Why leave someone on delivered and not on seen?

[Anonymous]

Guy left me on delivered lol after 4 days i’m still on delivered. I don't know if he’s planning on replying to me?

[HollyK21]

Maybe he’s just not that into you, and I think that was an outcome to prepare yourself for before messaging him. You reached out because you found him interesting, but just because he’s chatted with you doesn’t mean he mutually wants to pursue something, on my end it sounds like kindness, maybe even some boredom. Don’t take that the wrong way.
Think about it like this, you’re at a place in your life where you want to date and can prioritize both a man and a relationship, but he may not be on the same page. There could be a woman (or women) he’s already dealing with, busy with work/life, or flat out disinterested in pursuing you. The fact it’s been 3 days with no response is a hint that you should take.

[Asker]

What if he later responds to me? Should I reply to him?

[HollyK21]

You can if you want but I wouldn’t lead into a another question or to keep the conversation going. The guy isn’t dumb, he knows that you sliding in his dm means you aren’t just trying to make a friend or chit chat. You are showing interest and he isn’t acting on it, I think that is purposefully done.

[HollyK21]

**try to keep

[Asker]

Why did he at first continue our conversation and asked me where I live and what I do?

[HollyK21]

Honestly I think that’s just him being polite, as I said initially this sounds like kindness, maybe even some boredom. Did you consider this before you reached out? Like you didn’t have that moment in your mind where it’s you think “this guy may not like me back ultimately, he might have other shit happening in his life or just not interested in dating right now”?

[HollyK21]

I’m sure this is a bit disappointing but it’s really not a big deal. You tried, and that took a lot of confidence.

[Asker]

You’re right. It’s not a guy that I even invested any time but why not just leave me on seen lol

[Asker]

at least I would know that he’s definitely not going to reply

[HollyK21]

I take it as he doesn’t want to open it because then it looks rude not to respond, I do the same thing with Snapchats and texts (my read receipts are on so I just don’t open it). I think we’ve all done it with someone at some point.

[HollyK21]

You mentioned to boggboss that he’s in med school, I’m not sure if that is the culprit but it could definitely be a factor in why he isn’t looking to date right now.

[Asker]

I don't know but he’s almost done with the med school. Only year and couple months left

[HollyK21]

Love that for him

[HaleyCatgirl]

You know what this is probably the red flag about me. Getting left on read, it make me sad I grew up always getting picked on and getting told to shut the fuck up so when I do message someone and I'm having fun and that happens I feel like I'm just bugging them that hurts actually to put down. Oh well 😅

[hbkfan]

It happens I get left on delivered all the time and normally don't get a response for almost a week

[Asker]

In this case why do you think it happened? Today I seny him a link. He opened message in 10 minutes and liked the message

[spartan55]

Delivered, seen, read... all the ultimate slap in the face... 😂 😂

[boggboss]

Pretty much means the same thing no

[Asker]

I was texting back and forth with this guy on Wednesday evening. It was our first time chatting. Then I fell asleep during texting. Now he left me on delivered for 4 days. Is he mad at me?

I dm a guy him first because I found him interesting. He was asking questions about me like where I live and what I do.
then I fell asleep and his last he sent me 23:40

I then replied to him the next day 2pm. My reply wasn’t a question more like remark about what he said.

almost 4 days later I’m still on delivered. Did he get mad at me?

[boggboss]

Yes that's possible he did

[Asker]

How likely that is? And why would he get mad?

[boggboss]

Vary likely and as to why because he thought u starting ignoring him

[Asker]

Does that mean he likes me?

[Asker]

Why other wise get pressed..

[boggboss]

Impossible to guess if he liked u or was just intrested but that no longer matters as he is not responding

[Asker]

What should I do? I’m very much interested in him

[boggboss]

Not sure their is much u can do if he chooses not to respond

[Asker]

Other female poster things that he probably just isn’t into me? Do you agree?

[boggboss]

If he hasn't responded in 4 days that wpuld bow show little intrest

[Asker]

Even if my message was a remark to his last message and not a question?

[boggboss]

Thats impossible for me to know lol

[Asker]

Also he’s med student but still he’s actively viewed my stories. It’s so annoying

[Asker]

I today sent him a link and he opened my message in 10 minutes and liked the nessage.

[boggboss]

OK...

[Asker]

I don't know, is that a good thing?

[boggboss]

I guess

[Asker]

So he’s interested? Lol

[boggboss]

How are u jumping to conclusions like that all he did was like a link u posted

[Asker]

Ur right I was joking

[boggboss]

Fair enough

[Asker]

We’ll see if he’ll initiate bee conversation soon :/

[Anonymous]

Are you a mute?

[Asker]

What do you mean?