Girls, What makes a powerless man?

[Anonymous]

I got into an argument with a coworker of mine because she was spreading rumors.. I told her to grow up and keep my name out her mouth, she told her husband and the husband punked me out at the gym a couple days ago, she’s gonna tell everyone at work… I work with a few girls that I like, will they find me powerless after knowing I got punked out? I’m a male asking this by the way.

[wolfcat87]

This sounds like a strictly black thing. No one who isn't black really cares about being "punked out". The girls usually care more about how you react to the rumors than what she would say.

The person who told you to apologize was wrong. Don't apologize when you're right. It just enables and encourages bad behavior.

From your other comments, it seems like you need to work on your confidence and stop worrying about what others think. Start loving yourself.

[Asker]

Yes I am black lol, and thanks for your honesty

[Anonymous]

You have no choice but to apologize to the girl you got argument into. And treat her with respect and apologize again. Tell her to get her husband on good terms with you again and it will be fine. Nothing will happen if she doesn't forgive you or continues treating you poorly. Explain all that happened to your new girls that you like. The girl who loves you doesn't care about it and the fake girl will go away

[Opinion Owner]

A powerless man is a man who avoids taking accountability for his own wrong and makes a girl look bad

[Asker]

She ignored me when I try to apologize

[Asker]

Based off the story I gave, am I really the one that’s wrong?

[Opinion Owner]

You might or might not be wrong. But when you got into argument with her, you might have knowingly or unknowingly insulted her or she might felt insulted. Either way, you don't beg her to accept your apology but apologize respectfully at least once. If she isn't in a position to listen, text her with your sincere apology message or text her husband about the apology that you want to let her know. Then you can be at peace with them

[HaleyCatgirl]

9 mm hollow point but that's just default for everyone

[Asker]

What do you mean by this? Lol

[HaleyCatgirl]

I actually don't mean anything threatening I just mean in general 9 mm hollow point really do make people weak and Powerless 🤣

[laraWM]

That's terrible. What do you mean punk out? What happened, you were hurt?

[Asker]

No he put his hand on my shoulder and said if I ever disagree with his wife again he’ll fight me, I was scared because he’s much bigger than me

[laraWM]

Oh I see, it's a pretty weak behaviour from him

[Asker]

I just feel a little embarrassed when people at work find out.

[laraWM]

Find out what? That the guy is so worried he came and threatened you at the gym. He is the one to blame here

[Asker]

Find out I backed down and didn’t challenge him.

[laraWM]

He's crazy, you did the right thing

[Asker]

Think people are gonna see me as a weakling now.

[laraWM]

No I don't think so

[laraWM]

And also it's always good to avoid fighting

[Asker]

Hypothetically speaking, if we were at the gym together and you watched that happen to me wouldn’t you look at me as less of a man for the way I acted?

[laraWM]

I don't understand, you just let him talk? or something else happened?

[Asker]

I kept saying I didn’t know his wife even tho I did just to avoid possibly getting beat then he threatened me then walked off… I felt belittled

[laraWM]

No I wouldn't think less of you

[Asker]

I’m just bothered by it lol. This girl I work with is gonna hear about it and I feel she’ll think I’m some kind of whimp or something.

[laraWM]

To be honest, if I'd heard you arguing at the gym, I'd have come to see if everything was okay

[Asker]

That’s nice of you

[laraWM]

Thanks I try to be nice 🙂

[Asker]

Maybe I shouldn’t have said anything to his wife think telling her to grow up was taking it to far.

[laraWM]

Don't worry too much about it

[Asker]

Think I’m going to work on being more of a man istead of a whimp

[laraWM]

What would you have liked to do?

[Asker]

Just stand up for myself a little more

[Asker]

Instead of being scared just letting a man threaten me

[Asker]

Try to explain to him why she was wrong instead of being quiet

[laraWM]

I see, but sometimes you have to think about it afterwards

[Asker]

It probably would have made things worse, thanks for your honest input I do feel a little better now and not as embarrassed… appreciate you

[laraWM]

Thanks I'm glad it helps 🙂

[Asker]

Todays my first day going back to work ever since it happened, hoping I don’t get teased for it… I should be fine. I’m walking in with my head high

[laraWM]

Yes exactly

[Asker]

Was so bothered I created an account just to talk about this, and it helped me feel more confident with the decision I made… going to keep this account

[Ms_Facesitter]

A man who is incapable of accomplishing ANYTHING he sets his mind to.

[Asker]

Care to give an example?

[Ms_Facesitter]

Just think of literally Anything. If he can't accomplish Anything he wants to, he sucks.

[Asker]

Definitely a turn off? I haven’t accomplished much lately but yet again I keep failing at trying to reach my goal.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Do you Feel powerless?

[Asker]

At the moment yeah.

[Ms_Facesitter]

Giving up?

[Asker]

Yeah I just don’t feel I can’t be man enough for most woman hence the reason why I’m single and 30 years old, still a virgin.

[Asker]

From what you’ve read would you consider me a man?

[Ms_Facesitter]

If you have a dick, you're a man.

[Asker]

I’m even insecure about my dick, no one has ever seen it I’m still a virgin

[Asker]

And just the other day I got punked out in the gym by some big dude, I was scared… I told his wife to grow up because we had a disagreement and he punked me out… I felt powerless in that situation