants to be your man. He might have you blocked.

[Asker]

A month ago all was well he was texting back, and forth with me. However, today when my brother in law was getting noisy. I said my boyfriend was good, as that is what he told me on the phone. Though, the conversation with my brother in-law was getting weird. I do not like talking with my brother in law as he be strange. Thus I wanted my man to be aware that my brother in-law is getting noisy, tryna talk to me about weird stuff. Was just wondering if the text I sent my man is a good text a guy would want to get.

[Anonymous]

You should’ve kept it simple

[Asker]

Kept simple, yes, i should have what I said was too much. Was just tryna tell him about my brother in-law asking. I want him to be aware that my family knows about him.

[Opinion Owner]

Ok……

[Asker]

Do you
Think it is odd for me to want my boyfriend to know that my family his asking about him.

[Opinion Owner]

No its fine

[Asker]

Okay thanks

[Opinion Owner]

You bet

[spartan55]

Honey, you don't have a boyfriend.

[Asker]

I do not understand he is the one who asked me to be his girlfriend. If he ain’t wanna be my boyfriend why would he send texts like these just before going quiet.
“Hey Princess”
“ I'm truly blessed to have you babe. I've been ok”
“ I miss you too baby. I miss you so much”
“ lol of course my love. How are you feeling?”
“ I love you more I sent you something“

[spartan55]

That was in the past. He doesn't talk to you, doesn't contact you. He hung up on you ffs! He is done with you.

[Asker]

Thank you

[Anonymous]

Is this a joke, trolling, or what?

[Asker]

This is not a joke, or trolling whatever that is I do not know. I am asking a legitimate question about whether it is a good text I sent to tell my boyfriend my family is asking about him.